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At 14 I started looking at gay furry art on reddit, just because it was really cute, not because I was bi or anything. That same year I had meet a really cool guy friend who I started to develop feelings for, so that was when I actually realized I was bi. Since that, when I was 18 I realized I was genderflux because I was hanging out at a friend's party playing video games and I had the odd desire to only play as female characters. I did know that was a common trans experience at the time so I knew something was up.

Around 14 or 15 and was terrified of anyone in my family finding out so I kept that realization locked down. I actually never came out to my family as a queer woman. Then, in my 30s, one of my jesus freak aunts found a picture of me and my then girlfriend on said girlfriend's social media page, still to this day don't know how, and sent it to my entire family. Boy howdy was that a to-do.

12 i realized i liked boys and girls

I thought everyone was sexually attracted to all genders at least a little bit until I learned that no, straight people are actually straight.

Roughly 14 or 15, I realized pretty early on I'm Asexual but took until I was 17 to realize I'm trans :3

25 when my therapist at the time helped me realize what LGBT actually fucking was and not what the media betrayal of it is.

Basically when someone told me what It actually is instead of a "disease" or "disorder"

At 15 I was fantasizing with people my own gender.

Somehow until 25 or something I wouldn't realize I was bi.

I was 17 I realized I was trans. A revelation that helped me better understand my sexuality as well. Turns out I'm bi/pan. I did spend several years just assuming I was ace because the idea of sex didn't interest me until I realized I was a woman.

11 and the revelation was delivered by a wet dream. I mean I looked at dicks online before "to compare" but did not realize I was attracted to it. After realizing that it just took about 5 years to start sharing that with my closest friends and another 8 years to share with my family and other friends. Started dating with 26 and have been in a happy relationship ever since (though I would love more fuck buddies, as I am still rather inexperienced there).

37- My spouse realized they were nonbinary, which made me do some self examination and realize I wasn't as cis as I thought I was.

I discovered I was good at flirting at 17. I also discovered that as soon as a girl starts making out with me or getting handsy I lose interest. My brain is like “yay, validation, we won, okay let’s go get a snack.”

Took me over a year to learn that asexuality is a spectrum and that there are other people who like sex in theory but can be repulsed by (or indifferent to) it in practice.

~30. I can't be more precise, It was a long process realizing that what I am falls under LGBTQ. Maybe. I'm still afraid of being excluded.

Around 15-16. I used to browse 4chan during it's heavy trap phase and realized I don't mind if they have a penis as long as they look like a girl

I always thought I was "a little bi." Growing up in the '80s in a religious household, I repressed tons. I didn't realize that I was fully bisexual, or consider myself really "LBGTQ" until my forties.

Always. I was confused when my parents tried to tell me I was only allowed to like boys.

I realized I was bi around 21, and probably around 25, I knew I was something other than a cis man. I didn’t know quite what, and examining that question too deeply was scary. Nonbinary felt right, but I actually started presenting more and more masculine, I guess as a way of covering up and trying to deny what I realized just after I turned 29 - I’m actually a trans woman. It’s been such a relief to understand that and be able to start my transition

I was a teen when I found the word asexual and knew what was "wrong" with me. I had known way before though, I just didn't have a word for it. On the other hand I was over twenty when I finally figured I was trans too. In hindsight the signs were already there when I was six years old or so, it just wasn't a thing people understood back then

12 or 13. but it took until I was 18 before I admitted it to myself and came out.

the 90s were a different time.

I was 26 when I realized that romantic attraction is even a thing. It was a year later before I realized that I am ace as well as aro.

6 or 7 - I experimented with kids my age, and it 'clicked'. But I would struggle with that concept until I was about 12, when I decided 'fuck this religious bullshit'. I started dating guys when I was 13, I was out to my friends the same year, the general population when I was 15, and finally my family at 21. Though for my family it wasn't how I planned. I thought I was going to die soon; my original plan as a teen was to tell them on their death bed, mostly because of fear of physical violence. My family was very not-accepting growing up and through my teens. I lived in fear for all of my teenage+ years, many times not sleeping to make sure I wasn't attacked in my sleep.

But yeah, at a very young age I was like 'boys are cute' and 'wait a minute...'

17. I stopped denying that being attracted to femboys was gay.

Really I should've recognized I was bi when my first boner to a man was the same year as my first boner period.

I should have realized it when I was experimenting with friends but I had my first real inkling at 13. Tried opening up to someone who said "ew" which scared me into full denial for a good long time.

I'm LGBTQ+? Oh good.

I was 18 when I realized I felt the same way about Ro Laren and Maria Hill as I did about any men I thought were attractive but it wasn't for several more years that I realized that when most people were attracted to someone they actually wanted to do something about it

I'm just turned 40.

9ish? Although due to bullying, homophobia, culture, I wasn't "ok" with a label until I was in my late 30s.

I think I was around 13. Repressed it about as much as I could.

Early teens:

D'Angelo's video for Untitled (How Does It Feel)? made me realize I like dudes too. Round the same time I remember blushing heavily watching the male gym teacher do pushups.

Knew I liked women earlier when some kid snuck a stack of porno mags and a bunch of kids flipped thru em ogling the titties etc.

Don't know what I am yet, but definitely confident enough to consider myself LGBTQ last year at 30

30s no, I won't elaborate

Depends; looking back at things as a kid, probably as early as 5, based on my hobbies and interests.

But that was subconsciously before I knew what being gay or trans meant.

It was closer to 14 or 15 when I really discovered I was probably bisexual; thank you David Bowie, Brian Molko, and Velvet Goldmine.

Between 12 and 14.

I had a severely long cross-dressing and denial phase since like 2000s ish. It is all a blur. Somewhere around 2008 I lived by myself and had the freedom to explore and experiment in private. And then somewhere around 2021 I realized that I'm trans, possibly before then but denial is a hell of a drug. And then on Nov 2022 I finally started hormones. And now I'm 2 years into hormones and happy!

I started hormones at the age of 36 and now I'm 38.

Hard to say. On one hand I've always known though I didn't have the words for it. But I also grew up in a fundamental church, so it was a sin and I denied it. Didn't formally admit it until 24 though.

13

Mid 20s! It all worked out.

I was around 20 when I first started browsing trans subreddits "as an ally", and I also made a few jokes to some friends about how "I'm probably non-binary lol".

I was 23 when I finally actually came to terms with my gender and sexual orientation. Those three years were rough :P

Roundabout 27. I consider myself barely under the umbrella even to the point of calling myself "Diet Queer" as I'm a heteroromantic demisexual. I've always been around people that are much more queer presenting than I am so I seemed straight as fuck in comparison.

14ish when I started having those kind of feelings for other boys, and idk probably 19-20 the first time I said it out loud

Early teens, around 13-14. I didn't come out and transition until about age 25 though.