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imagine if someone just like started addressing you as Dipshit, like youre just talking about your day & they say "no way Dipshit, that's crazy." and then maybe you say to them that you would prefer not to be addressed as Dipshit & their response is "well in my major metropolitan area 'Dipshit' is not considered an insult. im not saying i think youre stupid when i call you Dipshit, i call my mom dipshit all the time" so you say Thats cool but please dont call Me that. and then they just repeat that it's something they say daily, they call all of their best friends & lovers dipshits & are called dipshit in return. "my grandma calls me dipshit at the dinner table, it doesnt mean anything." so you say Yes i understand that your friends & grandma arent bothered by being called Dipshit but i am, & i would prefer if you didnt address me as that. and they say "it's literally not possible for me to stop calling you dipshit, and it's not reasonable for you to ask me to, dipshit." anyway this post is about nothing in particular

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[–] Apytele@sh.itjust.works 13 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 7 hours ago)

one more report and I'm locking this whole mf thread

I understand this is a controversial topic but y'all need to behave your damn selves

The basics are:

  • This is fundamentally a discussion about hurtful language, including slurs. I don't mind them being mentioned / referenced (in fact I would argue it's important to talk about them), but I'm not going to tolerate them being directed at people. This is y'alls final warning on that. I've removed some comments already but after this I'm just going to start handing out bans.
  • I know there's alternate interfaces for Lemmy, but on the basic version I'm familiar with, under each comment there is a button on the left end of the bar of buttons with three dots and a little arrow indicating additional options. If you press it, you will find that you have the option to "block" other users. This function will make it so that you no longer have to see anything they post or interact with them. This is a fantastic feature that I highly recommend utilizing in the event that someone says something you find upsetting that does not break the rules of this comm or instance.

Please review this educational material for additional instruction if you are still having difficulty with these concepts.

[–] VerbFlow@lemmy.world 3 points 4 hours ago

"Is it possible to learn this allegory?"

"Not from the Daily Wire."

[–] RedSnt@feddit.dk 18 points 8 hours ago (1 children)

This is obviously about Australians calling their mates "cunts".

[–] aeternum@lemmy.blahaj.zone 0 points 4 hours ago

hey cunt!

[–] GaMEChld@lemmy.world 2 points 5 hours ago

Shuddap you fundark.

[–] CloudheartTV@lemmy.zip 7 points 8 hours ago

I thought this was a post about the overuse of “dude”

[–] NeonNight@lemm.ee 27 points 16 hours ago (6 children)

I’m personally kind of reminded of how “faggot” and “dyke” are being “taken back” and used jokingly/sarcastically, but I still get really uncomfortable if someone uses them with me. They’ll say “oh I don’t mean it offensively!” But it’s not really up to you to decide what’s offending another person or not.

[–] Squizzy@lemmy.world 1 points 25 minutes ago (1 children)

Whats removed? I have no idea what this post is about.

[–] CurlyChopz@lemmy.world 1 points 13 minutes ago

A bundle of sticks

[–] Taleya@aussie.zone 12 points 9 hours ago

I once had someone tell me very very earnestly that the word Queer - a word I literally marched under in protest - was the worst most horrible slur ever, then turn around and use fruit.

Baby comm members need naptime methinks

[–] thisisnotgoingwell@programming.dev 5 points 12 hours ago (1 children)

I grew up with those words being common and I hope they don't come back in any form. They're very damaging even to straight males. But I'm sure as long as there's a counter culture they won't go away.

Case in point, I've been getting really into Latin dance, taking group classes, taking private classes, etc. the people that I see dance that look amazing are having a lot of fun with the dance and the music, the body movements, everything. When I try to move a certain way with my hips there's this fucking voice in my head that's snickering saying "gay" and if I can get out of my own fucking head and just feel the music, feel myself and connect with who I'm dancing with I have a great time and I get a lot of compliments. I hate that even when I know it's wrong and even completely illogical the fear of being perceived as feminine or weak is something that I have to struggle with on a personal level.

[–] Xenny@lemmy.world 3 points 8 hours ago

I've been transitioning for 10 years and these thoughts still haunt me sometimes 🙃

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[–] DefinitelyNotAnAlien@lemmy.ml 19 points 18 hours ago (6 children)

It’s like when I lived in Miami and everyone called me “gringo” or “flaco.” When I asked them to stop they would say it was endearing. But imagine if I called them “removed” or “fatty” what their reaction would be.

[–] Snowclone@lemmy.world -3 points 4 hours ago

I assume you mean Gordo and not gringo. Gringo for anyone interested literally means Greek, and in Spanish it is slang for anyone who doesn't speak Spanish. It's really not an insult, at least in US Spanish there we offensive terms for white people, so. There's that. But I know people really freak out about ''Gordo'' and it really isn't like calling fatty, it's a lot more like calling someone Bubba. Bubba isn't a slur, it's southern slang meaning bubble, and it's for people who have roundness. They don't even have to be tubby. We called my youngest brother Gordo and Goose. Idk why Goose. But Gordo was because he was a fat baby. He's in his 30s now, tall, pretty muscular, in the military. Still call him Gordo. No one calls me flaco anymore. They don't call me Gordo either. I think I'm too fat... they call me papi, because I look a lot like my grandfather now and that's what we called him.

[–] thisisnotgoingwell@programming.dev 3 points 12 hours ago

I mean it's very common for fat men to be nicknamed "gordo" ie fatty. Of course it's ignorant but definitely not meant offensively.

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[–] NickwithaC@lemmy.world 20 points 18 hours ago

New response if TERFism:

"Ok dipshit"

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