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Made this one somewhat last minute, but here goes- my reccomendations for this week are a yuri "mystery" VN that's near and dear to my heart (that goes into processing grief) though it's been a while since I last played it, and a cute and sloppy (not bad sloppy) manga about crossdressing (and if you ask me is honestly at least kinda genderfuckery).

I figured I'd also add BonnieBugsy's "Ranma Lazuli" fanfic series (available on Ao3) to make it a triple feature because why the hell not. The two fics I can recommend (not having completed the other large fic yet though I'm sure it would deserve equal recommendation) are pretty near and dear to me as well.

CONTENT WARNINGSSeaBed: processing grief Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy: some chapters, particularly the extras, can be particularly suggestive/R18+ Ranma Lazuli: for the two fanfics specifically I'm discussing, "Skies of Blue, Red Roses Too" covers dysphoria and abusive family circumstances, with the premise of the titular Ranma escaping these and finding a place where she can be and grow into herself. "I of the Storm," in contrast, deals with the abusive and unhealthy dynamics of that "place where nothing ever gets better" from the perspective of someone still living within it- Akane- who herself, also has to deal with her anger and the consequences of (being a victim, but also perpetrator of) abuse, apathy, and past mistakes, while moving past that environment herself.

Premise and things I liked about (SeaBed)Sachiko and Takako were childhood friends and lovers, but unknown circumstances tore them apart. Now they have to piece together the puzzle, as Sachiko keeps hallucinating about Takako, and Takako deals with memory issues of her own.

Personally, Seabed can come across as a bit of a slog (but in a good way- and in a way appropriate to the themes of grief, of mental processing and memory issues, etc). And it can be very heavy. I played it during a time when I was dealing with grief among other things myself and I loved it- I intend to play it again someday (ideally soon), but needless to say it won't be for everyone.

Premise and things I liked about (Handsome Girl and Crossdressing Boy)Admittedly, this is just comfy, queer (IMO), somewhat suggestive (YMMV, if it were just up to me I'd not even consider it NSFW but it's definitely toeing a line and considering cultural and even circumstantial differences of different online spaces- well yea) and sappy light-hearted romance. Iori is a crossdressing boy(? very eggy if you ask me), and Hazuki is a handsome girl. Needless to say gender is a fuck.

The extra chapters (generally noticeable as something like "chapter 23.5" instead of being an outright "chapter 23" for instance) can be even moreso questionably/maybe "NSFW/18+" (though if you ask me that's all "western puritanism and backwardness/regressiveness" which they then infected many other parts of the world with)

Premise and things I liked about (BonnieBugsy's 'Ranma Lazuli' fanfic series)The two "Ranma Lazuli" fics I can recommend (the others I either haven't read yet or are very short) are both what I would describe as "coming of age/graduation(?)" plots, wherein Ranma moves from her abusive, overwhelming, demanding upbringing to the welcoming and progressive Beach City from Steven Universe (no knowledge of either series is necessary IMO to enjoy these fics, that said) and is finally able to develop within such a healthier environment, and Akane comes to terms with and breaks free of the fallout and that unhealthy environment in her own way, in her own separate life.

Both fics, I feel, correlate with my own defining experiences on many levels- whether it be Ranma's growth and the liberating feeling of finding a positive, comfy space and escaping the small, shitty, abusive world she was raised in prior, or in Akane's own growth and rejection of that same small world, as well as the permanence of one's actions having come from and having been a part of what made that world so small and unhealthy to begin with, and growing past that and coming to terms with it.


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[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I love being a queer loser, nothing else I rather be to be honest comfy-cool

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[โ€“] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Yesterday I was picking up some dry cleaning for my partner. The woman behind the desk was my age and somewhat alternative? scene kid? Something? We had a short but friendly conversation and then as I left she came running out after me. She asked if I had left my phone there holding up a smart phone. I flashed my phone and said something like "thanks heaps but I've got mine" and she said "oh it must have been other woman who was in here in this morning". She turned and went back in.

And again I was stun locked by correct gender-ing by a stranger. Also it occurs to me it might have been flirting? If so she's smooth AF.

[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

new mega meow-fiesta

I'm very sleepy and going to bed niko-sleep

[โ€“] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago (3 children)

anxiety/worries of transphobiaGoing with my partner to a birthday party for their friend. Kinda nervous. Most of this friend group (of theirs) is cis guys, but some of the friends' girlfriends will also likely come. I don't really care about the opinions of male strangers, but I am kinda freaking out a bit about with a fear of getting excluded/misgendered by the other women. I put together a cute/fun outfit and I know that my partner will support me regardless but I am still nervous.

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[โ€“] Thallo@hexbear.net 10 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

I got my 10th laser session today, and I'm not happy with the results I'm getting :/

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[โ€“] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

Boulevard Montmartre at Night - Camille Pissarro, 1897

[โ€“] Boynomoder@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago

Debating whether I should make a Facebook to keep in touch with my family, but idk if I want to potentially be jumpscared by old pictures of myself. bocchi-glitch

Starry Night Over the Rhone - Van Gogh, 1888

[โ€“] yewler@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (2 children)

I filled out a rental application yesterday and one of the questions was "if you came under financial difficulty, do you know someone who would be willing to loan you the money so you can still pay rent?" My jaw hit the floor. Is this a common question? I've only ever rented once.

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Never seen that in any rental application.

Mostly they've been "whats your emergency contact, list some previous landlord references, who all is moving in, any pets" lately they've been adding work history, monthly wage and credit score which feels a little invasive.

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[โ€“] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 9 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

Just had a date with a really hot trans woman and im-fuckin-gay hexbear-non-binary leslie-shining

transphobia(?)walking down the street and as i'm turning a corner I start getting near this old dude coming from the way I'm about to go. As I start moving in his general direction, he looks at me and starts grinning and beckoning, fucking weird already. When I get closer, because i'm moving to go past him on the sidewalk, at some point he gets a close enough look at me (he squinted a bit then his eyes went kinda wide) and he stops and changes to a halting motion and goes "whoa....". Such an uncomfortable interaction, like fuck off buddy

[โ€“] Wmill@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago

This dude commented finally on my painted nails in class, no judgement from him other than I should probably repaint them soon yea just been so tired these past days that I can't do much. Also pog on no mean comments, think it's just a bit hard being mean to someone face to face. Women usually are nice to me about my presentation so to get encouragement from dudes too feels nice

[โ€“] Mallow@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Does anyone have advice or resources for an androgynous/mixed sex characteristics looking nonbinary person with autism and other disabilities in finding work ? I'm trying to leave a bad living situation so I can make more progress on my transition goals and become more independent. I can move in with my partner very soon but I have to contribute to the household expenses. I have some skills from my undergrad degree and also art hobbies but I've struggled to thrive anywhere for long...

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[โ€“] semioticbreakdown@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago (10 children)

i look at everything i read about and see dialectics. evolution? dialectics. semiotics? dialectics. cognitive science? dialectics. cybernetics? dialectics. language? of course thats fucking dialectics. i even thought to myself the other day, "i should read hegel maybe". a statement of the deranged if ever there was one

who told me to read theory. you will pay for this

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[โ€“] LocalOaf@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago

dysphoria, crappy mental healthSpent like an hour and a half shaving and still feel disgusting

It's never gonna be enough to make it okay until I get full laser and that doesn't seem anywhere near obtainable from here and I just feel fucking terrible and despondent

My brain's bad today

I wanna cry and can't

I need to figure out a good hair removal and skincare routine, I feel so gross and dejected by how much effort it takes for such a mediocre outcome

[โ€“] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago

very late Dorley SpoilersI would have never at the start thought Diana would be one of my favourite characters.

[โ€“] shallot@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

@AntifaSuperWombat@hexbear.net good call on perma-sharp, my face is so smooth! I will continue trying others, but I wanted to start with your top rec and this is already way nicer and more comfy than those derbies ever were. Thank you!!

Your smoothness is my pleasure catgirl-salute

[โ€“] gaystyleJoker@hexbear.net 8 points 1 month ago
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