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RUBs - This is a bullshit system to be added to your rent with. This is basically saying "on top of what you're paying to use, you're to pay what EVERYONE else in the building uses!" even if it's divided up. I get fucked over every winter for example, because I use electric heaters in my apartment and nothing gas-related. I'm still smacked with $48 ~ $62 of usage, despite that. This raises my rent up and makes it variable.

No-Bite Management - Management who lets nearly everything go, despite them trying to sound strict. You may be in a bit of a rivalry with a neighbor who likes slamming things or having loud music, obviously breaking lease agreement, who makes you wonder why they've gotten away with it as long as they have. You record, you report but management does next to nothing. They tell you to your face that the only way they can move forward, is a police report. Now that kind of thing should be reserved for more escalated and involved cases, not something management could deal with when they were the ones who made up the terms of the lease agreement.

Pets - From experience, people are AWFUL with their pets. Mostly dogs, I've never seen anything go wrong with cats, unless the owners don't care enough to let them run around until they're kidnapped or ran over. But dogs, they just let them go and go with the barking. Not to mention the dog shit on the ground they refuse to pick up.

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[–] northernlights@lemmy.today 46 points 14 hours ago (2 children)

Make sure that there’s a grocery in walking distance.

laughs in american πŸ˜…

[–] DagwoodIII@piefed.social 2 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Where do you live where there's a lot of action on a Saturday night and no food stores nearby?

[–] northernlights@lemmy.today 8 points 11 hours ago* (last edited 11 hours ago) (1 children)

a sleepy town in orange county, california. There's no action, one has to drive to get some activity. But the schools are really good and the environment is very safe, and it's within driving distance of 2 major job hubs (LA and Irvine).

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago) (1 children)

I live in Philly and schools were so "ghetto" :(

I got builled so much, so much Sinophobia for some reason...

I think the elementary and middle school were like 2/10 and the highschool was like 3/10

ugh

so... damn... miserable...

no idea how I survived that...

Oh wait I didn't really survived that, I got battle scars

some dipshit decided to fight me and I got arrested

Thank godΒΉ I have citizenship to shield me from potential deportation issues

ΒΉokay well not god lol, just a figure of speech, thanks mom for having citizenship so I automatically got it as a minor

I have a Chinese restaurant and bakery within like... 10-20 minute walking distance

A sort of mall area and a bunch of stores withing 15-25 minute walking distance

My mother got robbed once while carrying like red-envelopes worth of like $500 after Chinese news years... so yea there was that...

Feels kinda like wild west lol πŸ‘€

Chaotic af

I hear a bunch of "fireworks" in the middle of the night...

Yea I'll just pretend its fireworks, definitely not some dude that drove out of kensington and started doing a drive-by. 'Murica, baby!

Jesus christ, I have to move to a good neighborhood before ever having kids, cuz this shit is torture lol

I hated my mom for moving us to Philly. WTF

Brooklyn was FINE. WHYYY?!? School was 8/10 now dropped to ass 2/10

So much trauma... thanks mom

(Cuz NYC rent was so expensive and it kept rising like there was a $100 rise in rent by the time we were about to leave)

So yea... now in Philly, my parents own this house now... cuz housing is cheaper here, NYC, even Brooklyn was so expensive and impossibl to buy... so here, no rent to pay... but at what cost?

Well now I know what the back of the police car and the inside of a detention cell look like

yay

Fucking Sinophobes everywhere jesus christ

[–] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)
[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

???

I mean I finish K-12 by now if that's what you mean

But I'm still in Philly πŸ€·β€β™‚οΈ

[–] thermal_shock@lemmy.world 2 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

Sounded like you were rewording The Fresh Prince of Bel Aire song lmao.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 2 hours ago (1 children)

What lmao? no idea wtf that is but this is my actual life story

I mean I know sounds like a movie plot but like sadly this is irl

I feel like my life is scripted

Random "exciting" events randomly happen to make this "plot" interesting

Like oh hey you moved to America? Guess what? Trump 2.0 😭 (wtf, universe)

Also Covid made me so afraid of germs and "contamination"

I'm just rambling all the time

So it probably sounds so giberish

Like... when I comment, I just type words as if I'm talking to someone irl so I have a bunch half-sentences, cuz thats how I talk irl