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Hi my trans siblings!

I'm late writing this mega this week, I had hoped to do more research but maybe I can add stuff and re-write this as the week goes on.

This time I'd like to share some information I stumbled across about 20th century trans icon Charlotte von Mahlsdorf. She was born in the Weimar Republic in 1928 and survived Nazi Germany to make it as the most prominent trans woman that I'm aware of in the DDR (GDR or East Germany). There she ran the GrΓΌnderzeit museum, dedicated to the founding period of the German Empire and the period of its industrialization. The museum ended up becoming a popular hotspot for the gay and I presume trans and queer scene in the DDR.

She was politically active, having been an unofficial informant of the Stasi which ideally I'd love more information on. Was she helping them identify Nazis? Surely being a trans woman would've lured a lot of reactionaries out from behind their masks in her presence. In fact, after the DDR was taken over by the BRD (West Germany) in 1990, it only took about one year before one of the parties she threw at the museum was the target of a neo-Nazi attack, at which point she announced she was considering leaving Germany. She eventually moved to Sweden in 1997, where I believe she lived the rest of her life.

She died of natural causes at the age of 74 during a visit to Berlin in 2002.

This has been more or less a summary of the Wikipedia article on her where I did check some sources, but I really want to learn more about her. I only learned of her in the past couple days, and there is a film about her from 1992 called I Am My Own Woman, by Rosa von Praunheim.

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[–] EstraDoll@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago

sadpostingput off my E shots for like 3 days because i was too busy being a miserable alcoholic to do anything about it and now i feel bad, who could have thunk?

[–] Azarova@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago

Fun fact: Charlotte von Mahlsdorf had a brief cameo as a bartender at a queer club in DEFA's 1989 movie Coming Out, the GDR's film aimed at destigmitizing gay relationships following the sudden reversal of queer policy in the mid 1980s. In that sense, it is a spiritual successor to Magnus Hirschfeld's 1919 silent film Anders als die Andern (Different from the Others).

[–] Shaleesh@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago

Today marks three years nicotine-free.

Never thought I'd get this far.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (2 children)

Dying of natural causes at 74 despite living through nazi germany 1 (1871-1945) and nazi germany 2 (1990-now)! That's a pretty happy ending.

(Well ok dying at all isn't a happy ending but immortality does not exist unfortunately)

The wikipedia article on her has some disgusting framing:

Her life could be described as that of an outsider who survived, no matter the ruling ideology, during the Nazi period, Communist-controlled East Germany

Yeah cause surviving the fucking holocaust and surviving a government that let her run a whole ass museum and gave her a mansion rent-free are the same thing.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago

Libs really are shameless dipshits

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

Yeah NATOpedia really not beating the NATOpedia allegations. I knew it as soon as I saw this sentence in the intro with not a single citation, "The museum became a popular meeting-point for East Berlin’s gay community, to the disapproval of the East German regime (Stasi)."

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

The "regime" disapproved so hard they did basically nothing about it. And even when they were interested in bringing it under government control, they decided otherwise due to resistance from her and community apparently. Who do they think they are listening to their citizens and respecting their wishes? /s

[–] BimboChristmas@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago

Actually, trying to bring this museum under state control was just as bad or worse than being imprisoned for being gay. The state "disapproving" is just as bad legal repression. Anything to make East Germany just as evil as the West.

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (5 children)

botton surgery stuffThe number of transbians Ive been with casually before bottom surgery who have now told me they dont actually like vagina is kind bumming me out 😭, wtf I cant believe the only thing they wanted from me was my dick

[–] lilypad@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

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cant believe the only thing they wanted from me was my dick

Part of me wants to say "wtf??" but tbh I'm not surprised. I'm sorry they only wanted you for that, its a shitty feeling and a shitty way of engaging with a person. Even amongst ourselves we can't stop valuing people strictly for their bodies madeline-sadeline

spoiler stupid vent like, there's this weird thing where some trans women (at least in my world) value dick so much, think a strap isnt as good, devalue vagina-havers ability to be toppy, etc., and its just sadness-abysmal. I know it takes a lot to deconstruct masculinity, especially when its enforced on you against your will, but fucking goddamn people need to deconstruct harder. But we're never taught how to deconstruct our own internal stuff in this culture and its difficult and painful so people dont want to try and dont want to learn (at least, I know I didn't).

spoilerI know!! I couldn't believe it, like of all the people in the world this was the last group Id expect it from. The cis lesbians have been cool at least...

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

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That's tragic. But when people reveal themselves it's better than being misled.

Still kinda crazy to me that a transbian would be so insensitive. You'd expect them to understand bottom dysphoria.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

spoilerKinda gross tbh

[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

Jesus! That's awful.

[–] SuperZutsuki@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

spoilerI'm sorry, that's proper shit. I can't imagine being a lesbian and not loving pussy.

[–] GayTuckerCarlson@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

Ayatollah Khamenei called to say he's really impressed with your latest win in Super Auto Pets. Congrats!

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

Lol I just realized that I wrote "April 27th to April 3rd in the title of this mega. Oops, I fixed it now.

[–] RION@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Random thought leapt into my mind

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Reflexively going to open the door for a girl cause that's how I was raised but she grabs my wrist, gives me a chiding look, and holds it open for me instead

hyperflush

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

spoilerbottom-speak o-oh let me just get that door for y-

top-use-words grabs wrist No, no, no. That's not how this goes. Now be a good girl and let me open this door for you.

bottom-speak whimper

something like this?

[–] RION@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Yes yes yes

spoilerI don't think I would say anything at first, just automatically reach for the handle with a resigned, almost animatronic instinct. Then I would briefly panic when she grabs me before melting into a nervous puddle of confused shame and desire, staring at her with my big sad puppy dog eyes. She looks back with a firm, steely gaze (ringed with compassion, sorrow for the ways I've been made to act) before i rush through the door and proceed to stare at my shoes the rest of the time I'm with her

Ahhahahahaa πŸ˜…

[–] GenderIsOpSec@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

least bottom-y transgirlie catgirl-smug very nice, very nice

[–] RION@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago
[–] JohnBrownsBussy2@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

STI mention (not bad)My partner and I got some STI screenings done. We have been monogamous since going steady, but it was just good to do a routine check. We about both negative (clean).

meow-bounce

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

spoilerThere are more ways than one to catch an sti. It's good to check

[–] Busgirl@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

The vegans here got my ass, I'm stopping eating meat today and eventually moving to veganism.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

Happy to hear it! trans-vegan

[–] XiaCobolt@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago

-be me

-guy at work who is quiet, seems a little odd but harmless

-surprisingly chill about my transition the whole time, no comments, corrects staff who misgender me

-no egg vibes at all

-much later on Facebook see you might be friends with a woman

-shes very beautiful

-shes very clocky

-picture is of her at wedding to the guy at my work

-mutual friend is a trans friend of mine (I'm not friends with him)

-huh dudes rock

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago

I walked past a window today after putting on my favorite outfit and doing my hair up nice and I almost cried. It's been 3 years of hrt almost, and 5 years of social transition. I made it y'all. I didn't just see a woman in the reflection this time, I saw me. I had to keep glancing back, every time I thought I'd be gone, replaced by the unfamiliar image that I usually see, but no. Every time I was there, looking as familiar as when I imagine myself.

It's done, it feels like the hard part is over. At least for me, in this one way, I won. I think it was 10 years ago that I convinced myself I couldn't transition because it was too late or I'd just never be happy with where I'd end up, I couldn't even imagine a path from where I was to anything I'd want to be. Eventually I realized that I'd have to try, but the doubt always remained. But I beat it, I won against it. Not just in battle day but the whole war. I'm here to stay for as long as I've got left, and I'm gonna enjoy the hell out of it.

[–] MeetMeAtTheMovies@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago* (last edited 3 weeks ago) (1 children)

I dunno probably some dysphoria shit or somethingIs there a gender where I want to look cute and feminine but it’s way too much effort and pain and money so instead I’ll just look like a man until I die?

[–] peanutbuttercupola@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

This manifests variously as detransitioner, repper, and boymoder.

[–] MeetMeAtTheMovies@hexbear.net 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

It stands for repressor. Someone who knows or suspects they might be trans but doesn't transition. You can be forced to rep, like if you're in the middle east or something, or you can very obviously have dysphoria but just refuse to listen to anyone about it.

[–] SwitchyandWitchy@hexbear.net 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Iirc a number of middle eastern countries are better on trans rights than many western countries. I know Iran is. Homophobia is very much an issue but I'm pretty sure I'd have an F on my passport and bottom surgery by now if I was Iranian.

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

I've interacted with a number of middle Eastern trans people who have to rep or be honor killed but ok. I am aware Iran specifically respects us transitioning (at least trans women, legitimately unsure about trans men).

[–] RION@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

Came out to my brother, went very very well! Apparently his partner had noticed I've been referring to myself super gender neutrally so they've suspected something is up.

My sister had said she expected him to be super accepting to be contrarian to my mom but he was just cool about it period. Funny that my sister would suspect such a mercenary justification for him being accepting when she herself didn't handle it the best at first.

[–] sodium_nitride@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

Ome thing you learn from HRT opening up your emotional spectrum is that nobody taught me how to regulate my emotions and I feel like a chaotic mess all the time with an inability to have stable views of myself.

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 0 points 4 weeks ago (2 children)

So apparently dating apps have lots of trans women and all of them like other trans women

Im still like 50/50 on if i wanna try out dating apps or not, tbh

Ive heard lots of good experiences but also lots of bad experiences

[–] BountifulEggnog@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 0 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I started using one today and got three matches super quickly, all trans women. I barely used any likes even

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 1 points 4 weeks ago (1 children)

I'm afraid of talking to them though

[–] TerminalEncounter@hexbear.net 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

πŸ˜‘ you both have to like each other in order to talk, surely, how can it be scary when you objectively know you both like each other

[–] Alisu@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

My brain does not work like this, unfortunately

[–] SerialExperimentsGay@hexbear.net 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

Never trust a cissie, not even on hexbear. They will betray you.

[–] inTheShadowOf@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

The fact that he felt this was a good place to repost that transphobic garbage is just wild. Cis "allies" fumble the most simple tests of solidarity.

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 0 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

I spent like an hour addressing 20 letters to my gf this morning, hard boring part done and with some cute forest animal stamps ready the fun part of actually writing them comes up catgirl-heart where I write them. Gonna head to a botanical garden tomorrow for inspiration write it like she's besides me to give a feel how it'll be when we go there together

[–] segfault11@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago (1 children)

copious amounts of writing is the leftist way of expressing love theory-gary

[–] Wmill@hexbear.net 1 points 3 weeks ago

You're always so real you know that crush