Look, this is gross. I'm no TPUSA apologist, nor am I a fan of the Kirks. But I've had major tragedies happen in my life and had to continue work and put on a brace face.
People compartmentalize. People throw themselves into work/causes to separate themselves from the grief.
There is no wrong way to grieve, and it feels twelve types of misogynistic to be like "this woman isn't an inconsolable sobbing wreck every minute since her husband died!? She must be a sociopath."
Her politics are despicable, but that doesn't mean she's the physical embodiment of Satan himself, and nothing is gained by policing how other people grieve.