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Sedum multiceps - Trans Megathread for the week 2026-07-07 to 2026-07-13 (hexbear.net)
submitted 5 days ago by Eco@hexbear.net to c/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns@hexbear.net
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[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 7 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (2 children)

::: spoiler you've probably heard all this before, but on the off chance you haven't (cw for explicit descriptions of stuff)

Most important here is point number 3 and 4.

  • relaxation&arousal are super important.
  • position is also helpful, try on your own and with a partner every way you can think of. Legs behind your head, all fours, on your side, standing, whatever you can think of.
  • PRACTICE!! its a muscle, you gotta train it! Regular butt stuff, even if its just a finger every day to boof your prog, is super helpful.
  • kegels. Its not just about opening up, its about closing too. Having good control of the muscles really helps.
  • dildo material and shape matter (at least for me). Silicon works. Latex condoms struggle with friction for me. The realistic dildo works, the funky bumpy one doesn't (even though its smaller circumference).
  • foreplay. Helps with getting in the mood and relaxing. Find what works for you on your own and with a partner.
  • if you've cleaned thoroughly you can try to push/bear down. But make sure you've cleaned thoroughly or it can lead to a mess.
  • poppers. Theyre not actually that harmful in small amounts, and if they help me have good sex theyre worthwhile.
  • how you "get going". Like, I like to get a dildo in me and just leave it there for a bit. Helps things adjust. This happens first and then later I'll pull it out for sex with a partner. Works better than a plug cause the neck isnt as skinny. Get some rope and use a crotch rope tie to hold it in. Or just do that and use it to hold a wand on the base of the dildo, feels quite good.
  • positioning the tip of whatever is penetrating you correctly is also important. Idk if its just the tops ive slept with or if my bootyhole is extra confusing, but they try to push against not-the-actual-hole, which uh doesn't work and is painful. Also the angle youre going in, I find going in angled (like a plane landing, pull the nose up so youre pushing in but also down) somehow is easier than just going straight in.

I'm sure there's more to be said, but thats everything from the top of my head. Mostly its finding what works for you.

[โ€“] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 7 points 3 days ago (1 children)

God loves her bottoms o7

All that work, damn.

[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago)

Thankiess doggirl-grinWe work hard so we can play harddoggirl-smug

[โ€“] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 6 points 4 days ago (1 children)

spoilerThis is all actually very helpful. A couple questions:

  • where do I get poppers lol?
  • do you have a link to that crotch rope tie?
[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago) (1 children)

::: spoiler spoiler

So, for poppers, depends on what country youre in. Tbh I just bought cheapo shit at I think a gas station? Its been so long I dont remember, I dont really use them anymore.

For the crotch tie, first off you MUST have safety shears on hand. They are not optional if youre doing bondage. For the crotch rope tie you'll need a ~15ft length of rope. Dont use dynamic rope, use static rope thats made for bondage. Cotton is very soft. Hemp is rougher, jute is quite rough. For this kind of thing where its long wear and not for a scene, I use cotton rope for comfort. Hemp is reallllyyyy nice but gets a bit rough after a few hours (last time I did this I had the tie on for about 3 hours, adjusting as needed for circulation. It was uhhhh very fun doggirl-smug)

I found this link but it isnt quite what I do so I'll describe below how I do it: https://www.shibariacademy.com/pages/simple-waist-harness-shibari-academy

So I do basically the above, but instead of tieing at the back, I pull it back between my legs a second time and secure it at the front, so I am able to cinch it down at will (did I mention safety shears are not optional?). It also means less fiddling about behind my back where I can't see, which is helpful for when I'm on my own. Also also I find it quite nice cause I can get a dildo in me, and then cinch down easily to push it further in to me. Also also also, the first time going between your legs, tie some overhands in the rope. If you position them right, this can hold a magic wand against the dildo and A) push it further in when you cinch down, and B) vibrate till youre a sloppy thoughtless mess.

If youre doing this its a good idea to use a dildo with a flared base so it doesn't accidentally slip all the way in

[โ€“] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 4 points 4 days ago (1 children)

spoilerI've only got jute rope atm. Where do you get cotton bondage rope?

[โ€“] lilypad@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago (1 children)

::: spoiler spoiler

Its pretty cheap, you can likely get some from.any old sex shop or online store.

Jute will absolutely work, I just prefer cotton for this application.

[โ€“] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 2 points 3 days ago

spoileryeah, cotton seems like the way to go for long-term wear