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Hai everybody! :3
We haven't been around much lately, but we've missed you all <3
As much as we enjoy talking about electromagnetism and the like, we're really feeling trans joy as the theme for this mega post. And we'd love to hear some of the things that have brought you all some joy lately (without doxxing yourselves of course).
Something that is bringing us a lot of joy right now is seeing the local trans community finding each other and making joy for ourselves. They're planning events, going out, finding love and friendship, and refusing to allow our circumstances prevent us from enjoying life and having fun as much as possible. And we're part of it! We've been doing the same! And it doesn't just make this life tolerable in the face of all the bad stuff happening, it's making this life beautiful and filled with love and happiness.
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self hate ig
My true self is so toxic to be around. Like once I feel safe whining about my shit I do it too much and everyone must hate me for it. So annoying. Little wonder I'm not close to anyone anymore. If I feel okay talking about my feelings and problems you just hear the most negative, doomer shit and I never get better. So why would anyone want to listen or stick around. So I've been trying not to message people it.spoiler
Ive heard similar from like foster kids but usually its kind of a way to deal with feelings of abandonment and depression for them? That's just the place I wouldve heard it from the most, but youre not alone to feel that way as an adult obviously.You can vent. Your "true self" whatever that might be is shown by things like actions, not the ruminations and passing thoughts you may have. Look at your actions over the last couple years - you are quick to console others and show a lot of tenderness and care, youre very considerate (for example with appropriate spoilers etc), you act optimistically and competently and take forward strides even when youre unsure and anxious (like with DIY HRT), you came out to trusted people, theres a lot of actions that show your "true self" is actually a caring and resilient and tender young woman who is taking her own destiny into her hands. Now, the cognitive distortion for why you don't necessarily feel that you are is obviously getting in the way. Maybe its the pace, maybe its just not connecting to your subconscious maybe whatever.
It does sound like you dont particularly like having these doomer spirals and doomer ruminations. And I hope you find a way to break out of those. But if you want to vent and get things off your chest, its not a burden on others. I definitely would say you do not have a "toxic" true self though.
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Thank you terminal.I'm sensitive to abandonment too, funny you bring that up.
My true self is also my darkest feelings, fears, doubts, etc. That's all true- not sure if I act optimisticly though. Hrt is a desperate attempt to not feel like shit. Same with coming out. It's not optimism, it's desperately flailing around to try and help.
I don't like it, I mean obviously it feels like shit, but it's not possible for me to avoid. It is actually hopeless and I do actually hate life. I am ruined, not going to be happy, social shit, you know all of it already.
I don't know what else makes sense for why everyone has left me. I open up, talk about it, and then they get frustrated and leave. Some of them I know have gotten frustrated or burnt out with me. Like, weird that the couple of friends I don't talk about my feelings with are still friends with me but everyone I talk to about this stuff is gone.
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I have OCD and one of the ways you deal with it is a very zen style thing - you have thoughts, you have doubts, you have fears, you have anxieties. But they aren't you. They are clouds, you are the mountain, the clouds come and go and you remain.Its a different way of thinking of your self but I like it! Its kinda dialectical materialist-esque? You aren't mere ideas or passing thoughts, whatever you really are/your true self is what comes closer to defining that is how you act and what you do. You have dark thoughts, doubts, fears, anxieties - but who is eggnog? I see her as a resilient, strong, compassionate, tender, giving woman who has had to deal with a whole of bullshit. She has some dark thoughts and anxieties and fears just like me but how she acts is how she comes across to me.
I wish you had had better friends, though. It is sad to open up to people and share something intense and then for them to leave. Now, I can't say they left because you opened up (I wasn't there) but its sad whether they did or did not.