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[–] TriflingToad@sh.itjust.works 9 points 20 hours ago (2 children)

my friend made me take the bdsm test and it returned 97% vanilla. I don't have this problem lol

Also something I've learned recently is that I'm like super un-sex-driven. Like I have a drive but it's like 10 mins before bed a couple of times a week. I cannot fathom how people could cheat on their partner because they're horny, I just don't really get it.

You know the trend of putting 10 people's phones open with TikTok together and if you get a thirst trap you're out? I did like 20+ and this is the closest I got

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 3 points 9 hours ago (1 children)

how is that not a thirst trap, look at him...

maybe I have a problem

[–] DerArzt@lemmy.world 2 points 9 hours ago

No problems on more porn options.

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 17 hours ago (1 children)

As someone with a high sex drive, I still don’t understand cheating. If your horny and your partner isn’t around, or in the mood, just have a wank and go on with your day. It ain’t that difficult.

[–] DragonTypeWyvern@midwest.social 2 points 16 hours ago

Some people just suck in not fun ways

[–] germanatlas@lemmy.blahaj.zone 29 points 1 day ago
[–] Agent641@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago (2 children)

My kink has never come up in vanilla conversation.

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 2 points 9 hours ago

i guess we're playing 20 questions:

1

does it involve tools (ie, you can't do it with only naked people)

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Mine does. Usually more so in one month than any others.

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 3 points 9 hours ago

you got they Santa clause Clause fever

[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 6 points 1 day ago

I can't pretend to be apalled, I just pretend I didn't hear it, and I have quite a lot of fetishes, with a lot of weird and/or gross ones among them.

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 201 points 2 days ago (6 children)

i was once with my kids at the park.

a mom my kids were playing with started talking to me.

she began complaining about tentacle hentai...

had to act like I never heard of that.

not sure if that counts as a normal conversation.

[–] adhocfungus@midwest.social 143 points 2 days ago (1 children)

The fact that a stranger/acquaintance thought that was an appropriate conversation in a park with kids around says a lot more about her than it does about you. I'd feel more comfortable around someone who secretly likes it than someone who openly talks about hating it.

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 57 points 2 days ago (9 children)

I'd say she got undiagnosed autism or something. but then again, I have diagnosed autism and know not to talk about tentacle hentai to strangers

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[–] FartMaster69@lemmy.dbzer0.com 39 points 2 days ago

Them gotdang’ol tentacles I tell you hwat.

[–] Sabata11792@ani.social 52 points 2 days ago (2 children)

What's there to complain about? Did she some how run out of tentacle hentai?

[–] ColdSideOfYourPillow@piefed.social 6 points 1 day ago (2 children)

The lack of (consensual) tentacle-fucking creatures IRL is infuriating.

[–] gandalf_der_12te@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 18 hours ago (1 children)

you know what i have been contemplating: ass-worms might do the job?

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 1 points 9 hours ago

enjoy your tapeworms, just make sure you wash your hands before cooking

[–] seralth@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago

Consentacles if you will

[–] Anomalocaris@lemm.ee 37 points 2 days ago (9 children)

how would you feel to learn about tentacle porn, and also that there are no fuckeable tentacle monsters in real life?

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[–] gmtom@lemmy.world 26 points 2 days ago (3 children)

Are you sure she wasn't "subtly" trying to bring it up to you to test the waters to see if you might want to get freaky?

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[–] Fleur_@aussie.zone 35 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Coward move. Stand up for yourself

[–] Stamets@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I wear a chain with a padlock around my neck, that's not enough?

[–] Tolookah@discuss.tchncs.de 6 points 20 hours ago

Is your kink lockpicking lawyer?

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 52 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Sometimes it's good to let your freak flag fly, other times you have to pretend you didn't see that look on a coworkers face when someone said "Good Girl"

[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I'd be looking askance at whoever it was that said "good girl", TBH. I can't imagine saying that in a workplace to anyone who isn't a literal child.

[–] ouRKaoS@lemmy.today 18 points 1 day ago (1 children)

It was actually said to a therapy dog that was there for the day, but I saw a reaction, then she saw me see the reaction, and we shared that look of "I know you know that I know you know" and we both didn't want to have further complications so it was never brought up.

[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Ah, fair enough! I forgot therapy dogs and guide dogs are a thing for a moment, there.

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world 18 points 1 day ago

Yeah, sometimes you gotta pretend you don't get mad leather vibes at the office Halloween party. Gotta leave your worldly awareness at the door. Just let Jenny in accounting be Cat Woman, vanilla style.

[–] pennomi@lemmy.world 77 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Oh no, that sounds terrible! Now let’s both take the BDSM Test to make sure we know what other kinks to steer clear of.

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[–] gazby@lemmy.zip 16 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] supersquirrel@sopuli.xyz 79 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (1 children)

gosh I would never choose to have that kink!

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[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 23 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Ngl I typically just avoid or info dump, depending on the company. If they’re direct though I ain’t gonna lie. You opened this can of worms, you’re gonna go fishing.

Though there have been times I have advice but that’s more “the kids are asking age appropriate questions.”

You opened this can of worms, you’re gonna go fishing.

nice one, i gotta remember that one!

[–] gabbath@lemmy.world 19 points 1 day ago (3 children)

You opened this can of worms, you’re gonna go fishing.

Ohh so that's what that phrase came from.

[–] KairuByte@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 day ago (2 children)

<.< Full disclosure, I made that up on the spot. And a quick google suggests there is no full saying, it means “you opened us up to more trouble/problems” where the worms are the trouble/problems in question.

[–] la_scriba@sopuli.xyz 8 points 1 day ago

Too late. We've just witnessed a false "the full saying" be born. It will be remembered alongside such classics as "oftentimes better than a master of none", and "satisfaction brought it back"

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[–] Lesrid@lemm.ee 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Yeah hearing the full phrase is fun. Like "speak of the devil and so he shall appear".

[–] gabbath@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

I'm learning all sorts of things today :)

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[–] RubberElectrons@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

No I don't. 😎

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