The answer is shower after. Every time. The shower is the reward for doing the physical work.
this post was submitted on 27 Mar 2026
221 points (98.7% liked)
Autism
9730 readers
193 users here now
A community for respectful discussion and memes related to autism acceptance. All neurotypes are welcome.
Community:
Values
- Acceptance
- Openness
- Understanding
- Equality
- Reciprocity
- Mutuality
- Love
Rules
- No abusive, derogatory, or offensive post/comments e.g: racism, sexism, religious hatred, homophobia, gatekeeping, trolling.
- Posts do not need be related to autism, off-topic discussions are allowed. This is a safe space where people with autism can feel comfortable discussing whatever they feel like discussing, as long as it does not violate the standing rules.
- Your posts must include a text body. It doesn't have to be long, it just needs to be descriptive.
- Do not request donations.
- Be respectful in discussions.
- Do not post misinformation.
- Mark NSFW content accordingly.
- Do not promote Autism Speaks.
- General Lemmy World rules.
- No bots. Humans only.
Encouraged
- Open acceptance of all autism levels as a respectable neurotype.
- Funny memes.
- Respectful venting.
- Describe posts of pictures/memes using text in the body for our visually impaired users.
- Welcoming and accepting attitudes.
- Questions regarding autism.
- Questions on confusing situations.
- Seeking and sharing support.
- Engagement in our community's values.
- Expressing a difference of opinion without directly insulting another user.
- Please report questionable posts and let the mods deal with it.
.
Helpful Resources
- Are you seeking education, support groups, and more? Take a look at our list of helpful resources.
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
You sound like someone who doesn't have adhd. At least not the typical types. Reward after a task generally doesn't work for adhd. In fact that's kind of the heart of the condition. It's an impaired executive function.
But I hate the shower when I’m not in it.
But if I have to move, then it is work, so where is the reward for the reward? Who is going to dry me off, carry me to bed, feed me cake, and tell me I'm cute?
You might sweat or get dirty otherwise on the walk. So the obvious answer is to shower afterwards. And yes, that's something I think about every time, just to come to the same conclusion. My GF on the other hand does it the other way around, because it makes her feel better on the walk. And because we're both diagnosed, both are obviously right options.
Especially for those of us who sweat easily.
@LadyButterfly@piefed.blahaj.zone I'm not sure how to feel about this, I see a lot that normal people just don't give a fuck until a problem is back around. If anything, I think we worry more about not acting.
And like my attention-span has this kind of fortitude. Five mins later, I'll either be in the shower or on a walk, "Oh, yeah. I think I remember debating this earlier... Oh well! Do-be-do-be-doo..."