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Can you make a case for an outlier type of person as a (sexual) partner? (lemmy.world)

submitted 9 months ago by j4k3@lemmy.world to c/casualconversation@lemm.ee

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Tell me your most extreme, underdog, or overlooked traits or personalities and what makes them more than what most expect.

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[–] wesker 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I don't exactly understand the question.

[+] j4k3@lemmy.world -6 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

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[–] Clusterfck 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Did you just use algebra to try to explain a question about personality traits?

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 0 points 9 months ago (1 children)

No. I used an abstraction to expand the explanation of an abstraction.

[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

But you deleted it and i didn't get to see it :(

[–] j4k3@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Negativity has that effect. I treat this place no different than IRL. I don't care for rudeness. I'm never trying to be rude or an ass. Being partially physically disabled in a way that creates involuntary social isolation makes this my only place for external human contact. Negativeness has a real effect on me long term. I have no buffer to shrug off constant negativity as well that is just the internet. I don't accept that as normal or healthy. So I just delete stuff that gets a negative response and block anyone that feels entitled to be negative to random strangers or communities that collectively seem to be negative. I'm perfectly happy with a small pool of cool people to engage with. I want to treat you as I need to be treated as well.

Anonymity is like a truth serum. It allows people to take off the mask of peer pressure accountability and act like their true selves. In this place, and others like it, you show your true colors and ethics or lack thereof. I'm well aware of what people are like statistically. Around half have no real core ethics or independent thought. They are who I try to block and the reason I delete anything that seems to draw the attention of such persons.

My abstract thoughts are often difficult for many to follow and I often do a poor job of describing my intended context, so I just delete and move on. Sorry friend.

[–] Jarix@lemmy.world 2 points 9 months ago

No worries, self care is important. I was just curious anyways, i got no horse in this race.

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 6 points 9 months ago (1 children)

If I found someone who hates me as much as I hate myself, then we would have something deep and intimate to bond over.

[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 14 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

I kinda had this once. Well, we weren't partners but bonded over how much we hated ourselves and everyone else. It uhh, wasn't healthy.

[–] Coelacanth@feddit.nu 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

You say that but even hearing that I still feel like I want something like that. You're probably right though.

[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 1 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I thought you were extinct ;)

[–] Coelacanth@feddit.nu 2 points 9 months ago

Nah we were just chilling at the bottom of the ocean the whole time. We like to pop up occasionally to confound scientists and fishermen.

[–] NaibofTabr@infosec.pub 5 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Do you know someone that is not an "outlier" in some way?

[–] KuroiKaze@lemmy.world 4 points 9 months ago

I would say I've found pleasure doesn't have a look/shape. I've slept with women that wouldn't be my conventional choice for based on looks, style, occupation, or something but they have wound up introducing me to awesome new parts of sex or have just executed in a way I never saw coming. I think having a checklist or a pre conceived notion about who you're going to have sex with is very limiting.