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For me Its quite simple. My brain decided it. Literally. The days I found out I'm trans, my brain would do this weird thing, where I could think about completely different stuff and suddenly my now chosen name would "fly" into my mental Field of View, like an asteroid in star wars or so. I told that name a close friend and 4 weeks later when we went to the club together I told him, that I will stick with it, because I didnt had a better idea (and it was the only name I really felt comfortable with).

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[–] Nikki@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 14 hours ago

swapnote girl is adorable and always stuck with me

[–] yoriaiko@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 15 hours ago (1 children)

Video game player, thru many (mmo)rpg genre, had to make many fantasy names. Went known thru most common one, then picked some irl name that was similar. (not related to my lemmy username).

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 1 hour ago

So many names to pick from there, if i go that route. At least 40+ unique ones

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 16 hours ago* (last edited 16 hours ago)

Codsworth from fo4 could say certain prerecorded pc names. Thus, I found out i preferred the name Assface

I used it since I was 13 on IRC ""catfishing"", well it was not catfishing actually, it was me expressing how I wanted to live, but I didn't realised at that time. Then, I came out at 27 and remembered those days and rescued the name.

[–] Kattail_@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 23 hours ago

I went "im a cat, i wanna be called Kat, what names start like that..." and liked Katrina

[–] kittenzrulz123@lemmy.blahaj.zone 6 points 23 hours ago

I just took my birth name, shortened it and that happens to be gender neutral. Then I expanded it but the female version of the name.

[–] PurpleStephyr@lemmy.blahaj.zone 3 points 20 hours ago

I removed the last 2 letters from my deadname

[–] will_steal_your_username@lemmy.blahaj.zone 43 points 1 day ago (2 children)

I just kept asking people if I may have their names and they kept giving them to me

Username checks out

I was lucky enough that my Mom has told me what I would have been named if I had been born a girl. I haven't come out as non-binary to her, but the knowledge is still lovely.

[–] Spacehooks@reddthat.com 18 points 1 day ago

read a cute reddit story where person asked mom to rename after transition.

[–] IndieSpren@lemmy.blahaj.zone 18 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

I kept my name. It's unisex, and a search of it on LinkedIn actually shows like a 70-30 split of female to male respectively. I'm comfortable with it and used to it and, living in the US rn, I don't want to deal with all the name change issues.

[–] hovercat@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Ayy, samesies. I love my name, and like you said, it's a very common female name. There's also a certain sense of power that comes from being un-deadnameable.

[–] knightly@pawb.social 6 points 1 day ago

My government name is 99% masc, but I only hear it at work and it isn't worth the hassle of changing it. All my mates and friends just call me "Cat".

[–] Arkhive@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago

It’s sort of the femme version of my given name. There’s a lot of history in my family with that name that I do appreciate and value and want to feel connected to. I did a bunch of research into the names and language of where my family originated and found my new name and instantly fell in love with it. I remember sobbing after writing it down for the first time.

[–] enemyofsun@lemmy.blahaj.zone 23 points 1 day ago (1 children)

I was thinking about Satan on my walk and figured that "Lucy" is short for "Lucifer", and then was like "Lucy actually sounds pretty nice..."

I returned home and told about it with my friend (also trans) and she was like "wow so cool!!!!!" so I went with it. That's it :3

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[–] Sasha@lemmy.blahaj.zone 22 points 1 day ago (1 children)
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[–] Nikko882@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (2 children)

It's a character from Attack on Titan. Iirc the character is called Sasha and she gets shouted at for eating a potato during a military drill. Her response is to offer the drill sergeant part of the potato. (Been a while since I watched AoT)

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[–] MossyFeathers@pawb.social 7 points 1 day ago

My "furname" was because I wanted something soft and creature-ish. My IRL chosen name (Petrichor/Petroglyph/Petra) was because again, I wanted something kinda creature-ish but could be shortened to something feminine.

I'm kinda jealous of a friend of mine tho. Her chosen name (Coral) is literally 10/10 and kinda fits her perfectly >.>

[–] katja@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago

That honestly took me over 6 months. I tried a number of names on for size, but none felt quite right. The ones that felt right were in use by close family or friends. The one I really wanted is used by both my ex-wifes, so that would've been weird for the kids even if they're not kids anymore.

It was much easier picking out names for the kids actually. Otherwise I followed the advice I got to take a name that is sorta common in my age group so I went through all the lists multiple times until I decided. I now officially have a girl's name, even if I'm nowhere near passing. It isn't as bad in my country as in many others and I must say it went a lot better than I expected, but I'm still proud of myself. 😊

[–] knightly@pawb.social 8 points 1 day ago

My partners have been calling me "Cat" for years 'cuz my fursona is feline. If I wanted to go through the hassle of changing my government name that's the one I'd pick, but I'd spell it with a 'k'.

[–] ArtemisimetrA@lemm.ee 3 points 1 day ago

I played too much Hades and am obsessed with the moon and am tomboyish and socially awkward

It came to me in English class when I was 17. At the time I was unsure of why I became attached to the name. A few years later I realised why (and that it was a cliche, but I was attached at that point). I let my parents pick my middle name so they could have some say in naming me.

[–] Lux@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago

I made a list of (mostly bad) names and made a poll with my friends to see which one didn't suck

[–] CyberEgg@discuss.tchncs.de 16 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I'm not sure I qualify for this (relevant username) but I do have two names I think about using if I ever crack my shell. One is just a name I always liked and one is part of an online pseudonym I used a long time (and that I still use sometimes) that has a totally different backstory, can be used kinda androgynously but is mostly used by women with one noticeable exception.

And no one is stopping anyone from choosing more than one name.

[–] ncc21166@lemmy.blahaj.zone 7 points 1 day ago

I started making a big list with checkboxes on it. I added things like nicknames and "boymode" nicknames where they applied. Then I went down the list and checked off the ones I didn't really like that much. Then I started saying them out loud one night, and my spouse would just say "no" to them and those were checked off the list. I have two left, now. I'm still open to suggestions from others, and I am asking people when I come out if they have suggestions. The hard part is that both of the names I like are either my spouse's initials or my mother's, and I can't stand my mother. One day I'll make the choice final, but I'm trying one of them out now. The clinic and hospital network I use has a field in my profile for "preferred name" and they actually use it, so it's in there for now.

[–] ElfBean@fedia.io 12 points 1 day ago

For a while when I was a kid I wondered what my name would be if I chose it myself and that was the only one that felt like it fit. Totally forgot about it until after my egg shattered and realized that it's gender-neutral and I really like the cutesy nickname/diminutive forms

[–] Smorty@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 1 day ago (1 children)

i didn pick my name......,,,,.,,,,..,.,.,. nt yet.., ;(

[–] princessnorah@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (3 children)

That doesn't have to be something you need to be sad about Smorty! Look at it this way, you've got a world of opportunity ahead of you for what you can pick! It's such an exciting and fun time figuring out what name suits you best, what feels most comfy! That's !!!! super exciting !!!!!

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I was chatting about names with my wife and she suggested it. Tried it out, it fit, and now I'm legally stuck with it :3

[–] AntiBullyRanger@ani.social 1 points 21 hours ago
[–] x4740N@lemm.ee 4 points 1 day ago

I just used the feminine variant of my deadname

[–] Zero22xx@lemmy.blahaj.zone 8 points 1 day ago (3 children)

I wish I could come up with another name. For some reason, it just feels weird and almost wrong to name myself. That isn't judgement against people who have chosen their own names, it's my own awful hangups and I wish I had the confidence to pick something for myself and own it. So I guess I need a group of friends that know me and can help me pick one.

My real name is gendered af. And even before this awakening, I disliked it because everywhere I go, there'll always be other people with the same name as me. It's like my parents' generation just had no fucking imagination or originality. And it's people being named basic shit that leads to all of the Tragedeighs in the next generation as over compensation.

I just haven't found a name I'd like to use, but my irl name is at least 98% male. Part of the problem is my name was chosen to be really similar to my non-birth-mom's name and I like that. At least there are some spellings that are used by females, even if those are uncommon, but the pronunciation doesn't change at all and I've used such as a in-game name before egg cracked. My name is relatively common from my generation. Not super-common, but also I was in a classroom once with like 5 students and three of us shared the name. Been over three years tho and still not even an inkling of an idea for alternatives.

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[–] Caitlyynn@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago

I new my name 7 years before I new I was trans, I already ordered stuff on that name and my whole online persona was built around it. I even named my cat that. Even before I was out to myself I listened to that name way better than my dead name.

[–] phr@discuss.tchncs.de 12 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

i have no strong opinions on names. most probably i'll buy an -e and put it at the end. :)

Baby Name gen

[–] JadeSleeps@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

I am not a the type of girl who is into gem/crystals but for some reason I just liked this particular name stuck in my brain when ever I was looking up crystal meanings cus I was really bored one day and wanted to understand what the hype around crystals was (still don't really understand it but at least I got a name out of it).

[–] oftheair@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] 2xsaiko@discuss.tchncs.de 7 points 1 day ago

It’s a name that I saw online a handful of times and always thought was incredibly cool. Then came across it again recently trying to pick a name, while I was looking through related names, and it immediately became a top candidate. And it also works well in both German and English which is also something I wanted.

It was my FFXIV character's name first.

[–] Zorsith@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

Still very much pre-transition so idk if i will change my name in the future. Already go by the shortened version of my name, and its pretty neutral/unisex in the shortened form, so... shrug

I had priorities and did research. I had rules I decided from the beginning. It took months to decide I even changed my mind a on somethings at the last minute

  1. Initials I needed something to match my initials. That only changed slightly when I decided to make sure I didn't have my sperm donors last name.

  2. I needed my name to come from a similar part of the globe historically. I think nowadays I'd have done the same thing for different reasons. When I first made this rule I'd done it to respect my sperm donor despite everything. Then later on I kept it because I had already decided on this and it filtered out thousands of names. If I had to name myself today, this rule would mean that my name comes from the same area as my siblings, which honestly means it doesn't stand out.

  3. I needed the meaning of my name to matter. And I wanted something I'd always agree with. Personally I feel like I fucked up here. At the time I was extremely angry at my father and part of my name reflects that. Nowadays I wish I had picked something that embodied myself and wasn't just an insult towards someone else. I don't hate it but I feel like if I had gotten a second opinion I'd have gone with my other choice for a middle name.

  4. It needed you sound a certain way, I needed saying first into middle to sound good. Not hard when they're from the same region but that's not always the case.

I think with this I only struggled to choose between 4-5 names and was going to put the number 2 or 3 pick as a middle name it worked out well for me. I think if I hadn't gotten pissed off during the time before I legally changed my name I'd definitely have a different middle name though.

[–] Tamsin@lemmy.blahaj.zone 2 points 1 day ago

It’s a female version of my birth name, it can be shortened to Tam which is fun, plus I think it sounds cute.

Now if only I were able to actually use it, sigh…

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