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why the fuck does every form of flirting feel like sexual harassment
and what the fuck can i do about it
believe that you are desired
Yes, but this can be very difficult to do when you've never experienced love. Like, I'm still struggling with this myself, no matter how many times my girlfriend says she loves me, because I'm not used to this new feeling.
well there's my problem
i've never really believed that in my life
i know i should but uh.... it's hard to just flip on that switch
Like when you flirt with others it feels like youre harassing people?
yeah. i want to flirt with people but literally anything i do feels like i'm going too far. there is no "safe" area, i might as well be sexally harassing someone. this means i basically can't flirt with anyone because anything is a bridge too far and idk what to do
I dunno if your city has a gay bar or some trans t4t style event but usually people go to those to be flirted with.
Do you feel locked up by anxiety and fear of rejection? Or is it a fear that you dont deserve to come on to someone because you think trans people shouldn't because of some possibly internalized transphobia? If you're worried about coming across as creepy, the fact that you care how you come across puts you way ahead of creeps
I fear that anything I say is going to be followed with a "stop talking to me creep" and is too far, unwarranted, and just creepy. So the only time I ever say anything "flirty" it just comes off as 100% friendly and only slightly plausibly flirting
Big mood, I think a lot of it is just testing boundaries and backing off if you get a no or maybe. I think all my crushes went nowhere mostly because I kept people at arms length by being polite vs warm. A good way to get started is probably bullshitting with friends not necessarily flirting but more ripping on each other like good friends do, if you go too far with a friend you apologize and talk through it.