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[–] OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world 9 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Conservatives have the dumbest hangups. I can’t imagine being so upset over dyed hair.

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Like piercings, it's what it indicates: Agency.

[–] OhStopYellingAtMe@lemmy.world 3 points 2 days ago

…and abortions.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 2 points 2 days ago

They have no problem with dyed hair. They have problem with hair dyed a colour they don't personally approve of. It's all about control.

[–] Wren@lemmy.today 43 points 4 days ago (2 children)

I used to dye my hair a different colour every month. Can confirm, it repells the kind of people I don't want to sleep with. My ex got mad because I'm a natural blonde and "why would I ruin that."

[–] Omnipitaph@reddthat.com 23 points 4 days ago (2 children)

But blonde is the easiest hair to dye!

[–] Limonene@lemmy.world 21 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Yeah, more like: you have the perfect canvas; why would you not paint on it?

[–] quinacridone@mander.xyz 8 points 4 days ago

That's the problem with my ash brown hair, I'd have to bleach it before I could go mad with colour, so its basically too much hassle, which is a bummer

Oh to have a blank canvas to paint on!

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[–] lumettaria@sopuli.xyz 5 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Whoa that's very white supremacey ngl, glad you got rid of him

[–] SharkWeek@lemmy.blahaj.zone 30 points 4 days ago (1 children)

The rainbow hair looks awesome!

The brown hair? Also awesome.

Ladies look awesome. I love you all <3

[–] msage@programming.dev 3 points 2 days ago

Yeah, I wanna try the rainbow look... it looks amazing

[–] purplerabbit@piefed.blahaj.zone 38 points 4 days ago (3 children)

God. Having to date cis men sounds fucking exhausting.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 36 points 4 days ago (1 children)

It can be rough, but when a good one shows up it’s really amazing. Men can be so interesting and kind and sweet.

Luckily they aren’t generally the ones to be offended by women choosing how they want to present :)

[–] GhostFace@lemmy.today 12 points 4 days ago (3 children)

Please share with us all how to find the good ones.

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 26 points 4 days ago (1 children)

Every good one I've found in my life was found through shared activities that had nothing to do with dating or romance until later. The absolute worst ones in my life were blind date setups.

[–] RebekahWSD@lemmy.world 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I found my husband by playing tabletop rpgs! I did not play to find a husband! That's important. I played and had fun and found a smart interesting human!

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 5 points 3 days ago

My SO of over 20 years and I met each other playing RPGs and card games. And exactly: friends with shared interests first, lovers later.

[–] Folstar@lemmus.org 5 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I say this both bitterly sardonic of they way people handle relationships and oozing almost Hallmark levels of radiant positivity as it is where I found my spouse: check the friend zone.

[–] GhostFace@lemmy.today 1 points 3 days ago (1 children)

I am attempting to put myself out there more but I've been having mixed results. Really, really mixed results. Responding right now because the person I've been spending a lot of time with recently and considering just turned out to have some values that are just incompatible with mine. I really didn't expect that from them given who they are, who we met through and so on.

I also feel like I'm going to have to settle sometimes and I'd just sooner be alone than do that.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I also feel like I'm going to have to settle sometimes and I'd just sooner be alone than do that.

Don't settle! Relationships don't have to last forever to be considered successful in my opinion. You can enjoy sharing your time with someone and appreciate it for what it was when it's over and that's still totally ok.

There's billions of people in the world. It's very hard to find another person who is compatible enough to share your life with, but there's fun and experiences to be had on the journey looking for them.

[–] GhostFace@lemmy.today 1 points 2 days ago (1 children)

There is always something lacking in a major way and the odds just aren't that good anyway. The stats for men in my age range being conservative is like 70% or more.

This guy that I was just spending time with. Black, well educated aaaaaaaaand conservative, voting red. Our shared hobbies never indicated this either because all of them seemed more like hobbies that those types would avoid. Just what are the odds here?

I feel so unlucky right now. All I'm asking is for someone who is well educated, takes care of themselves, pulls their weight and has humane views. I'm going to fucking cry because apparently that's asking for a lot.

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 2 days ago

I'm sorry you're feeling so hopeless about this. You're not asking for too much! Sending you a lot of warm thoughts today <3

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 3 days ago

I dated. A lot. Went on so, so many dates after my divorce and met lots and lots of different people.

When meeting people through apps, I would text quite a bit first AND set up a video-call as a sort of test date. If they still seemed cool, I would go on an in-person date.

It helps weed out the assholes a lot, but it's time and labor intensive.

Solution: Date trans men.

[–] ayyy@sh.itjust.works 4 points 3 days ago (2 children)

Haha bigotry is so funny 😂

[–] velma@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 3 days ago

Dating in general is fucking exhausting.

[–] lumettaria@sopuli.xyz 4 points 3 days ago

Honestly it just got old to be always subjected to it and assumed to just take it.

[–] Bubbaonthebeach@lemmy.ca 38 points 4 days ago (1 children)

One of the things I love about my husband: he might prefer me with long blond hair but I don't know because sometimes I decide to cut it off short or dye it black or purple and for the last 35 years he has just said, I see you got your hair done.

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 36 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

I was really nervous to bring up to my boyfriend that I wanted to shave the side of my head. My ex husband would have blown a gasket.

I shaved it and it’s not a problem at all because he doesn’t love my hair, he loves me :)

Sure, Steve. I guess wearing shades and clothes while moving inside an iron box propelled by the combustion of a liquid extracted from the remains of millions of years old beings is completely natural, Steve. You see a lot of animals doing it aside humans, right Steve?

Smh... Imagine being scared of a woman's hair color... Steve's ego must be really fragile, huh?

[–] lumettaria@sopuli.xyz 13 points 3 days ago

The brown hair one reminds me of calico cats, it's gorgeous

[–] sylveon@piefed.blahaj.zone 20 points 4 days ago

I love it when they tell on themselves!

I've always been a huge fan of these colourful looks. I wish I could get something like a gradient/ombré but I'm scared of damaging my sparse and very thin hair too much.

[–] applebusch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 21 points 4 days ago

If you look at it from the perspective of bird culture, flamboyant color is a highly masculine trait, being pretty much exclusive to males biologically in many species. Maybe Steve feels emasculated by a superior show of color.

[–] kurikai@lemmy.world 24 points 4 days ago (2 children)

yet maga loves them bleached blonde

[–] ZDL@lazysoci.al 18 points 4 days ago

I'm reminded of a throwaway line in an old game's historical timeline. "Seattle taken over by Nazis. Thousands flee. Hundreds of thousands invest in peroxide." (Paraphrased because I don't have the book readily available.)

[–] velma@sh.itjust.works 6 points 4 days ago

And they love to complain about blue-haired liberals.

[–] DragonAce@lemmy.world 9 points 3 days ago

I happen to love unnatural rainbow colored hair. Some women can really pull it off well, it looks amazing.

[–] LadyButterfly@reddthat.com 11 points 4 days ago

Oh this is AMAZING

[–] wuphysics87@lemmy.ml 8 points 4 days ago

I agree with him. Women who die their hair like that are badass

[–] lumettaria@sopuli.xyz 4 points 3 days ago

Almost snorted out my tea

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