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[–] Adrius@ttrpg.network 26 points 2 days ago (8 children)

This is just a toxic gender wars meme. Go outside, touch some grass, meet someone nice and move on with life. Memes like this come from and perpetuate the loneliness epidemic.

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[–] diffusive@lemmy.world 24 points 2 days ago (9 children)

Boys are taught to ignore emotions (“are you crying? Man up!”)

But emotions is what connects humans (and animals for that matter) and can’t really be ignored anyway

Join the two… and you get loneliness, frustration, rage.

We should start a conversation on emotional education (not only for boys but especially for boys)

[–] rabber@lemmy.ca 12 points 2 days ago (17 children)

Because nobody wants men to be emotional. When I started opening up is when my marriage started falling apart lol

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[–] gens@programming.dev 35 points 2 days ago

Memes is now shitting on genders ? Y'all fuckers don't know shit about empathy, and about memes either.

[–] Allero@lemmy.today 18 points 2 days ago (9 children)

Ah, the classic generalization of men and women as singular groups where everyone acts as one.

There are certain shitty men who objectify women and play alphas. There is the general category of men who get shitted at because of it, whether they belong to the former or not.

Sure, being afraid of the shitty folks is a valid reason to be cautious around everyone, as you can't easily tell one from the other. But saying that all men just made this stuff up while being total asses wouldn't be fair or helpful.

To be clear: there is a male loneliness epidemic driven by ever increasing caution about men overall. Men are often unfairly denied attention they need because they are seen as potential dangers by women and might be ridiculed for speaking out about their feelings by men (which, in turn, do it to protect themselves from the same treatment in an unhealthy patriarchal culture).

This is not healthy; moreover, being in that state of loneliness and frustration is prone to radicalizing people, making sayings about dangerous men a self-fulfilling prophecy in one case, and just causing a lot of misery in the other.

If you're a woman, I'd suggest giving a bit of attention to the men around you. There is a million of untold stories there, and making someone open up to you for the first time is a great and rewarding experience. Or just...be there, and that will be appreciated.

[–] Stalinwolf@lemmy.ca 8 points 2 days ago (1 children)

My wife sometimes stops to compliment me because she knows men don't often receive compliments. I always appreciate that.

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[–] NostraDavid@programming.dev 15 points 2 days ago

Downvoted for being unnecessarily antagonistic.

[–] MapleEngineer@lemmy.world 14 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Are these three same guys that think that eating pussy makes you gay?

It's no fucking wonder they're lonely.

Have they tried not being assholes?

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[–] BudgetBandit@sh.itjust.works 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Dude I’m lonely because I’m a hypersexual libido chameleon with a long term partner who has a pandas sex drive.

[–] diffusive@lemmy.world 4 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

If you like football and your best friend doesn’t like football, what do you do? You beg your best friend to play football… but if they really don’t like football or it is just a “once in a while thing” what you do? Probably find another friend or group of friends that like football. Your best friend likely stays your best friend but now you are happy, your best friend is not annoyed by you asking playing football and you have new friends

Of course you don’t hide or lie to your best friend on what you do and when… otherwise they would be (rightfully) upset but if you share and they are mad that you want to have new friends it’s on them to be unreasonable.

Well here Ethical non monogamy in a nutshell in a context where it is socially acceptable 🤷‍♂️

[–] Atmoro@lemmy.world 29 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (2 children)

I'll add that people aren't being hugged, & touched enough. Also, infrastructure sucks to encourage socializing

Its an epidemic of that. We are social creatures. That's our main motto

When we work together, live in groups, etc we all feel better. Reminds us of our tribe days

A big part of human connection is being physical with each other in a chill way. So try to hug your bros more, & get things done as a unit with women!

Both sides are supposed to be allies to each other

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 16 points 2 days ago (1 children)

the problem is that incels focusing in that problem think that they are owed sex and attention from attractive women. when the real solution of to develop and use third spaces, and develop social connections of any kind.

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[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 12 points 2 days ago

if the problem is that men have loneliness issues i have a solution.

it's men, more than one, become friends.

is there a issue with modern social alienation caused by individual atomisation? yes.

should we focus on it? yes

does it mean that women owe them sex? fuck no,

[–] Cowbee@lemmy.ml 130 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (14 children)

More men should read The will to change by bell hooks. Patriarchy hurts men in different ways than it does women, we are all oppressed by it, including gender-nonconforming individuals. Patriarchy stunts male emotional health and creates these unhealthy repressed feelings. Rather than blaming women, men should look towards the systems that impact our daily lives and how they force us into little boxes we don't always fit neatly into naturally, suffocating us and justifying the general subjugation of women, which in no unclear terms exceeds the suffering of men under patriarchy.

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