Yes and no.
I dont know your wife or her family so pinch of salt and all. But it sounds like cigarettes are a safety blanket back before marriage, mortgages, dad was alive, kids... they dont judge, they help with stress and they give you an excuse to give yourself a 5 minute break now and then.
You arent wrong to be upset but empathy and understanding will go further than bitching and guilt. Addicts are the worlds best excuse makers and the "Oh FUCK HIM" impulse is real.
Some movies (Marvel, Fast and Furious, Transformers) are Pepperoni Pizza. They are not a 7 course dining experience because THEY DIDNT SET OUT TO BE!
If you sit down to a pizza and tell me its the worst soup you ever had, you're a dumbass.
Its actually a lack of them.
"Hey, can you move your bag so I can have that seat?"
Is a profound lack of give a damn about how uncomfortable I make other people. They know what they are doing, quietly signalling that they dont want anybody sitting there. Other people who do have social graces will stand around quietly staring daggers and silently judging, Im just gonna make this shit awkward for the both of us.
Why cant a guy just really like blowjobs and not be fussy. Always with the labels.
People.ask me "Why do you wear nothing but Vans and Dickies?"
Because I know their cuts and sizing and I can order the right thing first time every time online.
Having been a new parent and having a stressful job at the same time, I am absolutely guilty of enjoying the peacefulness of grocery shopping and just... spacing the fuck out.
For that hour (that could have taken 10 minutes) nobody is up my ass about something. Ive already been given the task (grocery shopping) and until thats done nobody else is trying to heap shit onto my plate.
Think more along the lines of "Extreme focus on something wildly unrelated to what you are supposed to be doing that is incredibly critical right now.
I knew Identical twins. They got so fed up with people asking "Are you really Identical?" They would just say fucked up things. "No not 100%, I got molested he didnt."
Hey Ma! Theres a weird fuckin cat outside!
Honestly where the fuck are the gangbangers in all this? All that talk about fuck the police and how hard they are and all and there hasnt been one incidence of ICE being rolled up on by the westside crips.
17x7.5,, has a made in england stamping but no definitive stampings for pcd, offset or centerbore. Look like RS Cosworth wheels but arent. Has a retaining bolt hole for the flat bolt hole cover (which I'll post in another comment, which matches some 90s ford wheels) owner says they came off a Peugeot but my fellow french car enthusiasts say they definitely arent an OE Peugeot wheel.
Ha!
As a middle aged man you think its great for us? You think all the hot, sane, independent women in their 30s and 40s are strugging for options? If you're on there theres a 80% chance that you're no catch either.
Last time my dude showed me a bunch of profiles it was easily 50% "applications to be a stepdad" and 25% women with a checklist (6 foot tall, good living, own house, etc.) Like 6 foot tall athletic lawyers who own their own home are having trouble meeting women.