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[-] felbane@lemmy.ml 64 points 9 months ago

See also pride of:

  • Nationality
  • Sexuality
  • Religion (generally indoctrinated rather than explicitly chosen)
  • Region (state/province/etc)
  • Hometown
  • Pre-university school (K-12 in US, for example - largely assigned by zoning and not by choice)
  • Natural physical attributes (tallness, eye color, breast/penis size)
  • Achievements of friends/family without your direct support
[-] noxy@yiffit.net 58 points 9 months ago
  • Sexuality

Nah. Queer pride is a good thing.

It's not pride as in "I am proud of this painting I made." Rather, it's pride as in "rejecting shame for being queer".

[-] rchive@lemm.ee 27 points 9 months ago

"Pride is not the opposite of shame, but it's source. True humility is the only antidote to shame." -Uncle Iroh

[-] mightyfoolish@lemmy.world 20 points 9 months ago

People really don't understand these slogans. For example, we can look at "Black Lives Matter." It was just a poetic way to say "black lives should matter." The problem with replying with "all lives matter" is that they don't all matter. (Especially in American society LGBT and Native tribes don't always do so well either.) Which is the problem in the first place. These people are denying the issues.

[-] CeruleanRuin@lemmings.world 5 points 9 months ago

Exactly. "Black Live Matter" is a statement of imperative, as in "look at these people you have been ignoring", while "All Lives Matter" is saying "there is no problem, everything is fine".

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[-] AdamHenry@discuss.tchncs.de 11 points 9 months ago

People have no idea how if feels for kids to be made to feel as they don't belong or that there is something wrong with them. It infuriates me that schools can't teach inclusivity due to terrorist groups like Moms for Liberty.

[-] Syrc@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

But why should rejecting shame automatically turn into pride? I’m not “proud” of every part of me that I’m not ashamed of.

Plus, it’s weird how the things are seen differently. “Queer pride” is usually seen as “sticking it to the homo/transphobes”, while someone saying they’re “proud of being cishet” sounds like they just hate LGBT people (and I mean, that’s probably correct). Why isn’t “proud of being gay” seen with the same acception?

[-] BradleyUffner@lemmy.world 31 points 9 months ago

They are proud in order to fight the shame that conservatives constantly tell them they should feel for existing. It's a tool for empowerment and fighting back against oppression.

[-] Syrc@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

So in your opinion, if we reached a level of society where no one is oppressed for their identity/sexuality, would it just cease to “be an idiom”?

[-] Lemminary@lemmy.world 17 points 9 months ago

Let's get there first and then we decide. For now, I'm proud to be gay.

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[-] Default_Defect@midwest.social 10 points 9 months ago

Anyone that claims to be proud of being white or straight is doing it in opposition of black pride, or queer pride, etc. It might as well be the same as the all lives matter outrage.

[-] Syrc@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

Because that’s a logical flaw. “If black people and white people deserve the same rights, and black people can be proud of being black, why can’t white people be proud of being white?”

The difference between normal people and racists is that normal people might think of it as weird, but don’t talk about it because they don’t really care about “white pride”, while racists openly declare it and use the “fallacy” to stir the pot.

[-] Default_Defect@midwest.social 10 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I can't believe I'm being downvoted on Lemmy of all places for thinking "white pride" is bad and and the alternatives aren't. I don't even have a rebuttal, I'm just flabbergasted.

Edit: I was 0/5 when I typed this.

[-] CeruleanRuin@lemmings.world 2 points 9 months ago

I'm being charitable and chalking it up to people with 0 social awareness or life experience who don't realize how much they are enabling the real bigots.

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[-] Drivebyhaiku@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Short answer - because the original events were called "Pride" and other events that followed that model and style can literally trace the name to two organizers of the original event, Brenda Howard and Robert A. Martin.

Long answer...

What is important to remember about Pride is it is specific. Gay, Lesbian and Bisexual liberation marches pre-date Prides but they were more like a conventional protest and they were poorly attended because you had to expect police violence. They were dour, focused primarily on the pain and hardship of oppression. It was mostly people dressed to look respectable marching with signs to appeal to the cis/hetro masses in a "hey look we're actually just like you!" kind of way.

"Pride" was different. They organized the first event around the concept of Independence day style activities. It was supposed to have the feel of an emancipation celebration and was originally intended to become a National day of observance of the five days of Riots at Stonewall, something that a lot of queer people decided to rally around as essentially the literal fight for independence of queer culture in the US. Shortly thereafter a lot of cultural aspects of Queer community done for fun that actually create a culture like Ballroom culture, Drag performance, dance, theater, caberet, burlesque, various bizzare kink related specialities were spotlighted. Pride took all that stuff that was happening in the shadows and turned it into a public festival. In part it was intended as a "fuck you we are not afraid and there is more of us than you think" but it also gave the public a look at the spectacle of open queer joy. That it was fun and weird meant it became a proper festival. It spread and other events that followed that format also became "Prides". Over time other communities and sub groups within the growing coalition came to define their own means to celebrate together and also came to call then things like "Trans Pride".

So at least in part the "Pride" portion is a historical naming convention for a very specific style of event and festival with a tracable history. It is helpful to understand that "Pride" has a secondary and silent implication of Pride Event "Woo Happy Pride! " is at some point like wishing someone Happy Christmas. "Proud" is in part an event theme that euphemizes that original "fuck you, our culture is valid and we won't be shamed out of the public eye."

Someone going on about "cis pride" is at some point basically just trying to carbon copy a format of protest made for a specific purpose while entirely misunderstanding the original usage. Some argue they don't really need a specific public culture festival or a protest because they are the dominant culture. They get their culture fest from national and religious tinted celebrations and they are accepted as a norm so the protest element is unnecessary. It more comes across more as someone who just doesn't like how queer people have claimed a slice of public space and want to have yet another party to celebrate themselves. It's like throwing an Independence day style celebration but when there is no commemorative event at it's core and no independence that needed to be fought for at all.

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[-] CeruleanRuin@lemmings.world 1 points 9 months ago

Because it's the same thing as gloating when you win. It makes you look like an asshole rubbing it in the face of the less fortunate.

[-] bus_go_fast@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago

saying they’re “proud of being cishet” sounds like they just hate LGBT people

(and I mean, that’s probably correct)

There ya go.

[-] Syrc@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

That’s because of the current situation though. People who say it now are like that, so “normal people” don’t say it because it would automatically mean being grouped with them. So only people who don’t care about being labeled as homo/transphobic keep saying that and the “stereotype” reinforces itself.

Or rather, as I said in my first comment, I don’t get why should anyone say they’re proud of being cishet, same as for being proud of the opposite. But we don’t think people in a gay pride parade are being “heterophobic”, it’s seen as a normal thing (by most reasonable people, I mean).

If we look at current society I get the difference in treatment, but from a neutral point of view it’s weird that virtually the same expression, just with sexualities swapped, is seen as either empowering or discriminating.

[-] bus_go_fast@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago

People who say it now are like that, so “normal people” don’t say it because it would automatically mean being grouped with them.

you're get hung up on the word. There's no hetero struggle, where people were mistreated or had to hide only because they were straight. Only a total idiot would do this.

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[-] Player2@sopuli.xyz 15 points 9 months ago

Given the amount of people that seem to base their whole personality exclusively using this list, it will be a long while before we can move away from these as a collective.

[-] Ilovethebomb@lemm.ee 7 points 9 months ago

It's the most interesting thing about some people, that's why.

[-] Not_Alec_Baldwin@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago

Overtly stating anything about your identity is one of the dumbest and most boring things.

I don't care how you identify. It doesn't tell me anything about you, and it doesn't tell me anything about the thing. And generally, it's considered rude to talk about a person's identity.

You'd be better off telling me something you're interested in.

John Doe (likes trains)

There are two kinds of people... No wait, three kinds of people that care.

  1. people who are emotionally fragile, mentally ill, or otherwise can't handle literally any friction of any kind in any of their interactions.

  2. people who are excessively polite, virtue signaling, it SJWs. These people don't care for themselves but they care SO MUCH because they think it makes to OTHER people.

  3. people who are afraid of complaints or legal action (business, public figures, etc)

I can count on one hand the number of times identity has mattered in a human interaction I've had.

The amount of energy we waste of identity is fucking absurd considering the literal zero value or brings to the world.

[-] FlyingSquid@lemmy.world 3 points 9 months ago

You don't care. LGBT people are not necessarily prideful because of you. They're prideful because of the half of America that wants them oppressed, imprisoned or dead because of who they are.

If that's not you, they're not talking about you, but they are still facing a lot of homophobic people. Until that ends, pride is the correct reaction to those people.

[-] fosforus@sopuli.xyz 12 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Sometimes there's basis for patriotic pride. As a specific example, I live next to Russia, in a free country that respects LGBT rights. I know for a fact that those rights would be completely eroded if Russia conquered us. Therefore it makes sense to take some pride in my country and the armed forces of my country who are strongly discouraging that from happening.

[-] oce@jlai.lu 3 points 9 months ago

So your pride is defending what you find is right, and your nation happens to be aligned with it currently. If your nation became homophobic, you wouldn't follow it, would you?

[-] fosforus@sopuli.xyz 4 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

If your nation became homophobic, you wouldn’t follow it, would you?

No, I would not. But I'm not sure if I could be able to translate that into any action that had effect.

[-] the_inebriati@lemmy.ml 7 points 9 months ago

Sexuality

When people talk about "LGBT Pride", they're not talking about the "a feeling of deep pleasure or satisfaction derived from one's own achievements" definition, they're talking about the "confidence and self-respect as expressed by members of a group, typically one that has been socially marginalized" definition.

It's almost like words can have more than one meaning.

[-] assassin_aragorn@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

I think of Pride as an acceptance of your sexuality, whatever it may be. The pride in question is a self esteem that comes from being comfortable in who you are.

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[-] Syrc@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

The last point could be argued, most people say/mean “proud of being their friend/brother/whatever”, and having mutual esteem with someone does take a degree of agency. It’s obviously moot if you have family ties with them but they hate you, but I don’t think I’ve ever seen people being proud of achievements of people who hate them.

The rest I agree, it feels weird unnecessary tribalism most of the time.

[-] felbane@lemmy.ml 6 points 9 months ago

Fair, and I agree with you.

[-] oce@jlai.lu 3 points 9 months ago

A bit of stretch but this why I don't like https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Protected_designation_of_origin. It is supposed to guarantee quality, but why wouldn't someone be able to make the same quality of cheese given the same cows and quality process anywhere else? It seems to be some kind of weird territorialist pride.

[-] JustZ@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

It's a matter of economics and quality over time. These regions have chosen to tool up for making foods and commodities that are essential to the Euro Zone and arguably the world.

If they go out of business, the quality and availability of the product overall will certainly suffer. And it may not be so extreme as going out of business; if they miss out on a capital investment because some investor sees potential in a competitor making a product elsewhere, maybe it's death by a thousand cuts.

So we protect their brands. Yes, it is technically anti-competitive, for the greater good. And at the very least, for the good of the Euro Zone.

[-] oce@jlai.lu 1 points 9 months ago

If it wasn't for the unfair advantage of the PDO, maybe other regions would be tempted to tool up too, which could encourage quality and/or optimizations that would reduce the price, that could benefit the people too.
It doesn't seem fair for the people who weren't born in one of those privileged regions which were given many PDOs. It reminds me of feudal birth rights in some way.
I'm not sure, it is for the greater good of everyone eventually.
Also, some PDOs are captured by industrial groups who keep buying the little producers who made the PDO, and it protects them from competitors. This articles translated from French describes the situation in France: https://www-lafranceagricole-fr.translate.goog/a-la-une/article/759488/contrls-par-les-gants?_x_tr_sl=fr&_x_tr_tl=en&_x_tr_hl=en&_x_tr_pto=wapp

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[-] assassin_aragorn@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

In the abstract, yes, but when a group of people is oppressed because of one of those identifiers, it stops just being a born trait. It also identifies that you're oppressed. Celebrating who you are with regards to that kind of trait (sexuality, sex, race, etc) isn't a celebration of being born a certain way. It's a celebration of self acceptance, and an act of rebellion.

You aren't proud of what you were born with, you're proud of what you were born with, because some people have tried to punish you for that what.

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