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[-] MissJinx@lemmy.world 48 points 1 week ago

look you guys gotta understand that women's orgasm is a bit different. We can have amazing sex and not orgasm and it's ok. A woman can orgasm without even touching herself, that's how "in the head" we are. Its good either way. If you really want to make her cum try oral.

[-] gaael@lemmy.world 20 points 1 week ago

I've had a penis since birth and I can still have amazing sex without orgasming. For me it's more a matter of habit. When I started having sex, I wanted to orgasm every time. As I got more experienced, I started enjoying all the other stuff in sex more, and I regularly have sex with my partner without orgasming - most of my orgasms now come from masturbation.

[-] Thcdenton@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

I've had a penis since birth

[-] Dkarma@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Then why fake it?!?!? Just tell him you're done.

[-] bhamlin@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Because men sometimes take it personally when they "can't make you cum." Occasionally they get mad and blame you. It's safer to just hide it and figure it out later if necessary.

[-] SparrowRanjitScaur@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

That sounds like both people are wrong. If one person defaults to anger and the other defaults to lying that sounds like a really unhealthy relationship.

[-] bhamlin@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

You're not wrong, but actual relationship dynamics aren't always so clear cut. I was merely commenting as to why and unwilling to make a judgement about the situation. You don't always know what someone else is going through.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 30 points 1 week ago

I tried faking an orgasm once. It didn't work. I'm a guy, and she instantly called my bluff.

[-] asteriskeverything@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

You forgot to flex your kegals. Then claim dehydration.

[-] Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Actually I think it was the poor acting, and the fact that I still had an erection.

[-] ramble81@lemm.ee 28 points 1 week ago

Pro tip for guys (by a guy): Always make sure she has at least one orgasm before you blow your load. Commit to oral and you’ll go a long way.

[-] Dkarma@lemmy.world 4 points 1 week ago

With good enough head game you can rule the world.

If someone spends the time to fake an orgasm to make me feel good then they are pretty cool.

[-] LNRDrone@sopuli.xyz 49 points 1 week ago

Sure, sounds good in the short term. Probably better in the long term to be honest and figure out something that lets everyone to have an orgasm though.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 9 points 1 week ago

And lets people give orgasms. Someone who fakes an orgasm robs their partner of the opportunity to give orgasms.

[-] Dkarma@lemmy.world 1 points 1 week ago

Honey if she's faking it he's not ever gonna be able to give it.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 1 points 1 week ago

Exactly! He needs to find himself a more compatible partner, but she’s lying and preventing him from learning this.

Eh, it's better to communicate with your partner and give them a chance to get you there by other means.

[-] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 15 points 1 week ago

This assumes that the person faking it expects continued interaction and/or safety. Women often fake it with flings when they simply want things to finish and don’t want to have an awkward conversation with the person they never intend to see again. They also fake it to avoid confrontation due to perceived emasculation.

Now, if you feel safe in your non-transient relationship, this is literally the best advice in the world.

[-] intensely_human@lemm.ee 0 points 1 week ago

My god why would you have sex with a person you never intend on speaking to again?

[-] Gullible@sh.itjust.works 6 points 1 week ago

Cuz sex is fun. I’m not gonna slut shame.

So they can fake an orgasm obviously.

[-] ASeriesOfPoorChoices@lemmy.world -5 points 1 week ago

spoken like an incel who doesn't understand trust.

Which one is the incel?

Me or the one I’m having sex with?

[-] Plopp@lemmy.world 2 points 1 week ago

Both, thrusting your pelvis towards another avatar in VR Chat doesn't count as sex!

;)

this post was submitted on 03 Jul 2024
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