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Inspired by a recent thread. This question might be triggering, so be careful. For me, even imagining these sounds is mildly upsetting.

Basically, which noises immediately ruin your day? For me it's mostly sudden loud sounds, in order of most awful descending:

Tap for sounds

  • Unmuffled compression brakes (when trucks or buses stop and go BANG)
  • Smoke detector / emergency alarms
  • Emergency services sirens
  • Balloons popping
  • Car horns / honking
  • Angle grinders
  • People practically smashing plates while violently washing dishes
  • Vacuum cleaners or other power tools
  • Yelling / screaming
  • Alarm clocks

Surprisingly I don't seem to hate "commonly hated" sounds like: nails on chalkboard, tinnitus, knife on plate, styrofoam rubbing, microphone feedback, babies crying, chewing, snoring, flies, repetitive tapping, dog barking.

Once, I went to a birthday party where the parents let their kid jump on the balloons and pop them one by one on purpose. I had to leave immediately.

If I wear earmuffs, it basically solves the issue. So I'm careful and on the lookout for situations that could make these sounds. I cover my ears with my hands if I don't have them on me.

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[–] BenLeMan@lemmy.world 3 points 11 hours ago

Tiny pebble caught under the door being dragged over a stone floor. Like chalk on blackboard, just way worse.

People chewing and swallowing.

[–] Kojichan@lemmy.world 1 points 12 hours ago* (last edited 12 hours ago)

Construction equipment (both personal and industrial) freaks me out so badly I become a blubbering mess.

Loud vibrations caused by large vehicles is another. The low rumbling of the vehicle, the low bumping bass from the loud music... or grating of metal scraping across cement... nightmare city.

And, when someone raises their voice. Whether out of personal frustration or otherwise. But I suppose anger venting either with or without moving things noisily as well.

[–] Strider@lemmy.world 5 points 21 hours ago

Loud, erratic noises. Sudden loud laughter. Building noise. (unnecessarily) loud car. People talking at different volumes.

Everything destroys the flow in my head.

[–] AceFuzzLord@lemmy.zip 3 points 19 hours ago

Anything really high pitch and loud. Terrible combo for me. So suqeaky breaks are a no go. Also, whenever I get random ringing in my ears, it's annoying as all bet. But it's even worse the very rare time it goes on for extended periods of time.

[–] ZMonster@lemmy.world 3 points 22 hours ago

Knocking on doors. Small children screaming. Default, uninterrupted, and lengthy ringtones on a boomers phone as they stare at the screen like a mole seeing the sun for the first time.

[–] Coelacanth@feddit.nu 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
  1. Babies crying.
  2. Children shouting/chattering/being noisy
  3. Screeching of cutlery against a plate.
  4. Screeching of chalk against a blackboard.
  5. The dull throbbing sound of friction when something semi-moist rubs against glass, like when cleaning windows under certain conditions for example.
  6. Certain people's chewing noises (it is very person-dependant, some I don't even think about and some almost send me into meltdown).
  7. Most phone alerts.
  8. Irregular snoring.
[–] ExcessShiv@lemmy.dbzer0.com 3 points 1 day ago

Snoring of any kind makes me intensely furious. I want to smash their face repeatedly with a hammer while screaming at them to shut the fuck up. Same goes for loud chewing, doesn't even have to be open-mouthed.

[–] Lexam@lemmy.world 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

My own voice. But not in the I hate my voice type of way. Ever been on a phone call where you are being echoed? That disruption voice phenomenon. I hate that.

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Agreed! I become incapable of speaking and just get horribly confused. You reminded me though, Benn Jordan did an interesting video on this concept.

[–] ExcessShiv@lemmy.dbzer0.com 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Any form of expanded polystyrene rubbing/scratching against something. It is physically painful for me to listen to.

Touching EPS induces the same response in me.

Any type of felt-tip marker on paper is also extremely stressful and unpleasant for me.

If there is a hell, there are screaming babies and leafblowers everywhere.

[–] Yuki@kutsuya.dev 4 points 1 day ago

The sound of people eating or screaming kids. Also loud scooters. And don't even get me started on people who call on speaker in public...

[–] Kolanaki@pawb.social 7 points 1 day ago

High-pitched whines.

Like coil whine on a GPU or sometimes flourecent lighting fixtures.

[–] CADmonkey@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

Phones that keep ringing.

Stuff being dropped in a quiet room.

Loud vehicle exhausts (this has become more annoying as I've started driving an ev.)

Dogs that keep barking for hours.

[–] HoodieGyaru@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 23 hours ago

When 2 pieces of styrofoam rub on each other. Just imagining it makes me feel unpleasant.

Chalk on chalkboards and some pencils are horrible. Also high-pitched drills, like dentists' drills. That one might be linked to trauma.

[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The best thing about misophonia and tinnitus is the most annoying sounds just stop registering...

If just thinking of the sound is uncomfortable for you tho, that's not misophonia.

That's an actual physical reaction to a sound, you can't trigger by thinking of a sound or even making it yourself, just like you can't tickle yourself.

Since it's not misophonia, you're going to have to look into exposure therapy if/when you get tired of headphones/muffs. If you're being vigilant about the sounds like you say, you're only making it worse.

But In my past experience with clients, everyone that tried to treat muffs as a permanent solution ended up using them more and more instead, to the point they just wore them all the time.

Tolerating shit you don't like is a skill, and if you don't practice you get worse over time. Very easy to fall into a feedback loop where you avoid more and more.

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 0 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Never heard of misophonia so I looked it up:

Misophonia is an extreme emotional and physical response to seemingly innocuous, repetitive sounds like chewing, lip-smacking, and even breathing.

It doesn't sound quite right, since it's more to do with the loudness of any sound, especially if it's sudden, rather than specific sounds. I think just loud sounds are overwhelming for me, and it causes me distress. I attributed it to autism sensory issues. Even just being in a loud room is very uncomfortable, but somewhat tolerable.

I don't see a specific need to expose myself to torture to "toughen up", so to speak. I wear earmuffs about 20% of the day, taking them off and putting them on as needed. If I experience too much loud sounds, I end up with extremely bad migraines and am unwell for days. Before I bought the earmuffs, this condition never improved, so I'm not sure exposure therapy would ever help in my instance.

Thanks for the advice though, I'm sure it might help somebody out there.

[–] givesomefucks@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I don’t see a specific need to expose myself to torture to “toughen up”, so to speak

Cool, that's not what exposure therapy is, and not what anyone suggested though...

Can lead a horse to water...

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 1 points 1 day ago

Just to clarify any misunderstanding, I wasn't saying exposure therapy as a treatment in general is "torture yourself until you get used to it". I was (poorly, apparently) trying to say that I'm hesitant to deliberately increase exposure to sounds that cause me significant physical symptoms, especially since pushing through them can lead me with migraines for days.

I understand exposure therapy is usually gradual and controlled, and I'm sure it helps many people. My concern is that this seems more like sensory overload from sudden loud sounds, rather than fear or anxiety around specific sounds.

I genuinely appreciate the suggestion, I just don't think it's necessarily the right approach for my specific situation.

[–] Marty_TF@lemmy.zip 5 points 1 day ago

screetching chalk/cutlery over chalkboards/plates

[–] tacotroubles@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago

Hook and Loop straps. It makes my jaw hurt and my teeth buzz?. Like why?

[–] Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Any sound can be, if it's played through in-ear earphones. It can even be made worse when played through low quality/cheap/older generation ones. It's like getting stabbed in the ear by a screwdriver. It will automatically trigger fight or flight effect and i need to get those out.

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I also cannot use in-ear earphones, but because it feels really unnatural. I hate earbuds and earplugs too. Nothing goes in my ear holes 👂 ❌

[–] Shellofbiomatter@lemmus.org 2 points 1 day ago

Yeah, earpuds as well. Though not earplugs, so just playing sound in or too close to the ear canal rather than something in it. Earplugs are just uncomfortable, but I'm wearing those only after night shift so tired enough not to notice it.

[–] TabbsTheBat@pawb.social 4 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ripping paper, the beeps of cash registers, clocks, lawn movers, and power tools and vacuums as well

I mean, I honestly could keep going for a while =w=

[–] Coelacanth@feddit.nu 3 points 1 day ago

I forgot cash registers, that one is up there for sure.

[–] redlemace@lemmy.world 4 points 1 day ago

High speed motors..... the vacuum cleaner, server fans etc

[–] heliotrope@retrofed.com 3 points 1 day ago

Velcro and, in the words of OP, people practically smashing plates while violently washing dishes.

I am also quite sensitive to shouting, but it's less of an "urrgh that's awful" and more of an "I need to leave right now before someone gets hurt" deal.

[–] Ribbons@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Coughing, and strangely enough, the sound of a drink pouring into a glass. Like, imagine the over exaggerated glug glug glug you'd hear as foley work in a show or radio ad. The coughing I can explain easily but the pouring is baffling even to me but it just pisses me off to no end.

[–] Blackfeathr@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago

I have misophonia very bad and my triggers are many things like: gum popping, gum smacking, foot tapping, loud atonal whistling, and pretty much any noise emitted by humans that is completely unnecessary and just exists to make noise.

Also the first alarm default (I think it's called Morning or Sunshine or something) on Android phones because of a coworker I used to have that would have that alarm set to check her blood sugar and when it would go off, she would just ignore it and for 20 minutes or more it would just keep going LOUDLY and NONSTOP.

My coworker now has this same alarm that goes off every time breaks start and he does not know (or doesn't care) to completely shut it off, he just snoozes it so it keeps going off every ten minutes.

Mildly upsetting or startling sounds are slamming doors and yelling, due to PTSD.

[–] Broadfern@lemmy.world 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)
  • High pitched brass/string instruments

  • Corrugated cardboard rubbing against itself

  • Dull non-mechanical pencils on paper

  • Machine guns/explosions (war-heavy video games come to mind)

  • Ads. I can’t explain it but just ads, period.

That’s off top of my head but I could probably come up with 20 more lol

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Oh yeah ads are horrible…

Actually, a pro tip I discovered years ago, when live TV was the thing, and you had so so many unskippable ads. Either cut the sound or the visuals. Mute the TV during ad breaks is the easiest solution, it makes it much less overwhelming (buy now buy now buy now!!!). If you can't do that, try closing your eyes. I found that reducing sensory input by 50% really made it much more tolerable!

[–] ZERONOVABLOSSOM@sh.itjust.works 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Balloon popping, thunder, fireworks, and gunshots are up there for me. Anything sudden and loud really but those in particular I’m vigilant of. Can’t really watch live action movies because of it, at least not in theatres. Requires a lot of pausing a scene, pacing around a bit before unpausing or just letting it play while I stim until it’s over. I’m more prone to unhealthy stims with noises like this.

Open mouth chewing or people with powerful jaws chewing is uncomfortable. Power chewing makes me feel like I’m going to get eaten. My hair stands on end and I get really fight or flighty. As a kid peers would chew in my face since I was so reactive to it and that definitely made it worse. I’ve given someone a black eye from aggressively spasming when they did it to tease me playfully so its one of those disclaimers I’m pretty quick to spout off from the “Don’t do this or we will guaranteed have a bad time” list.

Otherwise random noises can be highly upsetting for no reason I can discern then be completely fine later.

I also need to know what caused a sound and will openly question where it came from until I figure it out or someone tells me. I wouldn’t say it’s an irritating experience, more of maybe… somewhere in the realm of mild to moderate curiousity and anxiety.

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 1 points 1 day ago

Yeah I have my own share of unhealthy stims for stressful situations… also seconded for having to know what caused a noise. Thankfully I'm pretty good at identifying sounds at this point, but the occasional investigation still occurs

[–] minty@aussie.zone 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Rubbing carpet. I can basically taste it I hate it so much lol. If i need to rub something out of the carpet I need to put on headphones

[–] Zarobi@aussie.zone 1 points 1 day ago

Ok, I forgot about this one. Seconded to "tasting" bad textures. It's like I hate the texture of cheap carpet so much, I feel it with my entire body when I touch / hear it. The feeling of scraping your socks by accident on carpet… it's so dry and horrible. I just get someone else to do the carpet rubbing lol

Nice carpet I don't have this problem though, only the cheap stuff