Sounds like self harm
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100% agreed.
“Helping induce dysphoria” is not a good kind of help.
I do this for like 2 months once or twice a year until it goes away
Sounds like self harm
Dysphoria is usually cyclic, mine comes back once or twice a year and goes away after 2-4 weeks on its own, without me doing anything. My therapist, who has treated literally hundreds of trans patients, says this is an extremely common pattern. Systematically focussing in on your dysphoria probably does not help it to remit at all, but actively worsens it.
Note: this is after medically transitioning, ofc somebody with pronounced pre transition dysphoria needs actual gender affirming care, not to sit things out
I just wish it would be more consistent so i'd know if I actually needed to do any transitioning
if you're feeling dysphoric it's at least worth a shot, the difference to where i was 4 years ago is night and day
Yeah, I go on hexbear.net a lot
Sometimes also a mistake, yes, but not on anywhere near the same level as purposefully seeking to consume transphobic content.
yeah i hate all of you red facsimiles
That's selfharm. It's a psyop by nazis against transgender people. Please don't harm yourself.
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Yes, I spent a couple years on tttt largely as an outlet for transition-related misery. Fortunately, not much anymore. I wish I had some good advice for dropping the habit, but I think that I just ended up leaving those spaces because life got in the way of me checking them for a month or so, and when I returned there was a lot less novelty to it.
I think that, in my experience, those sites have power because they lack a pretense of courtesy, and therefore provide a rare space that feels more conducive to unvarnished misery and hard truths. Do you relate to that motivation? Do you have someone in your life who you feel that you can express those sorts of feelings to?
I get there's a need to openly vent things that your average tenderqueer space will censor, restrict to an opt-in channel or outright ban you for. I've been in spaces that enforce toxic positivity, i left them for a reason. These places can function like cults.
The thing is, the cult aspect is even worse in the trans negative self hater spaces and the "hard truths" that get pushed there mostly aren't hard truths. When i tell people that hang out in such spaces that i've literally met cis people less transphobic than them, which is true, and hard to accept for a lot of trans folks, i do not get celebrated for telling a hard truth, i get added to the block list. Funny how that works.
Building communities that are emotionally honest and allow for articulating pain, despair and suffering but do not actively encourage this are not easy to build, but they are what trans people, particularly transfeminine people, need as a survival network. I've also found that this does not work as a public community, we need to build these groups on our own, for each other, with people we vibe with. This is why learning ways to set up and run your own online spaces is such an important skill. When you want to build a trans mutual aid group, it comes right after estrogen cook.
The last time i opened up about questioning my gender identity/presentation my partner had a 2 week long Borderline Induced panic attack
yeah it's a den of liberals called "hexbear dot net"
All joking aside, that's rough. I know self harm is complex and isn't fixed by just not doing it but I still hope you can find a way to end that particular habit.
Please don't. You deserve better than to surround your self with harmful bullshit.
I know, easier said than done, but please be kind to yourself
I know contrapoints sucks but this reminds me of a video describing the way she would do this exact same thing. I think the video was about the black pill.
I don't know if hearing someone else's experience with doing that and coming out the other end would help, but might be worth seeking out.
Yeah, the phrasing "digital self harm" literally comes from her incel video. Another is "masochistic epistemology" for the logical fallacy where you believe that more hurtful things are more truthful. That all her takes on trans issues are also toxic and self destructive in subtle and insidious ways that will fly over the head of cis people is also due to brainworms from that kind of behavior, she's a textbook case of what transmedicalism does to a mfer even if she outwardly disavows it very vocally. I've never been on /tttt/, but i watched a lot of Contra before i came out and it made the first two years of my transition harder than they needed to be. It's also worth noting that 20 Contra videos on trans stuff didn't crack me, but seeing a happy trans woman once did the trick immediately.
I'm not saying this to dunk on her, i think she's a sad and very lost woman and deserves pity instead of snark, but i'm also aware she will not be treated that way because the behavior discussed here has conditioned her to the point where it's impossible for her to communicate publicly without some amount of trolling and when a trans woman does that kind of thing people will just tear into her in ways that they do not do with other people because we are simply seen as disposable and as a kind of "woman you're allowed to hit".
But i think it's still worth discussing here because this is such a textbook case of how people who've spent too much time on 4chan set themselves up for constant hurt.
What is /tttt/???
Self-hating trans memes, born from 4chan’s /lgbt/ board.
That sounds fucking rough
It is.
4chan's /lgbt/ board has an outsized population of self hating trans people, hence /tttt/. Basically all the weird self hating trans memes you see floating around on the internet stem from there. If you've ever heard terms like "passoid" "hon" or anything that ends in -shit that's from there.
The saddest transgenders ever
I think the only thing that rivals /tttt/ for sadness, is the people proclaiming how actually it's a good resource.
Is traaaaaaaaaaans related? That was like the only good subreddit left
traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns shut down years ago. Not related - it did sometimes have “trans people making fun of themselves” memes but not in the same self-hating self-harming transphobic way 4t stuff does.
traaaaaaaaaaans is effectively inactive.
If there’s another still active sub you’re talking about you’d need to specify the number of a’s and n’s.
Traaaaaaaaaaaaaans was populated primarily by teenage reddit users so i avoided it
Every radlib visiting hexbear
Especially the girl reading this.
Yes its called reddit
I always click on the hackernews link when I see an article is cross-posted on hackernews@lemmy.bestiver.se 
I sometimes venture into /r/worldnews just to see what the latest fascist talking points are. Not very often though, my blood pressure rises too quickly.
I stopped doing this a month ago. On firefox on my phone and laptop I have used an extension called leechblock-ng to block hacker news and lobste.rs because I hate reading about AI. Obviously it didn't turn out to be a silver bullet for all the problems in my life. But not reading techbros say weird shit about LLMs has been a huge improvement.
YouTube.
I don't use social media beyond lemmy much but I often check any political post on lemmy.world and come out feeling horrible always. The metric shit tons of racism, smug bullshit and the fact I can't really do anything about it since engaging is even more mentally draining. I sometimes do it with lemmy.ml communities too, which are a lot less damaging but still god damn
The metric shit tons of racism
an example
just 5 minutes ago i saw one person defend the EU denying genocide in gaza for "strict definitions", and another dipshit @ lw claim Africans can get away with genocide because "they're fucking browns". Both were upvoted
Not even mentioning me checking my country's/field's subreddits, utterly vile
I used to be in the habit of anon-watching on leftypol. I rationalized it to myself as being like going to the zoo to look at the most ideologically deformed versions of different left-wing tendencies, but the place just ends up doing the same kind of damage to me that my time on the chans in my late teens did. Especially everyone telling each other to
CW: self harm
kill themselves
Really just echoes in my head. I haven't looked there in months and don't plan on going back.
The comment section made me realize that my current psyche is too fucked up.
I sometimes check out the gore sites out of morbid curiosity. I regret it after closing the tab and try to keep myself away from them, but do it again anyway.