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(I'm just trying to learn. No hidden mockery in this and this is no gotcha bs aimed at t women. I'm NOT transphobic. Just saw this in a debate and wanted to know other people's thoughts)

I just want to know:

  1. Is this factually correct?
  2. If it is, does it matter? Why or why not?
  3. How would you logically respond to this?
  4. How does this statement not contradict with Trans Women are Women
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[–] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 33 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (4 children)

who cares

if someone asks to be called she/her/susan then just do it. it doesn't need to be so complicated

conservatives ranting about biology are attacking a straw man. nobody actually gives a shit

[–] moakley@lemmy.world 3 points 16 hours ago

It's just a matter of politeness. It's rude to call someone something they don't want to be called.

[–] agentshags@sh.itjust.works 2 points 16 hours ago
[–] NostraDavid@programming.dev 1 points 14 hours ago (1 children)

if someone asks to be called she/her/susan then just do it.

In my life I've only met one person who noted her pronouns, and none (including her) who ever asked for specific pronouns use. That's shit is such a weird Americanism. You're weird if you do that.

[–] nutsack@lemmy.dbzer0.com 2 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

normally you specify preferred pronouns on the internet or in documentation. in real life, most of the folks in my circles are making it as obvious as possible by communicating it through presentation, or by telling you their name.