People who got a partner already might be better at getting partners than those without partners
this post was submitted on 09 Jun 2026
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As someone polyamorous, there's definitely something to this. If I already have one partner, I feel more confident in approaching new potential partners. Knowing somebody already cares about you and supports you can go far.
What I don't understand is the cheater mindset - the idea of going after someone behind your partner's back. Especially these days, where people know about polyamory. If your partner's not into it, then you have to make a choice - do you want to be their one and only? Then stick to that promise. If not, then the honorable thing would be to be honest and accept the break up.
cheaters aren't honorable.
you're presumption is that people are not bad people. lots of people are genuinely bad people, and they are only in relationships to exploit, use, and abuse others. and most cheaters have double-standards, the rules of fidelity only apply to their partner, not themselves.
Based on some people I've talked to, I think a lot of it is an inability to have sincere overt intentions.
Damn mate, I just wanna chill relationships, not a competitive matchmaking
then you should have been born on a different planet.
this one is a PvP server
Well there's always single player
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Find someone to date? My wife and I can't even find someone to be a friend with.
Also why? That's like double the amount of chores you have to share and fun places you have to visit.
I've noticed that people flirt with you so much more when you're in a relationship. And from talking with female friends about it, it's about them feeling you're safe because of it. I understand it but don't like it, flirting with someone you know is in a relationship is ficked up. I've never cheated and never will, I've ended friendships because of it (them cheating on their partner). It's just so fucking evil IMO, I'd break really badly if someone ever cheated on me.
Sometimes I jork it with my off hand.
What are you, the jorking connoisseur?
That gives me a great idea for a username...
Not defending cheating but basically use the same skills that got you the first partner.
About why? You gonna have to ask fucking Amanda. One doesn't trip and blows someone off by accident
My skills were swiping on tinder and then getting lucky enough to find someone as awkward and weird as myself. Don't think it's very likely to happen again.
That's very common. In those kinda situations the actually getting in contact part is the hard one
Maybe try it without the mustache... Just saying.
Oh, stache is perfectly fine. It's prolly just that he doesn't put himself in situations to connect with others
yes and, it looks like a prosthetic eyebrow from a 1983 michael dukakis halloween costume got hot glued to his upper lip.
And how should he go about doing that?
You quite literally put yourself in social situations, like in bars, hobby meetups, cafes, etc. and talk to people.
It’s a little easier said than done, but it’s very straightforward.
Sounds ghastly.
Go out on the town, and in the words of Troy McClure: "Get confident, Stupid!"
It might be that mustache that's doing you in buddy.
it's the mustache. you're not distinguished enough to have one. wait until you have a bit of grey and you can try again.
What is it with people in vehicles taking an upward-angled photo of their face? I noticed this in another post where the identity of the person didn't even have anything to do with the content. Is this a new trend or something?
It's easy:
- Find a girl.
- Find another girl.
- Cheat on the first girl with the second girl.
"But Aeon", you say. "that wouldn't count as cheating because I never was with that first girl!"
Well, you are not going to get with that other girl, so it should all balance out or something.
That knife might be a bit off putting, champ.
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And that has what to do with this random smirking 22 yo?
"I opt out of modern social media. I don't like it"
Later
"I don't understand this modern social media shorthand"
Is this supposed to be some kind of contradiction? Am I required to not be annoyed by the most popular type of post now (random person, vague expression, seemingly-unrelated caption)?
Observation. That's all. Your commentary is very "old man yells at cloud"
So be it! I'm not 19 anymore. Sue me I suppose?
He's the one asking the question ig
I'm pretty sure that's just Snapchat.
The other girls only become interested once you finally find someone to date.
There is something to this that is more about social behaviors and filters than 'interested because someone else is interested' as your comment implies.
Dating someone is a sign that the person is able to handle a relationship. Itbisn't a reliable sign, but it is kind of like popularity being contagious. When someone is visibly getting along with people they are more approachable. Same concept.
The other thing is that people in relationships are generally not pursuing new relationships and that is less intimidating for a lot of people. I always had more attention from strangers when I wasn't looking for a relationship whether or not I was in one at the time. Being in a relationship guaranteed I was in that mindset since I prefer monogamy.
So it isn't that they want what others have, but that people are generally more approachable and give off better vibes when in a relationship. Not always of course, but it is a trend.
it's not that complex.
people want what other people want.
if you don't have a toy, and the other kid has a toy, you want that toy. way more than you'd want it if it were lying on the ground and nobody else had it.
I drew the most attention from people who did not know I was in a relationship.
Lies, misogynistic bullshit, and shitting on both yourself and women. Go sit in the corner, think about what you've done.