Vegetarian is fine, there is no flesh. Vegetarianism is typically a dietary restriction, rather than a philosophical one.

Vegan: it depends. Cultivating figs may be seen as expotation, like bee's honey is; regardless of the insect's actual life or wellbeing. Each individual person decides what counts as vegan.

I don't see the point in this level of specificity, because by eating anything at all you consume fungal spores, tiny mites, microbes etc. Plants are also alive. So there is clearly a line where life is permittably consumed.

If 'experiencing suffering' is that line, insects do not seem capable of it, only responding to basic stimuli. I once watched a one trying to eat its own partially severed head, turning it in its front legs while its mouth parts rapidly twitched. It evidently had no comprehension.

No because it's entirely voluntary on the wasps part