You are trans. There is all the difference in the world.

The biggest one would be that you would approach such a comm and talking to trans people in it as a trans person, to learn more about it for yourself? You also probably have far more awareness and respect than the average cis person does even just now. I haven't really seen you (or anyone else, except me lol) put foot in mouth, you approach it from a place of respect and understanding, a similar mindspace. I just do not trust the average cis, who has often devoted less than seconds of total thought to gender, to handle those subjects well. Brainworms get dug out in this megathread; cis people are often made of brainworms and don't even think it's bad. I might not be explaining this well...

It may well be possible to moderate such a comm the same way this one is, but that'd be even more load on the mods Idk.

What's the difference between that and me (or some other baby trans)?

Well, you want honest thoughts, so imma be honest here. A lot of baby trans people just aren't very safe to be around for other trans people when it comes to things like residual cishetnormative habits, internalized transphobia, trauma dumping without warning and especially rampant untreated dysphoria they need to vent about without knowing how to talk dysphoria in ways that do not reflect back on other trans people and harm them. It's work helping the younglings along. And specifically in regards to your question, i usually do not feel much more comfortable discussing sex with freshly cracked eggs than i do with cishet guys. There's already some notable differences even before the crack, many transbians have always felt different from straight guys for very good reasons, but there'll also be tons of learned behavior she hasn't unlearned yet.

Here's the main difference to cis guys, tho: Eggs can, and usually deeply want to learn to act better than that, and when you do not want to be seen as a man, you can shed patriarchal ideas much faster than somebody who has to maintain a masculine gender role. Transfems can improve on these things at a lightning pace that will never be achievable for cis dudes, not even queer cis dudes, because a transfem coming out of her shell actively wants to discard things that men feel a need to hold on to. So i'm trying my best to give the egg / baby trans crowd room to grow and to learn, and to be less harsh on them than i'd be on cis people. But yeah, it often costs a lot of spoons. I feel an obligation to do that work and give back to the community, but it can be demanding when you see somebody with a lot of baggage to unpack and don't know where to begin.