no. it's just another thing to make people upset at each other. ignore what they say.
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No, hacks keep writing generation war articles because they're stupid and lazy.
Even the "stare" is just a hack's memories of general teenager movie tropes. I bet right now if I said "80's bored teenage stares at character saying something stupid and weird" you know exactly what I'm talking about.
like the stare I got when I told a grandson he should shovel snow for his grandma. did as much for my grandparents, regretably.
mainstrem media likes attributing negative things about younger generations and to try and keep this stupid generational war alive. i wouldn't bother. talk to the kids and you will see they are fine.
Step 1: Get rid of these generational names.
Europe doesn't have them. The USA only has them because whoever comes up with one gets invited to talk about what defines that generation, and with that a lot of money.
feels like dividing to conquer doesn't it?
Don't know about mainland Europe but, in the UK, generational names are definitely a thing. Stupid newspaper headlines about Millennials, Gen Z, Gen Alpha, are very common, unfortunately.
Agree about the idea of getting rid of them, judge people on what they do (the content of their character, if you will) rather than what age they are.
Young people in customer facing positions seem fairly unemotive in general, I'm not necessarily sure it's a new trend. The positions these young people are in are generally minimum wage (or effectively minimum wage). They aren't really being paid enough to smile lol, or don't really have much to smile about.
I tend to avoid all eye contact with folks in public so I'm probably not really the best to answer it. It's sort of something I've noticed, but I'm really not convinced it's new.
That said, I do get that there's a lot of folks who missed out on a lot of socialization opportunities during the pandemic. Whether that's enough to lead to an epidemic of young people doing a "stare" I'm not sure.
Every young generation gets clowned on. As a millennial I remember us getting it. So it's hard to really say if this is something real or just more "youth bad" rhetoric.
i worked in customer service positions as a teen and 20 something. it is not hard to just say hello to people when they are in your store. it's a basic requirement of the job.
yes, it is novel for them not to do this. and no it's not a majority, but it's a markedly new experience to go into a store and see a 22 year old who basically ignores customers who re actively seeking their attention/help.
I have no clue what people are going on about it's timeless or whatever, i never dealt with it my entire life until very recently. like i have been going ot the same coffee shop for 20 years, and only in the past year have I had a barista be spaced out when i come up to the counter to order, and it's always these young baristas, it's not the older ones who ever do this.
and also we have issues at my job with gen z employees that we have never had ever before. i have been working there 10 years, and only in the past 2 years have we ever had to fire anyone for lack of performance or violated basic company policies... and we have had to five 6 people in the past year or so, all new hires, because they back the most basic social and work skills that we have never ever had an issue with before.
like we literally give them the rules of employment, they actively violated them and get caught, and act all confused like they didn't understand what they did wrong. so we then terminate them and they are SHOCKED. they seem to totally lack the concept that actions have consequences and if you can't show up to work and follow basic common sense instructions, you don't get employeed.
and like a lot of the posters here they are massively entitled and think they are owed 100K jobs at 22 for entry level jobs and skills.
a lot of people try as much as possible not to acknowledge the humanity of service workers, its completely normal for those workers to become numb to the endless stream of jackasses. Even if the next guy coming up does acknowledge them and treat them like a human, its hard to fault any perceived carelessness. Its also not limited to young people, any supermarket I go to has older peole working and you will encounter the same phenomenon. Its the alienation of labor under capitalism.
I have absolutely seen this and experienced this. Although, I don’t think it’s much different from any teenager or young person working shitty jobs in any decade I’ve lived or seen in media. The silent teen staring you down at fast food is timeless.
alienation of labor
Simple answer: no
Why do you think that? :)
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It's not the sort of thing where we have clear statistics on. If we had statistics on the "Gen Z stare" then those would be of limited use due to the lack of historical data which could give us contextualised information in conjunction with contemporary statistics.
There seem to be only anecdotes. The above post marks my first hearing of such a phenomenon and I do therefore think not much of it. I would stipulate that any discussion around the "Gen Z stare" has more in common with folklore retold for nice musings than information which interfaces with the world as it is lived.
That’s not genz thing. That’s the hot potato method of where you drop the potato on the ground and don’t play the games the sociopath wants to play.
This is a more widely used strategy now that mental therapy is more openly discussed. And the best way to win the game with a narcissist/sociopath is to not play their game. in the older days this was done in form of cutting contact. Don’t take their calls. Leave. Don’t interact.
Deadpan stare is a form of this as visual blocking.
Before the 80s so many people thought ‘I can change him!’ And after the 80s there were so many books about living loving a narcissist and how you can’t change him.
Now we just have the deadpan stare. And so many hack comedians from yesterday liken it to ‘cancel culture’ or not having a sense of humour cuz they can’t deal with being irrelevant because of their unchecked hatred landing flat
I guess it depends on the context.
Work in a customer service job? People are going to talk to you. They may ask you questions. Those questions may even be something you consider silly. But guess what? Thats part of working customer service! Youre paid a wage to...wait for it....serve customers. Part of serving customers is occasionally having to answer questions that you may or may not think are stupid.
But its not a big deal. There is no one on this planet that hasn't asked a stupid question before. Even the person that works at the counter at Starbucks and is annoyed that Im asking a question and thinks its appropriate to stand there and blink at me rather than acknowledge I exist in some human way, ill bet any amount of money they asked a stupid assed question at some point in their lives and the person they asked almost definitely didnt just sit there and stare at them until they felt bad for asking it.
I guess my point is, the problem as I see it arent the people that play that game in their day to day, its the people that play that game when their whole job is to assist the public in some way. The context is different. You can do whatever you want in your personal life, but dont take a customer service job if you dont want to interact with customers. Youre paid a wage to answer those questions and assist customers whether you think theyre stupid or annoying or not. But dont worry, nobody forces anyone to work anywhere in this country anyway, so if that is truly too much to bear, there are plenty of other jobs that arent customer service out there, go do one of those.
Signed, a 40-something that has gotten the blink in response to questions like "is this where I pay?" when standing at the register at a diner and being blankly stared at for 5 minutes, or "excuse me, where are the restrooms located?" when Ive got my 3 year old in tow and they're doing the potty dance, about to soil themselves. If someone here thinks those are the appropriate sorts of questions to just stand there like a statue and not respond, please help me understand how, because I cant figure it out.
Yeah I’m noticing people in this thread claiming it is some social injustice to be asking people at their job to respond to simple people talk. Not even complicated questions or like, aggressive customer issues. Just a simple “hey is this where I order?” and they are spiraling.
Fucking weird.
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Every generation is like this at that age. The hallmark of my generation, GenX, was apathy. Not that I care. Whatever. Never mind.
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I've run into it, I think. Went out to eat with the wife and as we walked into the restaurant the hostess just stared at us, then picked up two menus and started walking. We were like, "Do we follow her or...?" And so, sheepishly, we followed her and she did indeed lead us to our seats. It was a couple weeks later when I first heard of the Gen Z stare. I showed my wife and we were like, oh... That was it, we guess.
I've seen it a couple other times - recently at CVS the guy at the pharmacy counter would just sort of stare at each customer without really acknowledging them until after they said what they needed. No greeting or pleasantries of any kind, and then he would go into his standard cvs scripted questions.
why words wen none good
(I'm GenX, [1980] but I've always thought a lot of "polite" "social" habits are dumb.)
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I am a millennial mom to a gen Z teenager and have noticed this as well actually. I wasn't sure if it was just that my kids friends are weird or what lol. I said hello and they stare with a small "hey" or don't say anything back while avoiding eye contact?? Lol... Like I am your friends mom? You should probably at least take a "hello"???
Edit: Now that I am reading these comments as a therapist it actually sounds like trauma? The zoning out and being lost in thought happens with chronic trauma victims. It sounds like disassociating from growing up with COVID and other systemically traumatic environments during crucial development periods. Sad
zoning out and being lost in thought
I started doing this a lot several years ago and I don't know what the cause is or what can be done about it
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I've seen it before from retail workers. The first time I thought they were on drugs.
They don't activate until they decide to act. They don't engage in formal greeting. Like, "Hi, how can I help you?" Like an idle NPC that hasn't been triggered to run its script yet.
It's probably related to the perpetual screen use that causes derealization or whatever. Like how streamers walk around in real life but their mind is engaged in the virtual world of their chat channel, and the real world to them is the virtual one.
It feels pretty odd to describe someone seeming to not be focused until they realize someone else is there as them being stuck in a fantasy world as a result of screen usage. Putting a smile on and being engaging can be exhausting. I don't think we should fault folks for not doing it for 8 hours while they work.
it's your job to do that. jobs are exhausting... if you can't do that basic task then you shouldn't have that job.
i'm confused. like you expect to not do your job and still get paid? if you work in customer facing jobs it's your job to greet customers.
I think there is a case that could be made for 'screen time' having some kind of impact for how someone might come to value the presentation of persona for the sake of others' comfort.
Like if you spend less time in person-to-person interactions, its might mean you won't value it enough to constantly keep it up.
If any young Blahaj users are reading this, I want you to know that this is exactly what my cat would do; and doing this supposed behavior makes you look like a cat. You are a cat if you do this. Carry on.
Being compared to a cat sounds like a wonderful compliment. I should go nap in a sunbeam tbh
and it’s not just any cat, his cat is famous!
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