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99% of the time the "gender neutral" term is masculine anyway, but even if it wasnt, using a "gender neutral" term when id obviously rather be called the equivalent feminine term is not that much better!

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[–] mickey@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago

"Dude is a gender neutral term!" "I call everyone dude!" Is such a real thing where I came up, and any pushback brings up this defensive response instead of a simple correction on terms. And that's just for calling women and girls dude, absent any kind of trans or NB identities.

Tangentially I've also heard a sheriff's deputy threaten to punch my friend for addressing him as dude, and I had a professor get red in the face when he was chewing me out unprofessionally and I said something like, "you've got to chill out dude." The older generations do not handle younger people's slang use well, then they turn around and act like you're being stuffy if you keep interactions formal and proper.