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I forgot that it's my mega week so no big info dump this time. Instead I bring a question: how do you practice gender self-care? Do you have any activities or rituals that make you feel more comfortable in your gender? Painting my nails and taking care of my hair are the most consistent ones. These shouldn't even be considered gendered activities by society, but I missed out on having long hair and painted nails when I was younger because of my assigned gender, so doing them now feels validating and gives me confidence.
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harassment from men
Men who go to bars should have a bomb implanted at the base of their skulls and every non male patron given the detonator
Nothing makes my skin crawl like some gross old man fucking grabbing my shoulder while walking past
"Have a good night"
DIE DIE DIE DIE DIE DIE DIE DIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIEDIE
Why the fuck my self esteem so low?
I live in an ideal environment to transition and go on dates and make friends but I don't do any of it because I think of myself as trash.
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spoiler suicide
I get genuinely suicidal from thinking about missing assignments and shit.
:::
I realized today that I actually do still enjoy teaching. My current job is just completely opposite to anything I find enjoyable about it. So I guess it's nice that I'm not completely ruined of this stuff
well we're girlfriends now so I guess you were right @sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 
Glad to be of service!
Mom is so worried about me having to take anti-depressants and side-effects and it being bad for me that she can't see she is the biggest reason I need them.
just venting cw: general lgbtphobia, sex
I feel like I have to hide myself to go out like I want to, sneak around and stuff, this is awful. Can I just dress however I want to and not have to hide the fact that I'm doing so? Can you please let me be myself openly? You seem so worried about the fact that I need anti-sad pills, but are you not worried WHY I'M SAD??
I was trying to go out with people, but this might not work for now. I need to move out I think... Or try to have another talk with her It's just so exhausting having to
I wish I could just do like cis het couples and go wherever, have dates and not be afraid to be myself in public, then take someone home or go to their house and it be all ok, no questions and no need for excuses. My sister could date a guy and just be ok, why can't I date a trans woman and be ok like seriously this shit just irks me so much AAAAAAAAAAAAA
Idk how to explain things to my parents especially being 
so to them I'm hijo still which I don't mind too much. Had a moment with my dad where he got a good look at my gf and he did the whole "hell yeah" and patting me on the back when he saw how pretty she is, my mom and sibling agree but I can't lie it did hit differently. I've told them a lot about her and they approve like I mentioned before, they like her good heart and her smarts too.
waow she must be real pretty 
man being sick (NOT related to my gastro stuff) blows. I missed the few minutes of my therapy session and my brain was so muddled that it was hard to talk about important stuff.
I'm reading through the Godot documentation on tweens and found the most magnificent method name of all time 
It took two years but I have a job again. Hell yeah.
Gender self care for me has been learning about transfeminism and refusing to tolerate disrespect. I'm done being treated like I'm less than. People love to tell women to shut up, they especially love to tell trans women to shut up. Especially people who wouldn't tell other women to shut up. We all deserve better than that.
This is a great reminder for me to start that transfeminism book club I was talking about.
fairly sure i've been a bit manic for the past few weeks so my impulse control is lacking and i've spent way more than i can afford
BUT.... i have a new haircut and colour (i've been cutting it myself for 8+ years because poor - this is my first fem cut), new glasses (i stopped wearing my old ones years ago because they were manly), a new piercing (i daren't do this one myself), i started round 2 of laser (tria isn't doing anything any more), and i've bought some new (to me) clothes (still don't have a complete fem wardrobe though)
i'm feeling more comfortable with myself than i have in a long time (even made a new friend!), but i feel awful about spending so much money. but idk, it's gender self-care i think?
Cutting your own hair is so impressive :o
I really wanna get some more color in mine. I have an idea for a concept I wanna try but if I get it done professionally it's gonna be expensive (two colors in a pattern)
I want to go on an adventure.
Me too. I really want to travel.
What kinda adventure do you want to go on?
grok, update my pronouns
Its been a really good two months 
a second trans woman has been shocked at how "nice" my voice is
That's cause it is silly XP
It's valid as hell to be dysphoric about it, but it is a pretty voice. It's already androgynous and maybe even on the fem side of androgynous to my ear. You definitely won't need as intense voice training as many of us to get to where you want I bet.
Shes right you know
I've had two coworkers comment on my music at work:
Have you gone to a festival? You'd really like going to a festival (I would it's on my bucket list)
why are you listening to like changing room music
๐ญ What is this. Also tbf I do listen to stuff that's a lot, a lot softer then what I listen to at home. I just thought the contrast was funny.
Changing rooms have music?
Apparently, I avoid that shit like the plague.
Honestly, demanding of trans women to assume good faith from men instead of thinly veiled transmisogynist hatred is, in itself, a form of structural transmisogyny. To request that we remain civil and polite and keep smiling in a world that wants us dead is violence.
One of the obvious eggs I watched stream a few times like last year apparently cracked at some point. Still have another who I've been waiting years for tho.
Sometimes you just can't help but set the egg timer.
Absolutely fascinated by older people (like 90 or more) who are completely chill about me being trans.
And I'm like are you really this cool? Or is this just so beyond your comprehension that I'm just a tall dame with a deep voice.
"If she says she's a dame then she's a dame", ime. The kind of gender policing we tend to take for granted had very different contours mid-century and before when anyone in their 90s today would be making up their minds on this stuff. Also, you're past 90, who gives a shit about gender? The nice lady with a lovely deep voice and I had a delightful conversation.
It's only in the late 1960s and beyond that the contemporary gender policing apparatus we live with now. it begins to become legible. IIRC passports and driver's licenses didn't even have a field for gender until the early 70s.
People from the silent generation being more accepting of trans people than boomers seems to be quite common. It should really be studied.
OMG IM SO GAY AND HOMOSEXUAL LESBIAN GAY WOMEN I LOVE WOMEN GAY WOMEN
IS SHE GAY OR EUROPEAN?
Sometimes both!
(She's gay)
i've started to brush my hair with more uh intent. 10 strokes, then flip it all over my face dangling down and 20 strokes, then flip it to both sides of my face and brush it down. gets rid of all the loose hair and it honestly looks pretty good, have gotten compliments and it's the only thing i changed about my haircare.
done in the morning and before bed