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Lancer is a... weird little guy? I dunno even though I really liked undertale I didn't really vibe with deltarune and never played past ep1. I do vaguely remember having fun fighting him.
Soooo, uh, yeah, that's Lancer I guess. I'd love to hear about everybody's favourite little weirdos.
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dysphoria, loneliness
Because of loneliness I missed out on romance in my teens and early twenties. How do I convince myself it doesn't matter?It's more likely to have been bad than good. More mature people make better relationships, not always, but a lot of times. Most young people I know/have known get into awful relationships, so I would say it does not matter much, just get some good experiences now, those are the ones that count.
I think every LGBTQ person gets to redo their 20s but good. Or take your pick of decade.
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Well, idk about convincing yourself it doesn't matter (whatever that means), but there's nothing you can do about what happened. What you can do something about is the future. I missed out on romance then too, but now my life is full of romance and love off all kinds! It's doable!spoiler
I was in a toxic relationship starting in high school and continuing for 20 years, off and on. I'm only just starting to figure out how to have healthy relationships now in my late 30s after working through decades of trauma. The first step is just getting into social situations with people any way you can, finding common ground (queer and trans groups are a great place to start), and making friends. Shit's fucking scary at first but just be open and honest around enough people and you will find some that want to hang out and that can lead to more down the line. Whatever it is you like to do, find other people doing the same thing and chill with them.well the best time to start gaining that experience is today. we are all on our own journeys, lots of people do not experience romance during parts of their life
Yeah I'm in the same place. I have no advice, just solidarity.
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Tell yourself it doesn't matter over and over again until it becomes a mantra in your head. Hypnotize yourself.