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Sex, gender, expression, and orientation are separate dimensions and can vary independently. While there is coupling and correlation, they are distinct
"lesbian" inherently couples gender identity and sexual preference, no? Language and identity are certainly malleable, but it would be news to me than "lesbian" got the "gay" treatment (where the meaning did change from "homosexual man" to "homosexual or bisexual", depending on the social circle).
A trans woman is a woman. If they are attracted to women, they are a lesbian. Regardless of whether or not they are trans.
yeah
And even within that, T4T is a common preference categorization as well, whether it's for inherent attraction or just practical reasons. There are terms that prefer solely to the target gender so for instance I'm androphilic (vs gynophilic) mostly in my romantic aspect. I don't mind both sexually, I've just found women's personalities to be difficult to deal with / have difficulty dealing with me romantically (practical preference). Now, gender wise I'm roughly here:
♀️<----------|×--------->♂️
And my visual preference for a partner is about
♀️<------|---|------|---->♂️
And my personality preference is about
♀️<---------||---|------>♂️
so really CAN I be gay? Especially if I was right on the line there. I will say hubs seems to prefer roughly:
♀️<--|-------|-----|---->♂️
which is pretty neatly bisexual.