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Ye Power Trippin' Bastards

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This is a community in the spirit of "Am I The Asshole" where people can post their own bans from lemmy or reddit or whatever and get some feedback from others whether the ban was justified or not.

Sometimes one just wants to be able to challenge the arguments some mod made and this could be the place for that.


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So, I saw a report from one of my users. They reported:

https://ponder.cat/post/1594852/1813842

For the reason:

Unreasonable fighting with everyone in every simple post

I think that's ridiculous, so I talked with them about it. Posting private communications is frowned upon I guess, but long story short, they weren't receptive. I've decided to ban the account.

IMO the general culture on Lemmy is that users are entitled to their free account and everyone needs to be careful and circumspect about limiting that entitlement in any way, but I don't see it that way. I don't think it's a requirement for me to provide hosting space for anyone who wants to use my stuff as a jumping-off point for abuse of Lemmy's systems, and isn't apologetic or receptive when I talk with them about not doing that. The fact that it's in service of harassing FlyingSquid in particular is just icing on the cake, since my perception is that people like to harass him apparently for no legitimate reason at all (with this as an example).

AITA?

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[–] _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

since my perception is that people like to harass him apparently for no legitimate reason at all

You don't end up as one of the two most talked about PTBs in this community with there being "no reason at all".

[–] PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat 1 points 1 hour ago (1 children)

My general approach is to look into things, when one or a bunch of people claim that it's true. Often it is true. Sometimes it is not. Usually, the times when it is not are a lot more interesting.

I don't plan to abandon that approach and replace it with "if a whole bunch of people say something then it automatically must be true." That way is easier, of course, and you can go with it if you like. I'll stick to my approach.

[–] _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 59 minutes ago (1 children)

The receipts are all there, if you care to look. Nobody has deleted them.

But in this case, despite your underhanded implication, let’s just admit you have a preconceived notion and aren’t interested in the many documented instances of FlyingSquid and jordanlund being assholes. You aren’t going to look into this.

[–] PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat 1 points 54 minutes ago (1 children)

Why are you talking to me about this? Pretty much every time it comes up, I ask people for examples, and then I go and look at them. I actually have a bookmark saved right now for a good example of FS being kind of a jerk that I found all on my own and thought might be relevant, at some point. Why did you come back to sort of hassle me about this on a week-old topic?

[–] _cryptagion@lemmy.dbzer0.com 1 points 38 minutes ago (1 children)

Why are you talking to me about this?

Couldn't be because you created a thread to ask everyone what they thought about it. If you don't want to talk about it, don't come to my home instance and ask what I think about it. You don't get to shut down discussion when you don't feel comfortable with where it's going.

[–] PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat 1 points 22 minutes ago

Oh, no, you're fine to ask questions or talk with me, I was just wondering what the impetus was for asking about it almost two weeks after I created a thread to ask everyone what they thought about it.

I'm not upset at the questioning. But also at the same time, I don't have the preconceived notion and am indeed extremely interested in the many documented instances blah blah, so I'm not sure where the conversation could potentially even go from here. You're welcome to continue discussion, you don't need to feel like you're being shut down just because I don't feel like going back and forth about it.

[–] Rhoeri@lemmy.world 3 points 6 days ago

Yeah. FS really seems to take a lot of heat. I think it’s because people have come to know that he will always defend himself. And when they repeatedly antagonize him- it always seems it’s for their entertainment.

[–] db0@lemmy.dbzer0.com 55 points 1 week ago

We've reached the next level peeps. Mods pre-emptively opening YPTB posts about their own actions! 😈

[–] PugJesus@lemmy.world 34 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Don't know that I would've banned someone for a single report, even if it was nonsensical. Sometimes, people have a bad day, and aren't thinking clearly.

Generally I'm quick with the banhammer about positions (ie genocide deniers o u t), but reluctant about attitudes. As someone who is miserable and tetchy myself, I know all about what it's like to snap - even at someone I don't like - and overstep the boundaries of good taste, norms, or constructive participation in a community.

BPR, I guess? I probably would've told them to fuck off, but a ban might've been an overreaction.

At the same time, operating on your gut to keep a place clean is often necessary to maintain your sanity. There are only so many hours in the day, and only so much energy you can spend reasoning or enduring people.

I dunno, man.

[–] PhilipTheBucket@ponder.cat 8 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Yeah, I can see that. That's why I posted here.

Everyone draws their lines in slightly different places. I'm actually probably a lot more tolerant than most about "banned" points of view, or someone just being abrasive one day, since I do the same (on both counts). As long as at the end of the day they're open for some form of open communication about it. Explicitly rejecting the social contract or using Lemmy's buttons in a way they're not designed for, taking up moderators' time for frivolous stuff and refusing to stop when asked, explicitly rejecting the idea of backing up your reason for attacking someone when asked, I have a lot shorter fuse for.

I wouldn't have banned if they were at all receptive to the DM conversation about it, but as it is, I just didn't think I was doing anybody including them any favors by saying "Oh okay, keep doing what you're doing, you are welcome to a place on this network after a short time-out."

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[–] catloaf@lemm.ee 20 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

One report is not report abuse. And I do often see FS arguing up and down a thread about nothing at all, so the report isn't off base either. If you think FS's behavior is inappropriate, you can remove the comments or ban him. If you think it's appropriate, then you can explain that to the user who reported it. You're not required to continue that thread, though.

If they continue reporting material that has been identified to them as non-rulebreaking, then that is report abuse and merits a ban.

So, YTPTB I guess?

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[–] Nougat@fedia.io 14 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I think that's ridiculous, so I talked with them about it.

Well, there's your problem. One silly report? Reject, don't think about it again unless the reporting user gets increasingly uppity all on their own. You don't have to engage with everything (and I am fully aware of the irony of my saying that).

Now, what the user said after that in your private communications may have warranted a "GTFO," but you're right to not publish that. It'll have to be your judgment call there.

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[–] lemonmelon@lemmy.dbzer0.com 12 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I often agree with your positions on various things, Phil, at least to the extent that it seems that we're operating from a similar point of reference. That said, and in light of the nature of the private communications remaining private (as it should), there's only one conclusion that seems fitting.

PTB.

One instance of anything hardly seems like grounds for a ban. Repeat behavior certainly could justify that action, but in the absence of any pattern it seems like an overreach. There might well be further justification for a ban based on the direct messages; but, as you're submitting your own action for analysis, the only fair way to evaluate is on the grounds of what we are directly privy to. Anything else has to be viewed as simply your biased interpretation of the private conversation.

In the circumstance you describe the onus on the user is not to be "receptive or apologetic" to you in the private conversation, only to correct their usage of the report system. As presented, it reads as if they were banned because they did not show adequate respect for your authority, which is clear PTBehavior. Further, you attempt to bolster your point by painting Squid, a user who loves to try to win bad-take arguments by referring to their own mod status in other communities (essentially a PTB themselves), as undeserving of ire despite an extensive history of spinning out, losing the thread, and generally being a dick when it happens. Carrying water for someone who comes across as power-trippy does little to shift perception of your own actions away from that mark.

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[–] Ledivin@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

Someone reporting something, you disagreeing with it being a reportable offense, and the user getting banned for it... a single mistake isn't abuse. If you had explained that doing it again would lead to a ban, and then they did, sure.

There's literally no way to take this other than PTB. Unless he threatened you in the DM, you're absolutely the one wrong here.

[–] muelltonne@feddit.org 11 points 1 week ago

I won't analyze this case, but: Abusing the report button is an issue. This forces you to do work to check it, clear it and so on. I can handle the reports in my communities (there are a few), but if I would be getting hundreds of reports every week, I would burn out quickly. People like to shit on mods, but most people don't know how many batshit insane people there are on the internet and that the best way to have a nice community is to keep them away.

[–] Draconic_NEO@lemmy.dbzer0.com 10 points 1 week ago (5 children)

PTB majorly. You don't want to ban people for reports unless they're spamming false reports.

Otherwise you discourage reporting. Think of it this way, would you rather have them just not report things because you ban them or threaten to ban them for things you don't think are personally actionable.

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[–] southsamurai@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago

There's not an abbreviation for this in the community rules.

It isn't power tripping fully because the decision was made based on more than a single factor, and they are indeed reasonable rules.

But it is a tad much for a permaban on the first go on your instance. While I agree there are some people that do not give a fuck and stir shit everywhere they go, and I agree that it seems you were dealing with one, a temp ban is the go-to.

Since you can't/won't share private communications (and good on you for that), we can only go with what's available, and a permaban is too far based on only that for a first offense.

If their responses in private were bad enough, that's a judgement call, and it might change the matter. Since you don't have a history of wielding the hammer heavily, despite having every right to do so on own instance, I give you the benefit of the doubt as well. A single action does not a power tripper make. It's about patterns of behavior.

So, the specific action was low grade power tripping, but you aren't a power tripper.

Now regardless of that, I fully support preemptive bans as a valid tool. Someone has a history of abuse on other instances and communities, and starts the same behavior on another one, it is a valid option. It is, however not an opinion that is held by a majority, and I tend to give my opinion about that less weight here lately. I accept that a lot of people consider that a power trip most of the time. But I think preventing a pattern from forming in the first place is a good thing when done with care.

[–] mindbleach@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (6 children)

Three-day bans are like spritzing a cat in the face. It's corrective.

Permabans should be reserved for diet Nazi shit. Truly beyond-the-pale, never-gonna-get-better assholerey.

... did you permanently ban someone for asking to have rules enforced, instead of starting shit verbally? Because if so, what the fuck.

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[–] sunzu2@thebrainbin.org 9 points 1 week ago

PTB

I don't get the ban over one report. Feels Gestapo.

Permaban should be reserved for bots and threat actors IMHO

[–] Blaze@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 week ago (14 children)

In this case, you were not the target of the reports, it was the community mods I guess?

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[–] jet@hackertalks.com 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (11 children)

You are not the asshole. Your logic is reasonable and self consistent.

since my perception is that people like to harass him apparently for no legitimate reason at all

I still have them labeled as an abusive mod for baiting someone into a debate then banning them from the community for engaging in that debate. So I think this user does look for fights, to be fair.

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[–] apotheotic@beehaw.org 7 points 1 week ago

I don't think I have anything to add that others haven't already said, except for

You're literally PTB - Philip The Bucket

That is all

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