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[–] mystik@lemmy.world 164 points 1 month ago (10 children)

There is an ongoing attempt to create an equivalence of Trans Persons (and anyone exposing youth to LGBTQ+ ideas in any form, including loving families) to pedophiles through CONSTANT repetition, despite any lack of widespread evidence. There is also a simultaneous attempt to strongly advocate for death penalty for pedophiles. I'm sure you can see where this is heading ......

[–] Ioughttamow@fedia.io 43 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Mass purge of the Republican Party and owner class?

[–] Captainautism@lemmy.dbzer0.com 34 points 1 month ago (2 children)

Only if justice was class blind, but it’s not.

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[–] tiefling@lemmy.blahaj.zone 91 points 1 month ago (5 children)

Transphobes aren't using logic. They try to brand us as pedophiles to try to get rational people on their side and to normalize hate, but it's a distraction. We're obviously not pedos.

It also serves dual purpose because most transphobes look up to politicians who are literal pedos

[–] Gradually_Adjusting@lemmy.world 16 points 1 month ago

Yuuup. Ten times out of ten it's a republican politician who needs to "think of the children" a lot less.

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[–] missingno@fedia.io 68 points 1 month ago

This is how propaganda works. Take something you want people to hate, and insist that it is equivalent to something people already hate.

[–] Transcendant@lemmy.world 38 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It's very basic 'think of the children' rhetoric.

Our emotions are more easily manipulated in this way, because generally people are hard wired to protect babies and children.

So by associating trans people with paedophiles, right wingers are able to more easily hijack into what would otherwise be rational people. It also makes it more difficult to debate against because nobody wants to be labelled as someone who wants to hurt kids.

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[–] lone_faerie@lemmy.blahaj.zone 33 points 1 month ago

As you said, most people hate pedophiles. So by constantly labeling trans people as pedophiles, transphobes are trying to get most people to hate us.

[–] merthyr1831@lemmy.ml 32 points 1 month ago

most paedophiles are cis men. Cis women paedophiles absolutely dwarf paedophiles trans people even when accounting for population.

It turns out, people who violate others don't need to go through years of doctor's visits and dehumanizing bureaucracy to breach someone's boundaries.

It's just the same fascist projection repeated ad nauseum because it works. You immediately have to go on the defensive and tiptoe around the taboo subject of paedophilia instead of actually challenging their assumptions. Anything less gets you accused of accepting child abuse, which is just the first step repeated again. By the time you've even addressed the claims, anyone worth reaching out to has logged off and the fascists have inched closer to the levers of the state.

It never was about paedophilia, or rape, or abuse, or sports. It's about exploiting emotions and appealing to a constructed idea of "common sense" that can tie you up in its endless tendrils so they can ignore you and dehumanise you more efficiently.

[–] SnotFlickerman@lemmy.blahaj.zone 28 points 1 month ago

Projection.

[–] yesman@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Even little babies know the difference between mommy and daddy. The shift in attitude that's required to reform transphobia (I know) means digging into the basement of how you think of yourself and the people you love. This is threatening, it's scary.

For the conservative, a trans person should not exist. It contradicts the 'natural' hierarchy or is a rebellion against God. So their must be an alternative motive: sexual perversion. So you connect the dots between "scary" and "sexually deviant" and pedophile is the natural result.

Calling a trans person a sexual threat soothes the dissonance by shifting the identity "trans" into something where the repulsion and fear make sense. Pedophilia is a box where you can put people whom you fear and hate them actively without the need to examine your own motivations or ever, ever have to look at it from a trans perspective.

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[–] ZILtoid1991@lemmy.world 21 points 1 month ago

Pure propaganda.

Just before I left the right, some people admitted it was a "noble lie", to uphold male supremacy, as if one is able to change their gender why should they even stay in highly abusive relationships.

Of course true believers will eat up the "protect the children" line, but the opportunists just want be able to beat their wives into a bloody bulb, who will still love them after all of that, they just want a stronger "cisheteronormativity".

[–] d00phy@lemmy.world 20 points 1 month ago

It’s actually a very simple ploy they’ve used since before I was born (I’m not young). Anything they can paint as sexual, or that actually is out of the sexual “norm,” they will use as a scapegoat. They used it against blacks (coming after their white women), gays, and now trans. Pedophilia and rape are the two Worst Things, and if they can tie the Bad Guy du jour, that equals fear-votes. The best kind of right wing votes in all the land.

[–] Yerbouti@sh.itjust.works 20 points 1 month ago

Well considering they elected Epstein's closest friend (yeah it's on tape), I would'nt try to make sens out of this. They need to hate people, they usually pick the easiest target aka minorities.

[–] earphone843@sh.itjust.works 19 points 1 month ago

Because children are almost always used as an excuse for hating something you don't really understand. They're a group that can't speak for themselves, so it's easy to frame everything as "think of the children".

[–] pineapplelover@lemm.ee 18 points 4 weeks ago

Everybody hates pedophiles, so by calling [insert group here], pedophiles then you get most people to hate you.

[–] psion1369@lemmy.world 17 points 1 month ago

People were once told that if you wore the clothes of the opposite sex, you were a pervert. If you wanted to be the other sex, you were a sexual deviant. And people who have no experience outside of these views TOLD to them find out there are people out there like that, they are perverted deviants who must be doing other deviant things to. That's how people connect the two. False logic and correlation based on ignorance.

[–] Maeve@kbin.earth 16 points 1 month ago

Projection and prejudice, probably.

[–] JackbyDev@programming.dev 15 points 1 month ago* (last edited 4 weeks ago) (1 children)

Your mistake is believing that everyone is acting logically or in good faith.

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[–] Mnemnosyne@sh.itjust.works 15 points 4 weeks ago

Since at least the 1970s and probably much earlier, any and all non-heterosexual people have been painted as pedophiles by right wing / conservatives.

Indeed, a lot of the pedophile panic these days is driven by those people, because it is one of the few things they can get everyone to hate, and that hate often shuts down nuance and reason, and while real pedophiles are a problem, they want to expand that unthinking hate, that knee jerk 'burn the heretic' reaction to more people.

This is the reason we now see people attacking even completely fictional media, because they're trying as hard as possible to slippery slope it.

[–] someguy3@lemmy.world 14 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

They took all the lessons learned from the satanic panic and the gay panic and applied them to the next target.

[–] letsgo@lemm.ee 14 points 1 month ago

As someone who used to, although with gay not trans people, I believed that gay people were sexual deviants and that society accepting them would then go on to accept paedos, and that accepting deviancy was the problem that should be stopped.

Contrary to what others have posted I didn't conflate gay people with paedos, or label the two groups as equivalent, except in that I thought they were both deviant.

[–] fsxylo@sh.itjust.works 13 points 1 month ago

Because to them it's all weird sex shit.

Just like everyone not Christian "worships Satan"

[–] MataVatnik@lemmy.world 13 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Transgender people often (wrongly) get their gender identity conflated with their sexuality. Transphobes already have a visceral reaction to a transgender person, so those feelings automatically extend to how they see a transgender person's sexuality. And as others have mentioned they may be projecting their own perversions on other people. They have an unhealthy view of sexuality in general, which may be the origin for their transphobia aswell.

When I came out to my mother as transgender she had a hard time dealing with it. She seemed to have a weird fixation with my sexuality and sexual orientation whenever I tried to educate her on the subject, even after I explained to her that sexuality and sexual orientation is not related to my transgender identity.

My mom has always been a prude when it came to raising her boys and constantly would police our vocabulary and sexual jokes. But she had no issues making jokes and comments about my sexuality when I came out to her as a transgender woman. So I can only assume she had unresolved issues with the way she sees sexuality in a way that it makes her uncomfortable and she was projecting her own perversions and unhealthy view of sexuality onto my transgender identity. Because to her why else would I transition if not for my sexual perversions, since that's the only way she can see world.

On a side note, ever since I started my transition I pretty much stopped watching porn all together. I masturbate less and my mind isn't constantly fixated on sex and I'm able to experience the world through a much healthier lense. When I'm attracted to someone now, I'm not distracted by my sexual impulses as much and I'm much better able to connect with them as a person. So in short, embracing my transgender identity has dramatically decreased my uncontrolled sexual impulses. So when people paint us as some sort of deviant perverts, it's actually quite the opposite and nothing could be further from the truth. Not to mention, our sexuality is only a sliver of our transgender identity and we don't care for strangers making it a focus.

[–] needthosepylons@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (3 children)

95% because they're basically nazis.

puts on prof hat

Well, in some countries, there was indeed historical link between sexual/gender minorities and pedophile advocacy movements (well "movements" is kind of a strong word here) during the 1950s to 1980s. It's hard for us to understand today, but during my studies, I've worked on that topic and met a few people invested in creating or dismantling this link.

But :

  1. It didn't last for long.
  2. That's certainly not what they have in mind.
  3. Most importantly, although public and documented cases exist, those minor parts of the LGBT movements were CERTAINLY NOT the strongest allies of the pedophile advocacy movement. Their strongest allies were actually well.. more probably from the ruling class.
[–] Tinidril@midwest.social 7 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Anyone can be a pedophile, regardless of other characteristics. The major champions of actual sexual abuse of minors today are politically right wing. Compare age-of-consent laws in red states to blue, or advocacy/performance of child marriages, and a pattern appears.

The conflation of evidence-based methods of sexual education with "sexualizing children" is a bald faced attempt to make kids more vulnerable. Kids trained in the importance of consent are far less likely to keep quiet when dealing with an abuser.

I would not concede, as you have here, that there was ever any appreciable link between trans advocacy and sexual abuse advocacy. The fact that some people somewhere advocated for both is true of any movement of sufficient size.

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[–] Chefdano3@lemm.ee 12 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I think a lot of it comes from thought correlation traps that people easily fall into. The path goes as such

Guys, going into girls bathrooms are creepy sex perverts. -> Guys pretending to be girls going into girls bathrooms are even creepier sex perverts. -> Pedophiles are the creepiest of sex perverts -> Trans people are creepy pedophiles

It's all baseless assumption and bias, and full of logical fallacy's but an incredibly easy train of thought that follows normalized cultural perceptions for decades. That's why people get stuck on those issues, when it really shouldn't be a big deal at all.

[–] bitjunkie@lemmy.world 7 points 1 month ago

baseless

incredibly easy

The two criteria for whether a MAGA hat can be wrapped around a concept

[–] otp@sh.itjust.works 12 points 1 month ago

FWIW, this was the same thing that homophobes were doing to gay people.

It's not based in evidence or logic.

Could be that phenomenon (illusory correlation?) where there are a few rare examples of someone who is [sexual minority aka. gay/trans] is also a pedophile, and that particular example of a crime becomes prolific...but the general population doesn't have any experience with [sexual minority] people. So they assume that being [sexual minority] means you also have pedophilic tendencies because that's the only connection they know thanks to that prolific crime.

[–] TheBananaKing@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago

Apart from concerted sociopolitical efforts to make an underclass that can be harmed at will and blamed for everything, there's a couple of less deliberately malicious explanation for a lot of people.

1: Category violation -> perversion -> predator -> monster.

2: I don't think it's real -> they are lying -> why would they lie about gender -> to lull people into a false sense of security -> predator -> monster

Both are of course incredibly false and hateful, and both of course are pushed maliciously and cynically by many, but I think some people are actually taken in by one or other of these.

[–] LordWiggle@lemmy.world 12 points 1 month ago

It's just to alienate and villainize the people they don't like. Image someone as criminal and disgusting and other people will grow the same feeling. It's what, Trump does too, with immigrants and trans people. Hitler did the same with jews. Spreading hate 101.

[–] hungryphrog@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

Because 'protecting the children' is really effective, as most people want to protect children, especially their own.

Here's how I think it goes for a lot of people:

1: never have actually interacted with trans people

2: the first time you are introduced to trans people is a transphobic friend or pastor or podcast host or whoever. I believe it's most effective if the person is someone you trust, especially in a position of authority.

3: they tell you trans people are evil wicked perverts, and since you trust this person and have never heard of this before, you believe it. And besides, who doesn't want to protect children? Evil wicked perverts, that's who, and you are not an evil wicked pervert are you? (Personally, I theorise that people are most likely to believe and keep believing whoever happens to be the first person to tell them about a certain subject.)

4: chances are, this leads to you isolating yourself from anyone who could prove you this isn't true. If you somehow became friends with a trans person, you might understand that maybe they are not evil wicked perverts, but since your first reaction to learning someone is trans would be aggression, this is very unlikely to happen. (You could compare this to how cults isolate their members from people outside the cult to prevent them from encountering different perspectives that could change their mind.)

So, long story short: propaganda.

[–] sun_is_ra@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

when most trans people (as do most people) hate pedophiles.

People do not choose to be pedophiles just like gay people do not choose to be gay.

Its the way your brain is wired and hating people because of something out of their control force them into the shadows, prevent them from getting the help they need and make the problem much worse.

As long as a pedophile doesn't not commit a crime by acting on their desires, they don't deserve to be hated

[–] amino@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago)

hard pill to swallow, but anyone allowing pedophiles to be treated as an underclass is part of falling for anti-queer propaganda and equating being weird with being dangerous to society. if someone has a weird paraphilia that isn't forced on someone else who can't consent then it's nobody's business. the only way to eliminate uncomfortable attractions is thought police or installing a chip in everyone's brains.

it's why queer spaces turn fashy as soon as the furries, the neopronouns and the trans man lesbians aren't welcome anymore

[–] PeachMan@lemmy.world 10 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Because trans people are different, and they're afraid of different people. So they make assumptions that those people are somehow dangerous. Racism, xenophobia, transphobia; it's all the same stupid mentality.

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[–] xmunk@sh.itjust.works 10 points 1 month ago

It's just bigotry and there is no logic.

[–] nicknonya@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 month ago

if you believe that sex and gender are synonymous and assigned at birth then someone who doesn't like their gender becomes a walking contradiction.
any person with a healthy relationship to having their worldview challenged would see that and think "hey maybe i was taught wrong"

unfortunately for everyone on earth conservatives define themselves by thinking that what they were taught is the rightiest thing ever actually so that doesn't happen

as for why pedophiles specifically, they're a group of people who are so thoroughly hated any and all violence against them is 'justified'

[–] magnetosphere@fedia.io 8 points 1 month ago

To transphobes, ANY acceptance of trans folks is too much acceptance. So, they try and spread propaganda that’s awful and scary. Unfortunately, enough ignorant people will believe it. When dealing with the general public, you almost can’t have a reasonable discussion on the topic without pedophilia coming up. The subject is complex enough, and this further muddies the waters, which is what transphobes want. Even though it’s been debunked, there’s now an association in some people’s minds between transsexuals and pedophilia.

Eventually people will laugh at this idea, and look at it the way we look at tragic paranoia like the Salem witch trials. Sadly, that won’t happen soon enough to help the people whose rights are being violated right now.

[–] AllHailTheSheep@sh.itjust.works 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

projection, mostly. they can't imagine being in a women's space without taking advantage of it, and they don't understand that that's a them issue.

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[–] HatchetHaro@pawb.social 7 points 1 month ago

most people already (unfairly) brand pedophiles as monsters, and so placing trans people into the same category as pedophiles is a way of alienating trans people from the "regular folk", marking them as the same "monsters" as "pedophiles".

to clarify on the "unfairly": pedophilia is a paraphilic disorder (a paraphilia (a subjectively "atypical" fetish) that, when satisfied, may bring harm to others), not a crime; attraction is not sexual assault.

[–] SurfinBird@lemmy.ca 7 points 1 month ago

Can’t call em Nazis, so that’s the next worst thing on the list.

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