JillyB

Having a calorie deficit is the only way to lose weight. Everybody knows that. Exercise actually burns very few calories. There are many other health benefits to exercising but weight loss isn't really one of them.

In my experience, a calorie deficit is much easier if you eat better foods, rather than try to eat smaller portions of unhealthy foods. More fiber keeps you feeling full for longer. Find ways to incorporate lots more vegetables in your diet. I keep apples around for when I want a snack. I make bean tacos instead of chorizo (maybe I'll mix a little chorizo in), etc. Find sauces and ways to spice up veggies. Don't worry if your sauces and dressings are the most healthy. Just getting the vegetables is the most important.

Also cut back on drinking of you do that a lot. Lots more calories in alcohol than people realize.

Yep. Fascism is notoriously difficult to define. I was effectively a socialist for years before I looked into it and realized my ideals already had a label.

Not really. His base will excuse authoritarian power grabs, blatantly racist policies, sexual assault, etc but this one might be the one that breaks him. The Q-anon stuff was all about a bunch of elite politicians having secret pedophile rings. They thought Trump was sent by God to expose that. The phrase "Epstein didn't kill himself" is probably more unifying than any flag. Pam Bondi made a big deal about releasing the Epstein files. His base was frothing at the mouth to finally let the world know. With the administration's sudden course shift, even his supporters are wanting answers.

"The South will rise again" folks were right. They just had a much longer timeline than we imagined.

I use mint that I haven't updated in years because one time I tried and it failed so I stopped trying. It's my old work Thinkpad that I now use exclusively to run weekly events. It's old and heavy and I needed a more lightweight OS than windows.

Brics is basically an alignment against the west, rather than for something. Each of the members has ambitions that are, at best, completely different from one another, and in some cases, contradictory. It reminds me of the cold war era non-aligned movement.

I've had one as my main bike for over a year. I'm not sure what your needs are but here are my thoughts:

• It's generally well suited for everyday city life. I rode mine through the winter and never washed it. The belt doesnt care.
• The gear range is great unless you have steep hills.
• Weirdly, the fork doesn't have the mounting hole at the bottom for a fender, but it does have one at the top. I use their recommended fenders with the Velcro straps and they've been great.
• Be sure to practice taking the wheels off. The gear cable attaches at the back in a weird way and you have to disconnect that to take the wheel off. Make sure you know how to do it.
• The hub really doesn't want you to peddle while you shift. If you do, it will feel like you shifted just fine and then a few seconds later your drivetrain will jolt as it actually gets into where it's supposed it.
• They say you can't use a front rack but it has all the mounting points for one. I suspect this is because tightening a bolt too hard on the carbon fork crown could cause safety issues. I have a rack there anyway and it's been fine.
• The hub has a sprag clutch which means it doesn't click. It's truly silent while pedaling and coasting.
• The rear sprocket is a Gates Surefit. This requires a special tool to take on and off. I had to buy one off Italian eBay. Your bike shop almost certainly won't have one.
• The bike is pretty heavy. Not that big a deal for most things but it is what it is.
• I've changed the oil once but otherwise never messed with the drivetrain. It's very low maintenance

My follow up questions:

1. Do unhealthy food options lead to obesity, or do lifestyles drive demand for food options (or some mix of the two)?
2. Regarding the income relationship: does income drive lifestyle or are unhealthy foods cheaper to offer?

I personally believe the first option in both of these questions, though I'd love to see some formal research on it.

I live in Chicago and this city feels so full of energy in the summer. There are constant festivals, events, people are hosting cookouts, everyone's outside. It feels like a constant party. You pay for it in the winter though.

I lived most of my life in South Carolina. Last year, I made the mistake of visiting SC in the summer. I had to say no to so many plans in Chicago and leave beautiful weather to visit the hottest, muggiest, no-wind-est place on earth. In Columbia, SC the pride festival is held in October because if it was held in June, people would just die. I told my friends and family that they visit me during the summer and I'll be around for the holidays.

I want this read at my funeral

So true. Hope you've been able to make some more deep connections with people who aren't crazy. Thanks for giving me the space to vent about this.

You did the right thing too. I hope you've made some new friends since all that. I've cut off the one friend and had to distance myself from other friends that enabled him. You invited both of us to your birthday party? Guess I'm not going. The good news is that this has pushed me to value my friends that aren't crazy and make more deep connections with new people. I hope you were able to make the same shift.

Tangent: I swear the best way to break down the narratives around trans people is to just make casual friends with a trans person. You naturally want to respect your friends and see them as normal people and then all the talk about bathrooms, grooming, etc just seem so silly. Years ago I felt like the bathroom arguments held water. Then I watched my trans friend just walk into the bathroom and it seemed like such a non-issue after that. Now she's one of my best friends.