instead of brands, look for heels that are wedges, have a platform, or are kitten heels. Those are going to be more comfortable than something like a stiletto.
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This takes practice and depends a lot on your foot shape but Naturalizer are usually good, and some are good looking.
I've never had a high heel break though, how in the world are you walking that's breaking them?
Its more that they were cheap and started disintegrating... Like the paint coming off.
Real leather and good quality do eventually cost less if you keep them & take care of them (get the heels re-capped, etc.) so look for a timeless style like a 3.5 inch heel pump in black, calfskin if you can get that. I had some from the 1990s I just gave to my youngest kid's girlfriend because I don't wear heels anymore. They still look good, never seem to go out of date. Those were expensive Stuart Weitzman ones, you can sometimes get them on clearance for about $100 if you get lucky. I liked his because they had a 10 narrow, long enough but no slipping around on my feet, I could walk well in them without getting blisters.
This is quality advice. 4" or less that fit really well, and are really good quality is where it's at ... heels that aren't a perfect fit are a special kind of torture!
Be sure to store your shoes in a dry, dark place. Time and moisture can cause shoes to literally disintegrate.
Not wearing them for a long time is bad for shoes too.
I have a slightly niche need for a high heel that I can stand still in for a while. I found that, for my feet at least, if I wear flats, my heels hurt; if I wear high heels over a certain height, the balls of my feet hurt. The sweet spot for me is a heel of 1.5 inches (sorry for the freedom units). The ones I ended up getting and liking (after trying a few) were the brand Cobb Hill. They ran me slightly over $100, so I didn’t love that part, but they have a nice solid heel that I didn’t find so square that it was ugly, and they’re relatively comfy. I can’t say that after wearing them for three hours, mostly standing still, that my feet don’t hurt, but they hurt a loooot less than anything else I’ve tried.
Aqua Italia makes some good patent leather pieces. Mephisto best for walking, they have some boots with a heel.