And likely a treasure trove of memories that both celebrate their cat and symbolize their relationship once they deal with the worst of their grief and can enjoy the positive feelings again.

[–] UnderpantsWeevil@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago

It's weird to fixate on the eventual death of an elderly cat when you've fully neglected to mourn all the furniture that kitten is going to massacre

[–] eestileib@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago

That look on her face is "I thought you were my gay bestie, what?"

[–] LovableSidekick@lemmy.world 20 points 1 day ago (1 children)

At first glance I honestly thought she looked horrified because he was interrupting her on the toilet.

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[–] Wilco@lemmy.zip 78 points 2 days ago (7 children)

22 years of marriage here. Never bought, given, or worn a diamond in my life.

Marriage rings are a marketing campaign created to sell you a piece of carbon that is so "rare" they put them on $12 drill bit sets.

Yep. Yep. Different quality stones. Gotcha. Interested in buying a bridge by chance?

[–] melfie@lemmy.zip 22 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Carbon is the 4th most abundant element in the galaxy. Silicon is twice as rare, so maybe spend 6 month’s salary on a quartz ring instead? Either that, or save up for a down payment on a house. Nah, who needs a place to live when you can have a hunk of mineral, right?

[–] Sirdubdee@piefed.social 12 points 1 day ago

If I’m spending 6 months salary on silicon, it better at least run Doom.

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[–] panda_abyss@lemmy.ca 194 points 2 days ago (20 children)

the jewelry is the least important thing about being married.

[–] scrubbles@poptalk.scrubbles.tech 61 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I think my spouse and I spent... $80 total on our rings. Seemed like a waste of money to both of us.

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[–] kryptonianCodeMonkey@lemmy.world 39 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Why would it matter if you can't afford jewelry to get married? If this were at a time where the husband is expected to be the sole earner, that could be a problem. But this is 2026. He's working, she's working, and getting married will not change that.

If anything, his and her individual financial burden will decrease by getting married by combining their finances and sharing bills, if they aren't spending stupid money on diamond rings, big weddings, exotic honeymoons, etc. They'll share a home, utilities, online subscriptions, etc. That will save them both money. If they can afford to live individually without luxuries, they can more easily afford to live together, maybe with the occasional luxury.

Stupid take.

[–] EndlessNightmare@reddthat.com 11 points 1 day ago

Thank you.

Marriage is simultaneously promoted because it saves money due to sharing expenses and often (but not always) tax benefits, but also people don't have enough money to get married. Wut?

The ring and wedding itself might be expensive, but they are also optional.

[–] captain_aggravated@sh.itjust.works 4 points 1 day ago

My father took my mother with to pick out her ring. She insisted on a smaller diamond. He wanted to buy her a larger rock, could afford it, but my mama was thinking about running a household. As newlyweds, they added a room to the house, bought a brand new washer/dryer set and paid off a car.

[–] mnfalconia_a2gc@retrolemmy.com 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

A little data point on the whole marriage thing... I and my life partner have been together for 20 y, will be 21 in September. We never got married and we don't have any rings. I keep hearing that a lot of marriages these days don't last this long.

We do informally call each other "my wife", but still, no formal marriage was ever done.

[–] jestho@lemmy.zip 2 points 18 hours ago* (last edited 18 hours ago)

* my partner and I

[–] Soup@lemmy.world 26 points 1 day ago

The only reason marriages lasted longer back in the day was because women were essentially indirectly forced to be with men. The whole bank account thing in the US is a really good example of how screwed women were. There were a lot of very long marriages that were deeply unhappy.

Nowadays, women get at least some amount of freedom to choose their partners and hundreds/thousands of years of men not having to actually be good people has meant that many of us are lonely and blame the women for having some standards. Good communication and mutual respect go a long way and those are the marriages that last these days.

[–] ravelin@slrpnk.net 20 points 1 day ago (3 children)

Too bad they have to divorce when the cat dies.

[–] phx@lemmy.world 16 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Just put the cat in a box with a radioactive substances. Scroedinger's marriage.

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[–] RunawayFixer@lemmy.world 56 points 2 days ago (1 children)

That he can't afford it is a stupid assumption imo, this looks like a deliberate choice. Being responsible for raising and taking care of a kitten together is a much bigger commitment than wearing a ring.

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[–] volore@scribe.disroot.org 91 points 2 days ago (4 children)

Smart. Easier to say 'no' to a shiny rock, hard to say it to a kitten.

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[–] dis_da_mor@anarchist.nexus 64 points 2 days ago (5 children)

noo but they didn't pay a significant amount of money to the diamond industry!!

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