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[–] blockheadjt@sh.itjust.works 28 points 1 day ago

Mouths are also self-lubricating, and can be used regardless of the sexualit(ies) present

Unrealistic. Straight people only exist in a fantasy setting

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 44 points 1 day ago

Straight people? Gay.

[–] NOT_RICK@lemmy.world 37 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Missionary was involved, wasn’t it?

[–] birdwing@lemmy.blahaj.zone 31 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Possibly also handholding. And whatever the straight equivalent of yuri would be.

[–] _lilith@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

wouldn't a fantasy setting just use oil like people used to? clove oil was pretty popular for butt stuff

[–] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 10 points 1 day ago

Olive oil was used by ancient Greeks for wrestling, and probably they used it for sex as well.

That sounds like it would burn, no?

In my works, I just write Astroglythe if it's medieval and A5-troglide if it's sci-fi.

[–] krooklochurm@lemmy.ca 2 points 1 day ago (4 children)

Why even mention lube?

Does it contribute anything to the broader narrative? Does anyone LIKE using lube?

What actual function does describing lube at all have in whatever unholy abomination this basement-dweller writes?

[–] Squirrelanna@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 13 hours ago

Just like with any kind of story, there are many readers who enjoy immersing themselves into a character's experiences, and for that kind of reader fine details can be very important. Especially when the pleasure derived from said experience hinges almost entirely upon its inclusion. If you are glossing over the entire intimate act you can probably skip it. But in erotica, the intimate details are part of the point in most cases.

[–] TowardsTheFuture@lemmy.zip 26 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I… not to particularly defend erotica but isn’t the foreplay and getting lubed and all kinda… part of it? It’s not like people are gonna go seek out and read someone’s erotica that’s like “and then he fucked me. It was adequate. Please cum.”

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

“and then he fucked me. It was adequate. Please cum.”

Vulcan love slave back at it again.

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Because if you write about homogay buttsex without mentioning lube it's just unrealistic.

[–] kartoffelsaft@programming.dev 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I mean, it is a fantasy setting. The realism is already out with the "I magic 3Tbsp. of precum into your butt" line

[–] user224 3 points 1 day ago

It still needs to be somewhat realistic. "I met John, another gay man. We shook hands and signed a BrainLink® waiver to proceed with the previously agreed upon virtual sexual activities. We connected via direct brain-brain link and immediately proceeded to have a 15 minute orgasm. Unfortunately, we didn't pay for the premium subscription to get unlimited time orgasms, but nevertheless, it still beats the ancient unhygienic methods." is probably not going to give anyone a boner.

[–] msage@programming.dev 1 points 1 day ago

How is any of that magic? That's just Monday.

[–] io@piefed.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago (2 children)

it's very valuable to be accurate about this stiff

erotic material is often the only sex education people get, why do you think most men are so bad at female anatomy and sex?

[–] implosive_sprig@beehaw.org 5 points 23 hours ago* (last edited 23 hours ago)

There are two types of worldbuilders:

"I want to add teleportation to my fantasy setting."
Literally invents wormholes and quantum physics in-universe to justify that one guy.

"i want to add railguns to my fantasy setting."
Randomly drops a railgun out of the sky.

I actually got started writing erotica because I was so annoyed at erotica that was absurd in terms of anatomy. Like no, it is not possible for a penis to go past the cervix, and even if it were possible, it certainly wouldn't be pleasurable