Nutomic is a core Lemmy developer. While their actual admin power is limited to .ml communities and users, their role in the development and future of Lemmy gives them legitimacy and undeserved importance on other instances.

Even if you don't believe that Nutomic's status and personal attitude around trans individuals subtly influences the whole Lemmy community, consider that a large part of Lemmy rests on Nutomic's goodwill and professionalism. For example, if a change to add pronouns to user pages is ever rejected, can you trust that it was for a legitimate reason when the people who have the final say are transphobic?

Report them. Transphobia violates the Lemmy.World ToS 1.2. If the community mods don't handle it, then report it to an admin.

considering most of the accounts I've seen doing this are from lemmy.world

Ah, that explains (in part) why I haven't seen very much of this myself. Their instance is failing to properly federate comments and votes, so I often don't see comments from LW users unless I come across a post that's a week old—or they reply to my own comments, in which case I see it a week later.

or in the case of .ml, a tankie bent that skews authoritarian and right-wing on many social / cultural issues

As a mod i see more things than most people do

I hear this a lot and I wonder how Lemmy or even the Fediverse as a whole got that status?

I don’t see anything that would make the Fediverse a safer place, except for the fact that the software itself, allows for the creation of closed communities.

As soon as you open up your community to the rest of the Fediverse though, you are at the mercy of the rest of the internet, that unfortunately includes assholes.

Now, as a Lemmy administrator myself, I can fortunately say that I haven’t experienced any transphobia from my users or have transphobia reported by my users. But do note that I am only talking about actual reports made by users. If it hasn’t been reported, I am not aware of it.

Sorry to hear indeed 😔