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I really don't like getting presents in company. I'm an Autist and don't react as people would expect, so masking sets in which is very stressful.
My in-laws are the absolute worst with this. Everyone sits in a circle and opens gifts one at a time. Makes my anxiety spike just thinking about it.
I'm (probably) not an autist, but same all around. Hate watching people open my gifts as well because I feel like I'm pressuring them to act a certain way. Exchanging gifts is miserable.
Now take that discomfort and dial it up a few hundred percent, maybe throw some resulting body issues in there and being ill a week thereafter.
The point I am often trying to make is: the separate issues are sometimes easy to understand (and that's good) but the resulting issues are underestimated because of this.
Please do not take this as a aggression to your valid post, but I often feel this needs to be added.
Me sharing my discomfort was not intended to discount yours. But in the same vain, don't discount my feelings either.
Pretending to be happy sucks. (...the energy right out of me.)
Mimicking looking happy and grateful.
"Say cheese!"
"Why?"
"Because it makes you look like you're smiling."
"Oh..."
Yeah that's where the misunderstanding starts. Meta style!
Not every Autist is identical (or rather everyone is wildly different) . I mostly have no issues understanding things like that and I can be a master of sarcasm. However this makes it all the worse when it hits and flies over my head with random other stuff: but that was so obvious. Sigh.
Are there any holidays or celebratory rituals you do like?
Well it also has its advantages. People are on vacation and in general it's less busy so that's an advantage.
Anything where I can just be. There's no fixed time for that.
I hope you get some being time for yourself then!
Thanks!
The "less busy" thing varies by location.
Where I live easter is a real shit show. We're just over-run with people visiting from out of town. I always thought it would be a daft time to go visit the city or something but... turns out everyone has left the city to come visit my town.
Yes, of course. Munich is mostly always busy so I'm lucky (and also chose to and of course it would also be more expensive) not to live in the center.