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I’ve made a lot of friends just being “out” somewhat regularly. I have a few favorite bars/breweries in the area that I’ll just bring my book to and hang out reading at the bar. Even doing a solitary activity in public ends up getting me into conversations, usually with people who share similar interests.
One of the best advice I have ever got is when you talk to people is ask their names after giving yours. It turns people you meet into the start of being friends. It shows you care to know more about them.
Is this what I'm doing wrong? I hate telling strangers my name.
It’s definitely worth practicing, and the earlier you do it in an interaction the easier. If I’m chatting with someone for more than a minute or two, or we talk about something more interesting than casual small talk, I’ll just extend my hand and say “I’m by the way.” It’s never resulted in anything other than them shaking my hand and telling me their name.
Usually they want my name to try to sell me something. Usually solar panels. Sometimes cell phone service
It's more difficult for people to address you if they don't know your name. If someone sees you again after your first meeting, do you want them to come up and say "Hey... you! What's up?"
Yeah, why wouldn't I?