I don't want this too be too late so just gonna throw this up rn and edit it later with my notes later so look forward to learning about capacitors :)
Fuck it we ball, capacitors what I know of them is they help motors start. In HVAC we got two of them run capacitor a and start capacitors. Motors that are aren't 3 phase need a phase shift to get them going. Thing is motors need power coming in to be just right if a start capacitor is left running it will draw locked motor amperage and shut it all down so it's put in series with a PTC relay (once this gets too hot it opens and shuts off power to the start capacitor) letting just the run to do it's thing.
Capacitors need to be tested by isolating and discarding them and checking for capacitance in microfarads. The rating is usually on the capacitor and needs to be within +-10%. On the capacitor the voltage is supplied too with 2 different values. The higher value is the real one so this means you can use it on a size lower if you want. I've heard of testing them under load to fully get how they work,you take amperage on the start winding then multiply by 2652 then divide voltage across the capacitor to check if it's good.
Anyway capacitors got oil in them to dissipate heat, thin plates of metal and plastic between them to insulate. These are used to store power, try not to fuck with them even unplugged they can still hurt you. The oil can also be an issue obvs. Anyway they store and discharge voltage they don't boost it, at least in ac systems. If you read a higher voltage it's most likely back EMF generated from the motor as it runs. Anyway you gotta take this into account when sizing relays.
One more thing capacitors when wired in series will have reduced capacitinace, 1/C +1/C but wired in parallel you just add them C+C. Probably doesn't mean much to people but for electricians it's useful if you don't have the right size. Only connecting them in parallel is probably the only reason to do it practically.
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It's time for a far too long rant from me, a person who doesn't spend enough time in the trans mega to feel like I have any right to ask you lovely people to read my shit!
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My dad is a manipulative asshole and I'm having a hard time coming to terms with that.My sister and I are both trans and have been out for years at this point. My dad and sister have always had a strained relationship, which has ebbed and flowed over the years. Recently, their relationship seemed really good, the best it's been since before she was a teenager. My dad was being kind and my sister was enjoying spending time with him.
That is, until about a week and a half ago when my dad and sister spent the day together doing a really neat folk tradition in the town where we grew up. Because my fucking dad misgendered my sister all day. Literally every time he introduced her to someone or spoke about her it was "my son" and "he".
My sister sent him a text the next day basically saying "hey, I can't talk to you for awhile, the way you acted yesterday was unacceptable, I'll get in contact again when I'm ready" and he texts back with (paraphrased) "it's so hard for me that you're trans, I didn't understand that it was real and not a phase, trans women are in such danger, a good proportion of them detransition, I'm sad I'll never have grandchildren, my life has been so hard since my divorce, and also my dad was a real piece of work and I'm way better than he was".
And like, fucking hell is that not the right response!! Not once did he even gesture towards an apology, it was all about how hard it is for him to deal with the fact that my sister is trans.
I talked to him on the phone, trying to figure out what the fuck he was thinking and got the exact same spiel! He started crying (literally crying, my dad uses tears as very effective emotional manipulation, which it somehow took until the conversation I'm relating for me to realize) about how sad he is that he and Mom are no longer together, which is fucking rich because he divorced her!! It was not mutual, it was entirely my dad's decision to end his marriage, and yet my mom is the evil one for not groveling to try to get back with Dad.
He then proceeded to call my sister childish for refusing to talk to him, and when I said that's not fair and actually he's the one being childish, he told me I should talk to a few adults about the situation to get their take. I'm 35. By any definition I'm an adult, and I said as much to him.
Then at the end of the conversation, Dad made sure to point out to me that he hadn't misgendered my sister a single time in the entire phone conversation. I said that was true and thanked him for it. It was only later that I realized, hang on, Dad never misgenders her when talking to me! I literally don't remember the last time he fucked it up where I could hear him! And that's fucked. It means he knows he should be treating my sister as a woman and is perfectly capable of doing so in certain contexts. He specifically chose to misgender her the day they spent together and his "I'm just a clueless idiot, how could I possibly have known?!?!" is entirely an act!
For so many years I've been making excuses for him: he grew up in a different time, his dad was an abusive pos, he really truly loves us even if he doesn't quite see who we truly are, he's miserable and doesn't understand his own emotions, etc. I think I'm done. I think I can't make these excuses for him any more. He needs to change his behavior or he will never talk to his daughter again, it's straight up that simple.
I'm going to avoid ranting too much about how he has never, not once used they/them pronouns for me. I got over it long ago, even though his reasoning for this inability (which he's happy to share with me), is that "singular they is bad grammar". I've told him, time and time again that that's just not true! Shakespeare used singular they. And furthermore, even if the singular they was actually a new bit of grammar, and not at least as old as Shakespeare, so fucking what! Languages change! Constantly! And that's a good thing!
I think he probably could use my correct pronouns if he cared about who I actually am. Of course it's hard for people his age, of course he'd mess up sometimes, but you know? He could fucking try. He won't, but he could if he cared to. I can't excuse his lack of trying anymore. Sure, I don't really care, I'm comfortable enough in my gender that it doesn't bother me when people use he or she for me, but his not even pretending to try is more evidence that he just doesn't care enough about his children to see us as real people. And that's a little fucked, really
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lol. I can tell you as an adult, as the one who makes parents cry, who cuts parents off and never speaks to them again, your reaction is 100 percent valid. Honestly I wanted to post something similar but it was about my sister and her kids, and how she's starting to act like our mother when her kids set boundaries now that they are adults. I dont understand it, they think they're doing "their best" but their best is nowhere near good enough. I have said time and time again, if my kids or nieces/nephews came to me with an issue or boundary, I would fold / apologize / vow to do better every time.
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I also would immediately fold and try to do better if a young person I cared about told me I'd messed up! It's wild to me how many full-ass adults can't seem to get out of their own little "I'm the main character" bubble long enough to realize they are being assholes.It's extremely disappointing that Dad would rather protect his ego than become a better father to his children.
I'm sorry your sister is doing the same shit to her children. That's gotta be hard to watch, for sure
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Parents cam be so dismissive of their children's autonomy. They are taught to do it by society which considers children to be property.
It's more than it's fair share of fucked π
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They really can! It's taken me years to understand that my dad's behavior is Not Ok. It's so easy to think "we could have it so much worse, at least our dad isn't a raging bigot to our faces, so it's unfair to expect better than we get".And like, that's true, I guess, he could be a raging bigot, but if he were, we would have already cut him out of our lives! In a weird sort of way, that situation would be easier