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[–] isame@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago

I could certainly see it being useful there. And I remember hearing about it back in 'my day' but never tried it. I was just worried about it scratching the itch too well and making me want to relapse. And it does give some of the same feelings as opioids. But it doesn't hook me the same way. I'll buy a bag of capsules and forget I have them sometimes, which is just not something I've ever done with anything.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 3 points 1 month ago (4 children)

I haven't done any research but I can anecdotally report the same. I quit in October using kratom. I was also in active opioid addiction for like 10 years (sober since 2017), so I had to be really careful. But something about kratom makes it manageable for me. I'll take it a few times a month just to tweak the ol brain chemistry a touch.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

As a person who has had strong desire for alcohol and is an alcoholic, this reasoning unfortunately doesn't hold up well. Because, for me at least, it was this sucks... but I COULD be drunk and it might suck less. I was the kind of alcoholic who'd down a 9% tallboy before work some days just to ease into my day. At 3am.

That said, to OP, you've got this. It feels like a long time, especially if it's your first out of rehab. Try to keep yourself busy. Find something to read, a video game to lose yourself in. Go on walks. I like bike rides, if that's your thing. I just went and rode a few miles of trails yesterday because I was having a rough mental health day.

If you need someone to talk at hit me up. The only thing that sucks more than falling off, to me, is having to start sobriety all over again.

Good luck friend!

[–] isame@hexbear.net 9 points 1 month ago

As did I. My brain must have read 'brother' before I even realized it.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 10 points 1 month ago

I was just complaining to a friend that I think it's fucking absurd that Messenger still doesn't work with webp but I now have an 'imagine' button for making stupid 'AI' art.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 2 points 1 month ago

Lol idk about comrades but I definitely met some Christians like that growing up.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

That is something I'm always really careful of. It mostly means I just don't. I'm not the least intimidating guy, and I'm pan so anyone can infer a come-on lol.

On that note, I often don't do it even when it is a come-on, because I don't know when that's appropriate behavior. So no meeting strangers for me, apparently.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Not in hopes they needed it - I'd rather they didn't - but if they did need it, hoping I could help.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 28 points 1 month ago (7 children)

Those little comments can really be amazing for your short-term mental health. The other day some random person stopped at a red light on their scooter complimented my hair as I rode through the crosswalk.

My hair goes halfway down my ass. I've grown it for years and it means a lot to me. I mostly just wash and condition it and keep it brushed, and put it up for work. Nothing fancy. So it could use some extra care. Lately I've started using a bonding shampoo and conditioner to help repair the ends and occasionally some grape seed oil. So them complimenting it specifically when I'd been putting a little extra effort in absolutely made my day. I was smiling for the rest of the ride home. And I'd really needed a boost as my mental health has been record low lately.

I try to remember this as I go about my life, and give people little compliments when appropriate, in hopes that maybe they needed it, too.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 1 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Amber whataboutism volcel police

[–] isame@hexbear.net 4 points 1 month ago

I did not know what waffle stomping was. I regrettably do now.

[–] isame@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

I have not cut my hair in... 10? years.

 

I'm having to pay my rent late again this month. I have $200 set aside, and on this upcoming check I'll have an additional $350. My apartment complex is agreed to let me pay my rent on the 13th, and pay the late fees at a later time. So I'll be about $250 short of rent and utilities.

I have an appointment to get my cast removed from my arm on the 20th of this month, have to wish I'll have some physical therapy. But at least once I get the cast off, I should be able to then find a second job. As it stands right now, I'm simply unable to afford to live, even working a full-time job.

Thank you in advance for any help you're able to provide. Anything helps.

Cashapp is $sgriffith0891

PayPal is sgriffith0891 at geemail

 

I need about 50 for groceries and essentials.

PayPal is sgriffith0891 at gmail Cashapp is $sgriffith0891

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submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by isame@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 

A quick update to anyone concerned, I was able to get help from my aunt to pay my rent, so I'm still housed. I'm not sure how to make next month's, but I have some time.

Currently, though, I have an appointment Monday to get my cast removed, xrays done again to make sure it's healing, and the cast replaced. My co-pay for this appointment is $50, which I do not have. It's kind of important, and also it's hard for me to schedule around work and having to ride the bus.

PayPal is sgriffith0891 at geemail CashApp is $sgriffith0891

Any help is appreciated. As an aside, my wrist does feel like it's healing well, so I doubt I'll need surgery.

 

I'm having to pay my rent late and also had to miss two days of work this week due to being unable to travel in a hurricane. I don't have PTO left so that will be unpaid. I need the money by Wednesday at the latest. I'm going to try to contact social services to see if I can get rental assistance in the meantime.

My PayPal is sgriffith0891 at geemail dot com

CashApp is $sgriffith0891

Thank you all!

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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by isame@hexbear.net to c/chat@hexbear.net
 

So last week I broke my wrist. I naively thought work would cover my wages because I am full-time, have full benefits, and work for a fortune whatever company. It's a fucking grocery store.

Turns out I have to submit a form to get paid. No one told me this, so I did not get paid today. I was going to be late on rent because I don't make enough, but now I don't think I can make rent at all. I'm so close to just getting in contact with some travelers I know and checking out. I gave it a go right? But I don't want to. I want to live a quiet life with a little apartment, no kids. Just let me have a studio and a fulfilling job.

I take a lot of pride in my work. It's simple. I'm a produce clerk. But I work for a big company, and they do as they do. Nothing is good enough. Nothing we do is good enough. So my pride is gone. I come in, work, go home. I do not care. I wanted to be management. No way in hell.

I'm exhausted, comrades. I don't know what to do.

 

I'll try to keep it short because I'm sure people are tired of hearing about it.

The week that I was out with my broken wrist, I thought would be paid. I've never had a job with PTO or sick time before. I'd used my allotted PTO for the year. So I put in my requests as serious medical (injury), assuming they'd pay me and then if I was found to be fraudulent they'd claw that back. Oh boy, am I naive. Definitely feeling stupid for a grown ass man.

So needless to say I didn't get a paycheck as I was supposed to. My apartment complex agreed yesterday to let me pay rent late on the 9th, and I'd just be responsible for the late fees within two weeks of the 9th. I could have pulled that off with about ~30 left between the next two weeks, but I'd still have a place to stay.

So now I'm here. I don't know what else to do. I'm going to go get the paperwork for FMLA (medical leave) signed by the doctor today, but this process can take weeks and I'm not even 100% sure it will work, as someone made a comment about it not kicking in for two weeks. I took that to mean FMLA won't kick in unless it was bad enough for me to be out of work for two weeks. Guess I should have milked that doctor's note huh?

So, I hate landlords, I hate capitalism. I have a couple groceries thanks to the fine folks here the other day, but now I need ~460 (this check will be complete and I can cover the other 300) by the 9th, plus the normal bills and such I was hoping to cover this week, along with groceries and etc, totaling 100.

I'll accept any advice in this situation as well, but I think I'm on top of it now. I just didn't realize I was supposed to be filling out paperwork while I was sitting in the ER and had no idea what was happening...

So actual long story short: Got hurt, work/capitalism fucked me, and I'm short on short-term bills to the tune of $100 and need an additional ~460 by the 9th. I don't expect the comm to make up all this difference, but I don't have friends with any available resources at the moment. I'm resourceful and will keep trying, but I'm in a tough spot. With my wrist broken there's not much side work I can do.

Thank you all so much. I'm trying really hard not to freak out about this. I really don't want to be homeless and start over again.

PayPal is sgriffith0891 at gee mail dot com

CashApp is $sgriffith0891

P.S. In other news, I'm pretty sure I'm easing some of my coworkers more and more left, so that's fun!

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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by isame@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 

[Thank you!]

So basically here's the story:

Last week I broke my wrist and now I'm in a cast for ~8 weeks. I've been on shaky financial footing for a while, but that set me back even more. Had to spend money on Ubers and extra food, copays, etc. I'm okay and back to work on light duty.

I'm going to talk to my apartment complex today to see if I can pay late this month without the late fees, because that's about the only way I can afford it. I'll be behind for next, but I have more time to adjust for that. There's two paychecks between now and the 9th that will total just shy of 800, which is just enough to pay rent plus a few essentials. Then there's three more checks after that in October, so hopefully I can actually get caught up this time. This treadmill is really starting to beat me down.

On top of that, I've got little to no food currently. I got a little help here the other day, but unfortunately I'm a hungry boy and even just buying chicken legs and rice and a couple veggies doesn't go very far.

So this one is a bit open-ended, I suppose. I am most likely going to need more help coming up, as I can't even do lawn work on the side. But for the moment, I need some food and a thing of toilet paper. I ate the last of my chicken and rice last night, and my stomach is starting to grumble. I should have posted then but thought I might have something else in the works. That didn't pan out.

Thank all of you so much for the help you give - not just to me but to everyone here. I am amazed at the things this community has been able to accomplish, just watching the requests being fulfilled. You all are fucking amazing.

For anyone interested, it's a minimally displaced scaphoid fracture. I just took a little tumble off my bike. Nothing dramatic or exciting; honestly it was kind of embarrassing.

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submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by isame@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 

[Need Met! Thank you!] I just need 20 or so for some groceries.

Thank you all!

 

So, I managed to fall off my bike and fracture my wrist. I went to the ER on Friday and an internal medicine referral today, who referred me to ortho surgery for them to check it out and make a treatment recommendation, and whether or not I need surgery.

For the hospital visit day, which took about 8 hours for me to get a splint/brace and the referral, I spent money on Ubering to and from, plus a stop for ibuprofen, plus food for myself and my friend that went with me.

All that to say I'm now broke, and I am supposed to go to ortho tomorrow, which should be a $50 copay. I think I'm okay on other things for now, and that is my main concern. Apparently this particular bone can just die if not addressed, I work exclusively with my hands - stocking groceries and cutting fruit - so I can't work right now at all. Not at least until I see the appropriate doctors. I do have coverage through work and should be fine there, or as fine as I ever was with what I was making.

So, in short, in need of $50 to cover a medical copay.

Paypal is sgriffith0891 at geemail dot com

CashApp is $sgriffith0891

Thank you, friends!

P.S. I made it 33 years without breaking a bone!

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by isame@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 

I'm out of money and food until Tuesday night, so I could really use some help. Anything at all is helpful right now. I just spent my last 1.60 on three cups of ramen for lunch at work.

Thank you, comrades.

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submitted 10 months ago* (last edited 10 months ago) by isame@hexbear.net to c/mutual_aid@hexbear.net
 

[Thank you!]

I could really use some help with groceries. I get paid tonight but it's all going to my past-due rent. I'm having to pay like 120 in late fees this month because I couldn't make it happen on time.

So I just need some food. Thank you all so much. Life has kind of thrown me a curve ball in terms of a couple personal relationships and I could really do without the added stress of trying to figure out how I'm eating. Also, if anyone has suggestions on good poverty food please feel free to share!

 

This may be the wrong comm. Sorry if it is.

I recently misplaced my pride lanyard, along with my keys. The keys have been replaced. I'd like to buy something pansexual-themed, as that is how I identify. Does anyone have any good sources for such things? I found a seller on Etsy that sold chainmaille pieces (I used to make them), but my order was cancelled. I assume the shop is defunct. A lanyard isn't necessary, but something subtle that I can wear at a major grocery chain would be good. We're allowed a little personal expression.

Shipping in the US is a requirement.

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