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[–] napkin2020@sh.itjust.works 21 points 2 days ago (5 children)

You should not expect your native culture to follow you when you move abroad.

Adapt or leave.

[–] shawn1122@sh.itjust.works 13 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

If you're moving for economic reasons, because you're country was decimated by colonialism / neocolonialism, and the country you're moving to prides itself on individual liberty then you have no obligation to completely abandon your native culture.

Even today 'expats' rarely integrate into the local culture. Don't give up a part of your identity just because you want to fit in.

By all means, when in Rome do as the Romans do. But that doesn't have to mean losing yourself in the process

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 6 points 2 days ago (1 children)

This s the most controversial opinion here, as in it has no logical credibility, and is unacceptable in polite company in most countries.

[–] ageedizzle@piefed.ca 6 points 1 day ago (1 children)

is unacceptable in polite company

Depends which part of the world you’re from. In Japan for example this would be a very common opinion 

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 5 points 1 day ago

Actually I think you'll find that in Japan they world prefer you didn't migrate at all. That's a whole other thing. Regardless, their attitudes to other cultures are hardly something to aspire to IMO.

[–] DeathByBigSad@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Counterpoint: The "Melting Pot" of the USA

[–] wieson@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The "melting pot" is often used wrongly. In this case, you would agree with op.

The melting pot is not a salad of cultures, it is a cauldron that melts any ingredient and pours it into a unified mold. Rarely are cultural characteristics preserved in the USA. The predominant Us-american culture swallows them whole and everybody becomes American.

[–] Tollana1234567@lemmy.today 2 points 1 day ago

indoctrinaiton, much like how the military trains. they dont want individuals they want people compliant, thats we dont see effective strikes or protesting, people are too "dont want to ruffle the feathers'

[–] monke@lemmy.cafe 2 points 2 days ago

Controversial for a good reason

[–] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 0 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Fit in or fuck off as we say in Australia

[–] fizzle@quokk.au 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I've never heard anyone say that in Australia, and if did id tell them to fuck off.

Christ im born and bred and I don't fit in.

[–] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 0 points 2 days ago (2 children)
[–] fizzle@quokk.au 1 points 1 day ago

Weird, my AI assistant puts it a little differently.

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Regardless, if this is in fact something that people say, I'm glad that none of them seem to be in my orbit. If you don't see the problem with this kind of hyper-conformism then I don't think I can help you.

[–] WorldsDumbestMan@lemmy.today -1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

As far as I'm concerned, you are not welcome in Serbia, don't go there, or I will go out of my way to find some way to get you deported, or otherwise ensure you become a pariah.

[–] Aussiemandeus@aussie.zone 0 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Your use of the first person marks you as a dickhead.