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Perhaps not the wildest thing, but easily one of the more shocking things I heard was when I was struggling a lot with certain aspects of my transition.

I'm colorblind, so things like clothes and makeup were, and still are, often big struggles.

A former friend, a cis girl who was around a lot by didn't know on a personal level super well, offered to take me under her wing as it were, and help me with my transition.

But when push came to shove, and I actually needed help with things, she was often dismissive, if not outright hostile about it.

One day, when I was venting about struggling with makeup, and that my colorblindness never really felt like a disability until I started transitioning, she told me that "It didn't matter" that I didn't know anything about makeup, and that I shouldn't want to because I, "would be a vain removed for caring so much about it" (I was hoping to learn some things about covering up beard shadow).

That was really the turning point in our relationship, and it never really recovered. She would say things all the time, and about how she was there to be a 'big sister' to me, but then tear me down when I actually tried to share anything about my transition.

Eventually things just petered out, and I let it go. But I still struggle to open up about my transition, as a result. Especially to cis women.

"You will never be a woman. You will always look like a man" - my former therapist 10 years ago

Like, look at me now, you sack of shit. I'm cute as fuck

There should be no gay bars because they are a "special right", and straight people don't "need everyone in the room to have the same sexuality as themselves".

The thing that made this take even more ridiculous is that I heard it from a westerner living in Japan. She talked about how she didn't feel the need to take her Japanese boyfriend to "exclusively heterosexual spaces". The fact that non-heterosexuals are under pressure to keep their sexuality private and thus find it much harder to find partners at work or outside queer spaces had never crossed her mind.

I have my own criticisms about gay bars (especially in Japan) and how they can be incredibly insular and often have very toxic gender norms, but her take was so dumb.

"Being trans is wrong because it hurts the person that's trans since most people are mean to trans people"

I'm a cis bi guy in college, with mostly straight male friends

People have straight up told me they assumed I must be some male-manipulator player who sleeps around a lot. Like they genuinely think people are bi to maximize the amount we get laid?

I told a friend I've only been with one person because I'm only interested in relationships and haven't felt in the headspace for one, and he straight up thought I was kidding

Also, I'm pretty masculine, so a lot of people assume I must be "mostly straight," with maybe a little attraction to femboys. And when I tell them I'm equally into women and gay men, they seem to think that means I probably won't wanna settle down with one person. (imagine if people assumed this for anyone attracted to different ethnicities or hair colors??)

Canceling a renowned opera singer's concert because he looks too gay while he's in your capital city giving the country's one of the most prestigious university's conservatoire students a masterclass.

“‘They’ is never a singular pronoun” from someone who was a high school English teacher no less

• Bisexuals are just greedy
• Had a lightly boozed up and slightly sunburnt cishet white man, finishing his lawn decide to ask me if I'm trans. I told him it's not his business. And he began to talk about his kid (AFAB, and so obviously trans it hurts) questioning that, "but she got over it".

One of my close friends growing up was extremely Christian and literally believed that gay people's bodies were physiologically different than straight people's. He refused to accept that his prostate could offer pleasure to him the same way it might a gay man. Basically, he hated gays so much that he wanted to physically separate himself from the idea of them as much as possible.

Which was great for me surrounded by that as a closeted teen.

Fun fact, he simultaneously believed that being gay was a choice. Not sure how you reconcile those two ideas but I imagine he wasn't thinking too closely about it.

Chuds literally believe your local drag queen is putting estrogen in the water supply to target little Timmy and turn him trans.

"'man' is gender neutral"

"Trans people exist because of the estrogen they give chickens"

• "Asexuals are just looking for attention"

• "People are confusing children by teaching them about gay people"

• "People should only transition at 27"

Hard to pick a highlight but this one always fucks my brain up and I've heard it a handful of times from different people

• "If you've had surgery why do you still disclose? You're not trans any more right?"

[paraphrasing] "people with non-cisheteronormative identities should not bring up their identities to people because it's confusing"

Their lifestyle will affect you, if they get elected.

Cishet here (sorry) but I remember reading a story about how some guy killed and dismembered his dad because he worked for the “woke-controlled government” - and I remember reading it because I was at a bonfire with a bunch of friends who are heads of local public infrastructure/engineering depts who happen to all be lesbian lol 🤷