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As a mostly touch-averse autist... Depression it is lol. (Sorry it just makes my skin crawl.)

[–] HoodieGyaru@lemmy.blahaj.zone 49 points 2 days ago (1 children)

So who's going to help me with this?

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 30 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] HoodieGyaru@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I shall await your hugs and cuddles :3

hugs and cuddles

[–] gil2455526@lemmy.eco.br 22 points 2 days ago
[–] tacosanonymous@lemm.ee 30 points 2 days ago

Maybe a collaboration with the femcel instance is in order.

[–] lowleekun@ani.social 28 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Sad thing that if you grow up male (altleast in most western countries), you will be hard pressed to find friends to cuddle with. Fuck me i guess.

[–] sp3tr4l@lemmy.zip 11 points 2 days ago (2 children)

When I was a kid in the 90s/00s, I was basically a shy nerdy (later to be determined as autistic) twink.

Almost all my friends were girls, because... almost all the guys I knew were rude macho assholes.

... I guess I am an outlier, possibly along with my friend group, but uh, I did get invited to, and attend, a good number of slumber/cuddle parties.

I know this may sound unbelievable, but they really were just cuddling, no hardcore sexual acts.

Well ok, one time a female friend of one of my female friends, who I hadn't met before... we ended up making out and fondling each other, but our clothes stayed on, I swear!

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

same so much rn omg i'm getting a heart attack >:3 🥲


i don't like to make this edit because i really really understand the vibe of your comment and want to go along with it; however i unfortunately have to report that the rampant levels of reporting about "sexual harassment" have led many girls my age when i was a teenager to basically have a deep hatred for all men, or so it seemed. i remember a few incidences where i clearly got along nicely with people but we couldn't get closer because of some stupid societal rules that instruct women to be afraid of all men. stupid times we live in. (i'm saying this because these complaints should be heard. the fight that was superficially and supposedly about "women's rights" has inflicted incredible damage on some things.)

[–] lowleekun@ani.social 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I absolutely believe you as i had a rommie with which i cuddled. She told me that she is not attracted to me at all so there was no thoughts about romance or sex. I loved it and i miss it but i also have to admit that my very stupid brain would fall in love with any women (not related to me) that cuddles with me repeatedly.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

and this is why i consider a partner a prerequisite for a lot of my improved mental health, my lizard brain needs that.. hole.. filled before it can quiet down and let me get on with things.

[–] lowleekun@ani.social 5 points 1 day ago

sad for the people that struggle to find a partner

i am sad

[–] latenightnoir@lemmy.blahaj.zone 27 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Guess I'll just die, then!

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 14 points 2 days ago

Aye, same D:

I genuinely think acquiring a mountain of plushies has improved my mental health. So humans aren't necessarily required to get (some) results!

[–] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 16 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (3 children)

I love the cute vibe, but I feel the need to rant:

“strengthens the immune system” doesn’t mean much. And if you take it at face value, it’s probably a bad thing, atleast in the West, more people suffer from overactive immune systems (allergies, autoimmune diseases) than underactive ones.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 3 hours ago* (last edited 3 hours ago)

while i get your complaint's point, i think you're a bit over-simplyfying this.

the immune system isn't just "weak" or "strong". it must be calibrated.

for example, allergies exist because the immune system focuses on the wrong things. A strong immune system can be considered healthy and a good thing; that doesn't mean it should indiscriminately kill anything it encounters. So, the story is a bit more complicated.

for example, it's considered healthy for children to play in the dirt, because it teaches the immune system what to focus on.

[–] i_dont_want_to@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It me.

I do remember a friend's mom. She had a lot of allergies and was big into woo-woo. Anyway, she once told me that she was doing something with her essential oils and orange juice "to boost her immune system and deal with her allergies."

Whenever someone says “boost” or “strengthen” the immune system, its marketing BS.

I don’t generally blame people for falling for it, because you even have medical professionals falling for it.

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 5 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Ah! You learn something new everyday, thank you!

[–] FundMECFSResearch@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Great! Now I have hives...

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 3 points 2 days ago

Cuddles indeed!

[–] puppycat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 15 points 2 days ago
[–] SurfinBird@lemmy.ca 19 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Can you make that out in the form of a prescription?

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 2 days ago (1 children)

whuh? sorry i read "make ... out" and lost an hour

[–] ChaoticCookie@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)
[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

huh? oh fuck, what year is it?

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