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this post contains slurs and mention of slurs, if you feel offended by them or fear to be triggered, please avoid this

The only people that i know that agreed to use them in dark humor or irony are either from my country, a similiar country to mine or straight up are the slurs victims, so i wonder...what do y'all think? If it's not a problem i'd like to know if you don't mind the use of slurs in a ironic way or dark humor context and where are you from and if you are one of the victim of the slur;

I want to underline that i mean only slurs in a IRONIC or DARK HUMOR context and not meant to harm.

Will i get banned?

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[–] poweruser 1 points 20 hours ago

From what I understand, the mere exposure to slurs reduces one's sensitivity to prejudice. That is to say, simply hearing a joke or story with a slur makes one more racist/homophobic/etc, at least for a brief time.

The effect was not observed with other explicit language; only slurs.

If that is the case, then it causes harm even in cases where, as you put it, it is "IRONIC or DARK HUMOR context and not meant to harm."

Personally, I am based in the United States and while I am not usually the subject of slurs, I generally do not prefer them, if for no other reason than to show support for others who are targeted.

Whether it is tolerated varies by instance and community. As a general rule I'd guess it depends on whether the moderator believes your intent is to cause harm. If it is intended to be harmless then it is likely permitted. However, such language would be perceived very poorly - that is how racists talk, after all.

I, for one, would likely down vote it. On Lemmy, many communities are trans safe spaces so those kinds of slurs are not tolerated and will very quickly lead to a ban. Any use of the N-word for pretty much any reason, other than, maybe, quoting rap lyrics, would result in a ban in almost any community of American culture