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I've looked up Vanishing Twin Syndrome, and almost every article I have seen said that VTS typically only happens during the first trimester of the pregnancy.

But here's the catch: My mom didn't realize or know she was pregnant with me until 7 months into the pregnancy. And when she found out, the ultrasounds did show two babies. Me and my twin.

If Vanishing Twin Syndrome usually only occurs during the 1st trimester, is there a reason why it can happen so late during the pregnancy, as in the case with my mom and my twin? Or is there technically another name for this specific situation?

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 hours ago

Well, the key word is usually

Late term vanishing twin syndrome is a thing. It comes with its own set of issues as well. Since its also extremely rare, you'd have to be some kind of nerd to know it exists unless you're an obgyn or at least a maternity nurse. I am neither an obgyn or a maternity nurse.

When it happens late term, and 7 months is very late term for it, you get an increased rush of complications, some of which can negatively impact the development of the remaining fetus. Hell, from what I remember, late term absorption tends to happen because there's something going wrong already. Iirc (and don't try to cite me on a test or anything), just being a little too cramped can trigger it, though it would be a very rare trigger for an already absurdly rare thing.

So, my best guess as a non doctor with zero access to the records of the pregnancy in question is that something happened to put the pregnancy at risk, and either your mom's body or yours set off the cascade leading to the failure of the other fetus. It isn't something that happens that late without some triggering event that's outside of a normal pregnancy. When it happens early on, it's a different story, it can happen for no detectable reason at all. But late term? Something went wrong that made it happen.

I'd have to go digging, and I'm currently brain fried, but one of the more common triggers worldwide is/was malnutrition. When the mother isn't getting resources to grow both critters, either her body shifts to support one exclusively, or one of the two essentially cannibalizes the other. That one (again, I'm old and tired, so the iirc factor is iffy here) is most likely to happen when the twins share a placenta, or something like that (see, old man brain missing details).

Since you've said in comments that you were placed in an unusual orientation and/or location, that would point to some kind of issue with the uterus not having enough room for both fetuses (fetii? I think I like that better despite it not being duet correct lol). I seem to recall a case in India where a woman prone to twins had a pregnancy where this happened because her uterus had lost the ability to stretch the way they normally do. Something about scar tissue maybe? Been ages since I read about this stuff.

Anyway, late term vanishing twin syndrome is the terminology I know of. If there's another, more formal terminology, iam not aware of it.

[–] neidu3@sh.itjust.works 25 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

She's raising your twin in the attic to keep as a spare in case you decide to become a "prompt engineer"

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 1 points 4 hours ago

Flowers in the Attic 2: IRL Boogaloo

[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 6 points 7 hours ago (2 children)

Your mom said the doctor told her the ultrasound showed "two babies" but I had an ultrasound at 5 weeks and they looked at the tiny embryonic speck and said, "there's the baby!" In fact no babies are shown in ultrasounds, only fetuses. But my point was, they may have seen one 7-month fetus and one little shriveled thing and said "there's two babies."

I guess it's also possible she brought two babies to term, made a "Sophie's Choice" to give one up for adoption, and didn't want you to be heartbroken or afraid of being given away too. And since other people had heard about her being pregnant with twins, she gave you a story you could accept as a child.

And another possibility is that the doctor gave her anesthesia or rohypnol or something and took the twin to put up for adoption, telling her it was absorbed. She'd know she had given birth but not remember it was twice. It's terrible but not unheard of.

You could ask her, if you feel you're both adult enough now to handle the emotional implications of all the possible explanations. Remember that you can still trust her love no matter what, but she might not know the whole truth and/or might be ashamed to admit it.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 hours ago

took the twin to put up for adoption

Lol my mom used to tell me how doctors / medical staff in China were sketchy af and sometimes they trafficked children... a problem fueled by One Child Policy and fertility issues and society's obsessive desire to have children and especially a "male heir" to "carry on the bloodline", so my mom told me stories about how "oh X person in Y province found that his parents arent his real parents and the hospital trafficked him and sold him..."

Idk why mom keep telling me these stories, terrified me as a kid...

Sometimes I wonder if I am even the real biological child of my parents... 🤔

[–] KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 1 points 6 hours ago (2 children)
[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 1 points 1 hour ago

Meryl Streep movie, she could save only one child from the Nazis (or they'd have killed both, the cruelty was the point) and the guilt and trauma stays with her throughout her life.

I was implying that if your mom had to give up one twin for adoption it might still be a painful thing she doesn't want to talk about.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 2 points 3 hours ago

It's a reference to a movie of the same name.

The gist is that at one point, Sophie is forced to choose which of her children die.

[–] tonyn@lemmy.ml 65 points 12 hours ago (24 children)

I'm no obstetrician but something the size and complexity of a 7 month fetus does not get absorbed, it comes out. There is likely some misinformation involved along the way.

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[–] deadbeef79000@lemmy.nz 22 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

There's a few things that don't add up in your recollection of events.

You are being lied to, not necessarily directly by your mother.

If that's if going to be a problem to deal with you might want to consider dropping the whole thing.

[–] KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 3 points 12 hours ago (7 children)

It's not necessarily a problem per se, I just don't see why a doctor would lie to their patient, especially a pregnant woman

[–] palordrolap@fedia.io 13 points 11 hours ago (1 children)

This whole thing is in violation of Rule 3.

But if you really want the speculation of an unqualified guy on the Internet. Here be pain. You have been warned.

Depending on the country, the era, the hospital and the prevailing mentality and procedures followed by the medical staff there, it is a possibility your twin was not viable ex utero. The doctors might have hidden it away and then spun the tale that the twin had been absorbed to save your family the anguish and pain.

Why not let a newly-blessed family go home with their one happy, healthy child and none of the pain?

The alternative is that your twin is was viable but was stolen away to be raised by someone else. But that sort of thing usually only happens in TV melodramas.

[–] KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 2 points 11 hours ago

Don't know if this would help, but this happened in the US in 2003-2004. (My mom found out she was pregnant with me and my mystery twin December of 2003 and two months later in February of 2004, I was born)

[–] gibmiser@lemmy.world 7 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

Easy. It was easier to lie than explain a complicated medical situation.

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[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

Someone could make a lot of money stealing a baby

[–] KuromiGirl04@lemmy.world 1 points 8 hours ago* (last edited 8 hours ago) (2 children)
[–] Typhoon@lemmy.ca 1 points 3 hours ago

Have you seen your president and friends? There are worse things in the Trump-Epstein files.

[–] jol@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 8 hours ago

Lots of people

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[–] Chee_Koala@lemmy.world 6 points 11 hours ago (3 children)

"Fetus papyraceous occurs in 1 out of 12,000 pregnancies and 1 out of 200 twin pregnancies."

Instead of absorption, it could have been papyrification, but apparently that leaves a kind of unmistakable trace for a doctor, which you mentioned so I assume was involved during birth. If pregnancy was non-standard in more ways then just finding out late, maybe those remains were so small that they were harder to notice?

I couldn't find a written record of a similar situation where a second twin that was seen at 7 months and just vanished afterward, so this could be a unique mix of circumstances. That also makes it statistically a lot more likely that somewhere along the lines, information was missing, or got garbled in chaos, or was misheard, not unlikely during extreme situations like birth. I'm not even thinking about bad intentions, just all the places where one human error could be the missing puzzle piece.

Can you think of any extra information regarding your time during pregnancy and your birth you are willing to share?

It sucks that you couldn't live with your twin, although I can imagine you have made you peace with it since. Having siblings can be a lot of fun, I know I love it :)

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[–] felixwhynot@lemmy.world 9 points 12 hours ago (2 children)
[–] SanctimoniousApe@lemmings.world 5 points 10 hours ago* (last edited 10 hours ago)

There can be only one.

Dating myself with a reference to Highlander.

[–] Valmond@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 12 hours ago (2 children)
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[–] pelley@lemmy.world 3 points 12 hours ago (2 children)

Read The Dark Half by Stephen King.

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