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[–] seabisquit@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 3 hours ago

Noel Fielding disagrees

[–] kelpie_returns@lemmy.world 3 points 3 hours ago

Nahh. Premise got too many holes. We ain't about that life.

I'd rather be a bird anyway.

cringe take

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 151 points 19 hours ago* (last edited 19 hours ago) (4 children)

How about we normalize being flamboyant and colorful for straight adult cisgender men instead of re-enforcing the idea that any deviation from being a boring frumpy dump of an old man means they must be some type of queer. Isn't this just re-enforcing outdated gender norms?

[–] octoham@lemmy.world 8 points 5 hours ago (1 children)

idk, i read this as a joke about how being emo isn't accepted once you're past a certain age, and how that age is higher for women. don't get me wrong i do think straight cis men should be allowed to be flamboyant and colourful, but i don't think the meme is against that

[–] Funky_Beak 2 points 3 hours ago

My hot take was in the early 00's the emo movement was the start for alot of ppl questioning their gender identity.

[–] Deceptichum@quokk.au 56 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Flamboyant and colourful emos?

We called that scene.

[–] RobotFK@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 7 hours ago

Almost an arms race

[–] RunJun@lemmy.dbzer0.com 16 points 17 hours ago* (last edited 5 hours ago)

Thank you. There can be overlap due to repression but the immediate label does reinforce stereotypes.

[–] festnt@sh.itjust.works 16 points 15 hours ago (1 children)
[–] RaoulDook@lemmy.world 49 points 20 hours ago (4 children)

Counterpoint: Brandon Lee as The Crow

[–] Skullgrid@lemmy.world 24 points 19 hours ago

Goth men exist. Or are you calling Peter Steele a woman?

[–] JayDee 16 points 19 hours ago (2 children)

Damn, just looked it up and he died during that film's shooting. That sucks, he fuckin nailed that role.

[–] kelpie_returns@lemmy.world 4 points 3 hours ago (1 children)

Not just that, but he died in the same way as his father, Bruce Lee.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

No he didn't. Both of their deaths forced the movies they were working on to be rewritten, but Bruce died of a pre-existing condition combined with painkillers, while Brandon got shot.

[–] HeyThisIsntTheYMCA@lemmy.world 1 points 29 minutes ago

he didn't die in an on-set accident he died in a specific type of on-set accident is not a great argument

[–] Odo@lemmy.world 10 points 16 hours ago

I had no idea people watched The Crow without knowing that. His death was such a huge part of the discussion around that movie back in 1994. I just assumed that context would always follow it, no matter how long it's been.

[–] DmMacniel@feddit.org 16 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

well, he stopped being emo, quite suddenly.

[–] Macchi_the_Slime@piefed.blahaj.zone 6 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

For a few seconds there I think you could argue he was the most emo literally anyone could be.

[–] MutilationWave@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 2 hours ago

Elliott Smith- Was I a joke to you?

[–] Iheartcheese@lemmy.world 6 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

Basically that entire movie is a ghost and a incestuous mob boss trying to outgoth each other

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 5 points 17 hours ago

and it was so good

[–] froufox@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 17 hours ago

I mean, Robert Smith exists

[–] glitchdx@lemmy.world 11 points 17 hours ago

I disagree.