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[–] atrielienz@lemmy.world 136 points 1 week ago (7 children)

Just out of curiosity, who raised her?

[–] Waterpumpee@lemmus.org 68 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Nurse_Robot@lemmy.world 12 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Considering the daughter has 3 daughters of her own, probably not.

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[–] Captainautism@lemmy.dbzer0.com 32 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Exactly. Parents who complain about their kids behavior…like, did you drop them off with a pack of wolves or did you actually pay attention to them and take time out for them to teach them as opposed to yelling, dictating and insulting them?

Oh wait, maybe that’s just how I was brought up.

[–] wonderingwanderer@sopuli.xyz 6 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Yeah, my parents are still wondering "where did we go wrong," as if they're surprised I turned out to be worthless...

Like, I fought like hell to thrive despite how they raised me, and in the end it came crashing down around me because the psychological conditioning was just too deep set.

And it didn't help that every time I started to get on my feet, they dragged me back down cause I guess it made them feel bad when they saw me start to do well any time I managed to cut them off temporarily. Buy they'd wriggle their way back into my life and start sabotaging everything all over again by talking down to me in strategic ways designed to trigger my ancient complexes and insecurities like only they know how to do...

[–] Captainautism@lemmy.dbzer0.com 7 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (5 children)

I know it’s just words, but try like hell to make a life despite them. I know that with the state of things right now that’s crazy hard to do.

My mom actually got jealous when I finally got a nicer vehicle than she and my dad had. I drove clunkers my entire life until the last 8-9 years and I was proud of my new nice vehicle and she couldn’t even be happy for me. All she could see is that her gay child who escaped the evangelical upbringing was actually living better than she and my father.

The toxicity runs deep in some parents.

Also, you’re not worthless!

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[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 16 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Lol, this is what I tell my wife when she complains about one of our kids. "Guess they weren't brought up right".

For real though....children are humans with independent thoughts and a world of influences. Blaming parents for anything kids do wrong is insane, as if they're little automatons who have been programmed by parents.

[–] atrielienz@lemmy.world 8 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago)

In my family this would have resulted in one parent telling the other parent that "your daughter" wasn't raised right. That's all I'm saying.

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[–] yermaw@sh.itjust.works 82 points 1 week ago
[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 60 points 1 week ago (5 children)

Condiments are the death of refrigerator space. All different sizes, almost never consumed quickly, and they eat up space waiting to be used.

[–] kobra@piefed.social 26 points 1 week ago (3 children)

that's why they have shelves in the doors. also, why is the syrup in the fridge?

[–] Dave@lemmy.nz 34 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

If you look closely, you'll see that syrup is structural, load bearing syrup. That's why it's in the fridge.

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[–] RememberTheApollo_@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (3 children)

Why would you look at this and not understand the door shelves are full too?

Syrup lasts longer in the fridge, particularly real maple syrup. It can get mold growing on it.

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[–] Suck_on_my_Presence@lemmy.world 11 points 1 week ago

I put my condiments in the veggie drawers and my veggies on the shelves, lol. Can more easily see what I still have and if it's going bad. Too many goopy cilantro or zucchini experiences

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[–] False@lemmy.world 50 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Seems fine to me. Taking everything out to put the pizza box on the bottom, then removing it again to take out a slice of pizza is inefficient

[–] adarza@lemmy.ca 25 points 1 week ago

i do the same thing. the leftover pizza will be gone first thing in the morning anyway.

[–] village604@adultswim.fan 34 points 1 week ago (1 children)

That's pretty efficient, though. She's making use of the vertical space.

[–] baldingpudenda@lemmy.world 10 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Spouse got into containers. MAXIMUM space achieved, but now we get to eat leftovers for most of the week

[–] TheLowestStone@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago (2 children)

Try cooking in smaller batches.

[–] baldingpudenda@lemmy.world 9 points 1 week ago

Oh I cook for 2. Spouse cooks like they learned at a 15 person farm. Great for meal prep, not so much for variety

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[–] BeigeAgenda@lemmy.ca 29 points 1 week ago

Gift idea for your daughter

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[–] AdolfSchmitler@lemmy.world 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Haven't we all been there? Not enough room for the box, you're tired and probably going to eat it tomorrow anyway.

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[–] NewNewAugustEast@lemmy.zip 21 points 1 week ago (2 children)

I am not sure what bad taste in pizza has to do with dishwashers, but if my kids bought dominoes I would be upset too.

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[–] agent_nycto@lemmy.world 21 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Why are you ragging on your daughter? It's your fault she doesn't know how to load a dishwasher, and this is a legit pizza strategy. It and the fruit are on top probably because they needed put away quickly. Why are you posting her business on the Internet? If you're infuriated why didn't you reach her how to load a dishwasher? If this is her house, why is any of this your business?

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[–] binux@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Incredible parenting strategy to post your grievances toward her online at her expense instead of communicating openly with her about it.

i wonder why she does not have basic skills

[–] chrisgpz@lemmy.world 19 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (2 children)

I can still hear my Dad.

Short shit on the short shit shelf

Tall shit on the tall shit shelf

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[–] TheReturnOfPEB@reddthat.com 18 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

Weirdly enough I had a similar problem until I took the Washington state food handlers test and certification online. It basically showed me why many of my untrained food storage habits were actually dangerous.

I mean ... I still do that but at least now I know.

[–] farmgineer@nord.pub 7 points 1 week ago

Remember that those are designed to cover asses and cater to people with many different levels of working immune system. You may or may not need to actually be anywhere near that strict in your own home.

[–] LavaPlanet@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 week ago

You know you're telling on yourself right. Parents are supposed to teach their kids these skills, man what have you been doing!! (/s)

[–] abbadon420@sh.itjust.works 18 points 1 week ago

The tighter a fridge is packed, the more will be thrown in the trash

[–] dohpaz42@lemmy.world 18 points 1 week ago

This hurts my heart. If I were to say there was any “failure” (I use that term loosely here), it’s that you obviously deprived your child of the joy that is Tetris.

But, fear not! It’s never too late.

~In case it isn’t obvious, this comment is meant to be lighthearted. Y’all do y’all. 💙~

[–] Dookieman12@piefed.social 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Since you didn't learn from the top comment in your last thread, allow me to repeat it here:

It's your fault, accept the shame and teach her.

[–] MinFapper@startrek.website 19 points 1 week ago (1 children)

As I discovered the hard way with my wife, if someone doesn't care about something, you can't teach them.

You just have to decide if this annoyance is worth putting up with because of other things you love about them.

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[–] Rhaedas@fedia.io 15 points 1 week ago (1 children)
[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 10 points 1 week ago (1 children)

the real test is what happens when you open the door again

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[–] indomara@lemmy.world 13 points 1 week ago (11 children)

Holy shit this thread is full of holier than thou judgy comments!

I have always been the strict one, no phones at the table, no devices in the room. I taught my daughter to cook, the correct way to clean. I taught her manners.

I learned patience and fortitude as I made her do these things over and over again until they were done right, instead of doing them myself.

My daughter has AuDHD, something that can be a reason but that we never let be an excuse. Part of that disability is struggling with executive function, and you know what? More often than not, she does this same shit. Yes, even at 20 years old.

There are times I needed support and wanted to post similar things somewhere just so someone else could bear witness to how fucking hard it is to raise a kid like that right.

When she was 12 I watched her stand at the sink for I shit you not 6 fucking hours doing the dishes for a family of 3. We watched her and took little notes. Here is a one hour excerpt:

1810 - playing with foam and masher

1812 - playing with masher + silicone mixer (red), then just the foam and silicone mixer

1813 - rubs silicone mixer on spatula, then puts the red mixer in the clean. Lightly rubs once on each side of the spatula and calls it cleaned.

1814 - playing with sponge. Holding it upright and squeezing to so runs down arm. Then gets a plate to the surface, and uses sponge to drip water + foam over plate (no direct contact).

1815 - refills sponge, and squeezes over arm again. Then gives 2 circles over the plate in the clean area, and calls it done. Goes back to playing with sponge, picking up foam with it and putting it on another dish.

1816 - sponges hand. Then cleans 1 glass. Picks up 2nd glass, but does a water cycle in it. No sponge action.

1817 - after doing nothing for 30 seconds, sponge stuffed in glass then twisted about gingerly.

1818 - glass with inside sponge twisted put in cleaning part of sink, sponge drained over it. Outside of glass not cleaned. Stands there still for next half minute

1819 - stands there still for first half of minute, gets whisk and whisks about. Drops whisk back in water then walks into lounge room

1820 - walks around lounge room, then plays with sponge

1821 - plays with sponge

1821 - still playing with sponge

1822 - rustles some cutlery after being reminded of being watched, then plays with water

??? - wonders off to get hair tie to put in pony tail. Turned on fan.

1829 - 4 things rinsed. Then looking outside. Then playing with pasta strainer

1830 fills pasta strainer, then lifts to see water fall through it. Holds in front of fan towards face. 5 swipes of the sponge, then plays with fan.

1831 - mentions not getting dessert. After being reminded of being watched, starts to sponge correctly.

1832 - rinses 4 items. Doesn't rinse inside cat bowl.

1833 - handles the pot for a while before touching sponge. Now using pot scraper.

1837 - puts cutlery on clean side even though didn’t clean with sponge. then uses "pot sponge" on cutlery, not regular sponge.

1839 - scoops up foam with large pot spoon, then drops it in.

1841 - now cleans up dinner mess left on table. Out of order on procedure. 1842 - uses sharp side of knife to scrape off cutting board

1843 - confused by used skewers. Puts it down when asked to work it out.

1855 - puts away cleaned knife, then takes another out to look at

1857 - looking intently at finger for a long time.

1859 - using green pot scrubber on plastic containers scratching them

This went on for I am not exaggerating 6 hours. After that I resolved to never judge a parent for not being able to teach their kid something like washing dishes, because for every A type that just fucking does things there is a B type that drives you insane. Most parents give up and just do it themselves.

Now that she's 20 she is doing better, we estimate she is 2-3 years behind her peers when it comes to this sort of maturity and executive functioning. She doesn't take hours to do something, but may take 16 reminders.

Anyway OP, keep fighting the good fight. We all do our best and sometimes a kid just ... Refuses to learn.

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[–] djdarren@piefed.social 10 points 1 week ago

If it fits it sits.

[–] SarahValentine@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 week ago (8 children)
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[–] Mouselemming@sh.itjust.works 9 points 1 week ago

Says the person who's wasting letters writing titles inefficientlylyly

[–] Lucidlethargy@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 week ago (3 children)

It's okay, the only thing worse than a hot dominoes pizza is day old, refrigerated Domino's pizza.

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[–] SkyezOpen@lemmy.world 7 points 1 week ago

What was expected here? Take all the shit out of the fridge, put the pizza box in the bottom, then stack it all on top again to make it look neat? Maybe I'm a slob but I see no world where this isn't the play unless there's only like 2 slices that can fit in tupperware or a bag.

[–] AwesomeLowlander@sh.itjust.works 7 points 1 week ago (1 children)

I mean, this looks pretty similar to the dishwasher setup, so idk why you're surprised / appalled 😊

In all seriousness though, I wouldn't place the pizza at the bottom either. It's the most likely to be grabbed next and finished first.

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[–] Baaron87@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago (3 children)

I know the feeling. Both of my parents do stuff like this and it drives me crazy. I’ve had to clean out the fridge/freezer multiple times and have found so much food that went bad.

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[–] elephantium@lemmy.world 6 points 1 week ago

Fridge Tetris. Ugh

[–] Dookieman12@piefed.social 6 points 1 week ago* (last edited 1 week ago) (1 children)

A fridge full of condiments and no food. Why don't you throw out some of those (probably expired) jars of goop so there's room for leftovers?

You're right, I'm getting side tracked; let's keep the conversation about your daughter. Maybe you should have a talk with who raised her?

Edit: just saw your linked post about the dishwasher. Wow dude. Two years and you're bitching to the internet instead of raising your children. I hope you're looking forward to sitting in that nursing home wondering why the kids never call.

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