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I don't want this too be too late so just gonna throw this up rn and edit it later with my notes later so look forward to learning about capacitors :)

Fuck it we ball, capacitors what I know of them is they help motors start. In HVAC we got two of them run capacitor a and start capacitors. Motors that are aren't 3 phase need a phase shift to get them going. Thing is motors need power coming in to be just right if a start capacitor is left running it will draw locked motor amperage and shut it all down so it's put in series with a PTC relay (once this gets too hot it opens and shuts off power to the start capacitor) letting just the run to do it's thing.

Capacitors need to be tested by isolating and discarding them and checking for capacitance in microfarads. The rating is usually on the capacitor and needs to be within +-10%. On the capacitor the voltage is supplied too with 2 different values. The higher value is the real one so this means you can use it on a size lower if you want. I've heard of testing them under load to fully get how they work,you take amperage on the start winding then multiply by 2652 then divide voltage across the capacitor to check if it's good.

Anyway capacitors got oil in them to dissipate heat, thin plates of metal and plastic between them to insulate. These are used to store power, try not to fuck with them even unplugged they can still hurt you. The oil can also be an issue obvs. Anyway they store and discharge voltage they don't boost it, at least in ac systems. If you read a higher voltage it's most likely back EMF generated from the motor as it runs. Anyway you gotta take this into account when sizing relays.

One more thing capacitors when wired in series will have reduced capacitinace, 1/C +1/C but wired in parallel you just add them C+C. Probably doesn't mean much to people but for electricians it's useful if you don't have the right size. Only connecting them in parallel is probably the only reason to do it practically.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 37 points 4 weeks ago (13 children)
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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 35 points 1 month ago (8 children)

I have bottom surgery tomorrow!! (yay)

[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

trans-ferret congrats! it's going to go so well.

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[–] space_owl@hexbear.net 23 points 1 month ago (1 children)

little rant about Audhd, AI>spend 5 years studying and take out student loans to study the only subject I'm interested and capable in
>Consider dropping out after 2 years, but my parents advise me not to "because then you'll make less money"
>entire industry is incinerated by AI just before I get done studying it
>Audhd crippling me from studying any other subject
>Adult now and getting an ADHD diagnosis is way harder because they say "Oh but you managed to study at uni so you clearly can't have adhd dean-smile "

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 22 points 1 month ago

Renewed my car insurance and got a discount for changing my gender lol. The trans agenda at work!

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 20 points 1 month ago (2 children)
  • ~~Waiting~~
  • ~~Get better insurance~~
  • ~~Get up to date health records~~
  • ~~Schedule consult~~
  • ~~First electrolysis appointment~~ <--
  • Consult

Feels good to keep making progress, even if it hurts a little too bleh

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 19 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (3 children)

A patient at work explained how their daughter had a second birthday to celebrate their bone marrow transplant for leukamia.

My clearly trans self accidentally said without thinking

"Huh I guess I have a second birthday too...uh for different reasons"

They said kindly "and you're happy?"

"So happy" (suddenly almost crying joyfully)

"I'm glad"

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 19 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Talked about cartoons from my childhood yesterday and came to the realization that in almost every one I wanted to be one of the girl characters 😡 two notable exceptions: Godzilla (misunderstood, doesn't fit in) and Beast Boy from Teen Titans (shape shifter πŸ‘€).

I watched Shin Godzilla recently, and it immediately read to me as an allegory for transition πŸ₯² Why do I keep finding all these trans thoughts in my super cis brain? do-something trans-ferret

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[–] SorosFootSoldier@hexbear.net 18 points 1 month ago
[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 17 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

My blood pressure and heart rate havent been this good in ages, apparently all I needed was major surgery this whole time wtf. Stressed about work and night shifts and caffeine and cortisol havent been good to me

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 16 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

I'm going to girl mod in public for the first time. This is not the weather to be girlmodding, but all I am doing is going to the store to buy a makeup mirror and face primer.

Wish me luck.

Also - really funny coincidence but I am literally glittering right now. I don't know how this happened or what the fuck I touched.

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 16 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (7 children)

it’s my 1 year hrt anniversary but i have nothing to celebrate because i forgor to transition πŸ’€ cowboy-cri

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago)

I have a picture of myself that I like! I look pretty much like a girl in it, and maybe even a pretty one. I wanna look like that all the time...

[–] Nasalstrip@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (4 children)

21st bday todayπŸŽ‰ Am I going to go out and drink like a normal person? No. Am I going to invite over my brother and force everyone in the house to watch The Pitt? Yes! And will I be discretely checking out all the 30+ year old men in the show? Also yes

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[–] charly4994@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Got hit with a full cognito hazard while at work today. One of the patients had fox news on and I just happened to be in the room while they were talking about the supreme court case regarding bans on trans people in sports.

TransphobiaThey refused to ever use the word transgender, just 'biological men' every time. Usually I don't have to hear anything from these ghouls while at work because most of my regulars like watching game shows or shit like Matlock. Just kinda shitty being stressed out having to float and learn an entire new floor and then just hear this absolute dogshit at the same time.

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 16 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

bottom surgery updates day 2Woke up with a vagina, very happy about that~

Im not as nauseous today which is great. The pain is still pretty minimal, dunno if thats because I have a high pain tolerance or Im just lucky - my neighbour is complaining about a lot of pain. Like, to me, it hurts but like 2-3/10. It almost feels like getting kicked in the balls? Plus this burning sensation where the very base of my gock wouldve been. I have a little bit of phantom penis but that'll probably go away when I can actually see and touch my own pussy.

I want to get up and walk around but we have to wait πŸ™„πŸ™„

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 16 points 1 month ago (1 children)

irrelevant ranting

I like being under pressure. I don't like being in a pressure cooker. I am not allowed to fail any of my courses, not once. No second chances, I'll basically loose my scholarship. And this time around I've been struggling from studies due to having to commute 2-3 hours in the snow every day. The trains keep getting cancelled. I keep getting sick.

I had a chance to shift to a place actually near my uni, but it was utter trash and ... I literally forgot about it. I fjcking forgot about it. Plus, when would I even have the time to move?

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 15 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

bottom surgery update day 4Much less pain than before! Also Im not waddling as much like a pregnant penguin lol. It was kinda funny to see like 10 other girls and we're all waddling around. Im very eager for the stent to come out but I think thats still 2 days away. It feels like I have a big poop but really its just a gigantic thing in my vagina.

Still great waking up and knowing I have a vagina~ I still havent seen it cause of the dressings and stuff. Phantom gock stuff is still kind of there, I swear I can feel my non existent balls moving up and down and my foreskin but both are in much different places than they were before.

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[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 15 points 4 weeks ago

drop the T? yeah that’s what i’ve been doing

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I'm not typing shit out cause it just feels like grabbing attention "oh look how fucked up and edgy I am". But I do not feel ok in general these days <---understatement

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

Youre allowed to speak on your feelings. Youre good about this but probably should keep putting the real dark stuff under spoilers.

[–] rafflesia@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Mmm capacitors they always remind me of little soda cans yum πŸ˜‹

[–] rtstragedy2@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

but they smell much worse when you open them

[–] juniper@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago

when they leak on your mobo they do as much damage as spillin ur monster energy on it so shrug-outta-hecks

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[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 15 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Reposting in the new mega since I didn't realize that it was up:

Misgendering, drama in LGBT spaces (not super heavy though).

Went to the local gay/LGBT bar last night for a bit. My gf wore a skirt and tights going out, which was their first time doing that at the bar. She had worn a skirt to work before, but this was the first time doing it in "public" I supposed. Overall, it was pretty chill. The bar itself is kinda lame (the drinks suck), but there were friends there so was fun to hang out and connect. Sunday is their drag open stage, so that was also fun, although there was a bit of drama. Apparently, one of the drag kings is a conservative, and heard that they were being bad-mouthed for being a conservative and confronted my trans masc friend there (also the drag king is friends with the trans masc's mom who he still lives with, so yeah). I chatted a bit with one of my other trans masc friends whose style I am so jealous of, but he was pretty impressed that I did leatherwork (my gf showed off their spiked collar I made for them), so I hope the feeling is mutual. I can't wait to finish up some pieces this week and get longer laces for my knee-highs so I can debut a killer outfit next weekend.

A negative thing that happened, was my gf did get misgendered by the bartender incidentally, and I feel guilty since I kinda forgot to check in with them about it. I think that it was corrected/resolved, but I need to reach out and make sure they're okay.

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[–] MusicOwl@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago
[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Musing on whether the return of an old hobby/hyper-fixation is a sign of good or bad mental health.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago

I'm returning to old hobbies and I'm the picture of good mental health screm-pretty

[–] Are_Euclidding_Me@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (4 children)

It's time for a far too long rant from me, a person who doesn't spend enough time in the trans mega to feel like I have any right to ask you lovely people to read my shit! cat-trans

oof ouch owie family stuffMy dad is a manipulative asshole and I'm having a hard time coming to terms with that.

My sister and I are both trans and have been out for years at this point. My dad and sister have always had a strained relationship, which has ebbed and flowed over the years. Recently, their relationship seemed really good, the best it's been since before she was a teenager. My dad was being kind and my sister was enjoying spending time with him.

That is, until about a week and a half ago when my dad and sister spent the day together doing a really neat folk tradition in the town where we grew up. Because my fucking dad misgendered my sister all day. Literally every time he introduced her to someone or spoke about her it was "my son" and "he".

My sister sent him a text the next day basically saying "hey, I can't talk to you for awhile, the way you acted yesterday was unacceptable, I'll get in contact again when I'm ready" and he texts back with (paraphrased) "it's so hard for me that you're trans, I didn't understand that it was real and not a phase, trans women are in such danger, a good proportion of them detransition, I'm sad I'll never have grandchildren, my life has been so hard since my divorce, and also my dad was a real piece of work and I'm way better than he was".

And like, fucking hell is that not the right response!! Not once did he even gesture towards an apology, it was all about how hard it is for him to deal with the fact that my sister is trans.

I talked to him on the phone, trying to figure out what the fuck he was thinking and got the exact same spiel! He started crying (literally crying, my dad uses tears as very effective emotional manipulation, which it somehow took until the conversation I'm relating for me to realize) about how sad he is that he and Mom are no longer together, which is fucking rich because he divorced her!! It was not mutual, it was entirely my dad's decision to end his marriage, and yet my mom is the evil one for not groveling to try to get back with Dad.

He then proceeded to call my sister childish for refusing to talk to him, and when I said that's not fair and actually he's the one being childish, he told me I should talk to a few adults about the situation to get their take. I'm 35. By any definition I'm an adult, and I said as much to him.

Then at the end of the conversation, Dad made sure to point out to me that he hadn't misgendered my sister a single time in the entire phone conversation. I said that was true and thanked him for it. It was only later that I realized, hang on, Dad never misgenders her when talking to me! I literally don't remember the last time he fucked it up where I could hear him! And that's fucked. It means he knows he should be treating my sister as a woman and is perfectly capable of doing so in certain contexts. He specifically chose to misgender her the day they spent together and his "I'm just a clueless idiot, how could I possibly have known?!?!" is entirely an act!

For so many years I've been making excuses for him: he grew up in a different time, his dad was an abusive pos, he really truly loves us even if he doesn't quite see who we truly are, he's miserable and doesn't understand his own emotions, etc. I think I'm done. I think I can't make these excuses for him any more. He needs to change his behavior or he will never talk to his daughter again, it's straight up that simple.

I'm going to avoid ranting too much about how he has never, not once used they/them pronouns for me. I got over it long ago, even though his reasoning for this inability (which he's happy to share with me), is that "singular they is bad grammar". I've told him, time and time again that that's just not true! Shakespeare used singular they. And furthermore, even if the singular they was actually a new bit of grammar, and not at least as old as Shakespeare, so fucking what! Languages change! Constantly! And that's a good thing!

I think he probably could use my correct pronouns if he cared about who I actually am. Of course it's hard for people his age, of course he'd mess up sometimes, but you know? He could fucking try. He won't, but he could if he cared to. I can't excuse his lack of trying anymore. Sure, I don't really care, I'm comfortable enough in my gender that it doesn't bother me when people use he or she for me, but his not even pretending to try is more evidence that he just doesn't care enough about his children to see us as real people. And that's a little fucked, really

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[–] Sodium_nitride@lemmygrad.ml 14 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Holy hell. I had some inkling that failing my assignment would be a blessing in disguise, but it's only been 2 days and I've

  1. Publically bought girl clothes for the first time
  2. Girlmodding in public for the first time
  3. Applied a full face of makeup for the first time.

I would unironically love to go outside right now and show the world, but after having already gone outside earlier while girl modding, I realised how off I looked. Not cause I didn't look like a girl (HRT has done its magic), but because I was wearing summer clothes in the winter! That's my only concern!

Also, going out in full makeup just to buy supermarket pizza (only thing I would need to go out for). Idk.

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[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 14 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

Nothing to report. Still trans.

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[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (3 children)
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[–] catter@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (2 children)
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[–] HexaSnoot@hexbear.net 14 points 1 month ago (3 children)

maddened I know someone trans who very seriously dehumanized me, and I just learned that they got trans affirming surgery. I'm so jealous that a person I hate gets to experience having the opposite of their original genitals.

I want to have my exact genitals, I just wish I could morph my body into having, both, a vag and dick at the same time, whenever I want.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 12 points 4 weeks ago (5 children)

Phallus preserving vaginoplasty is a thing~

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[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

I'm currently in that stage of life where I'm yearning for the human instrumentality project from evangelion. And uh ... that's not a good thing.

[–] bobs_guns@lemmygrad.ml 13 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Capacitor? I hardly even know 'er!

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[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago

bottom surgery updates day 3More pain today than yesterday, got some tramadol. I got to put my clothes on! We got to walk more, I enjoyed it but apparently most patients find they do it too often. Im supposed to move to the recovery house today, thank god cause my neighbour has made probably 20 calls with half of them ending in "j'ai dit 'fuck you'" to whoever it is shes yelling at.

Got a manual valve for my pee which is nice, instead of the catheter. I guess I could piss standing up still with this thing but I am ready to end that chapter of my life lol.

[–] shallot@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (2 children)

I’ve been thinking about my life and what I’d ideally like it to be like, and right now the answer is β€œhobbit.” So I’m going to be thinking about how to make my life more hobbity. I suspect it’ll be helpful to actually have something to focus my thoughts on; whenever I try to think about what I’d like I usually end up just floundering.

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[–] catter@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (7 children)

Question for you all: I have read part of the pre-trans experience is a brain fog, and that going on hormones can alleviate it. How long were you on HRT before this happened? I'm thinking of covertly getting a prescription just to see if there are any immediate shifts in my mind that will solidify things for me.

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[–] nemmybun@hexbear.net 13 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm so ready to be done with electrolysis. There's too many hairs on the human face.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 4 weeks ago

I stubbed the absolute shit out of my toe yesterday, now its all purple.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Mods Mods my mega is unpinnable, prove me wrong

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 4 weeks ago (5 children)

politics/current eventsReading more and more out of Minneapolis has me so scared. I knew all this would happen too.
whining/suicide/dysphoriaBeen thinking about kms basically all day today, so dysphoric, feels hopeless. I don't know who or how to reach out or what to say or what could even make this okay. fucking hate being trans.

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[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 12 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

Two years into this and only woman thing I've done is put on nail polish award

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[–] RION@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (4 children)

What do we think about these pillow covers https://www.ikea.com/us/en/p/vildpersilja-cushion-cover-black-green-multicolor-floral-pattern-60582335/#content

My mom doesn't like them but I think they'd liven my place up. Am I cooking or nah

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 12 points 1 month ago (2 children)

These have an old people vibe. Not in a good or bad way, but in a "is this what you want" kinda way.

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I love being reminded I do not pass

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