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Tried voice training last night. Did not go well! None of the methods to raise the larynx seemed to work for me
It also just takes time, keep at it. Its not a one and done, and you can build it up more and more and more. I had a very deep masc voice and over the years and a handful of months with paid coaching, I dont anymore.
I had a tracheal shave so this doesn't work for me, but if you havent you can kind of feel your Adam's apple zone and move it up and down with your voice. Dont choke yourself :p not that kind of night lol. Youre feeling for when it kind of pops back. You also wanna do a very very hard buzzing MMMMMM sound and start low (lower than your typical voice) feel it in your chest and raise and raise and raise the pitch until you feel it coming up to your lower throat, upper throat and eventually mouth and teeth - some people also feel it in the tip of their noses and cheekbones. Start lower pitch than typical speaking voice and raise it to whatever you can go to, you want to play around with where things go and feel.
But pitch is only one aspect of a femme voice anyway, its important enough sure but theres plenty of deeper femme voices out there in the wild that are unmistakably femme or even cis women's voices.
I was following some videos which advised swallowing to feel the larynx and Adam's apple move, which I could feel but I couldn't figure out how to move it manually. The humming into my head was a lot more intuitive and I feel more in command of that
I know it'll take time but that it's possible. It's just sucky to actually have to have some actual discipline, everything else in my transition has felt very easy mechanically even if it was scary
Fair enough, theres a lot thats easier. Like waiting for HRT to kick in is a little easier. But it takes a lot of moxie and gumption and discipline to actually get there and stay on top of meds schedules.
Getting a more femme voice helps so much with passing if thats your goal, but I also personally like that I can listen to myself now and dont cringe when I hear a recording or hear myself repeat on delay from someones phone or whatever. There was a lot of relief that comes when Im not feeling that reflexive dysphoria and passing is like a very sweet and welcome side effect for me.
Idk I get most of my meds in the mail and sticking myself is pretty easy. Plus the ladies at my pharmacy who give me my valerate have been nice
Thankfully I don't have to hear myself speak too often, but sometimes I'll get that phone delay and it's no bueno ;_;