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[–] cupcakezealot@piefed.blahaj.zone 1 points 29 minutes ago

oh no i hope a top doesn't start a battle with me and pin me to the floor

[–] NotASharkInAManSuit@lemmy.world 15 points 21 hours ago
[–] merc@sh.itjust.works 8 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

He's right, in politics the top just pounds the bottom, over and over again. In civil society, unions sometimes change the dynamic. The bottom is more confident and learns to wield their power, sometimes that even gives them the power to control the top. The top might never stop trying to fuck the bottom, but with the right rules in place, it can still be a happy ending for the bottom.

[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 4 points 20 hours ago (1 children)

Ironically, the best tops are so good because they pay attention to the pleasure and well being of their bottoms.

[–] merc@sh.itjust.works 4 points 10 hours ago

Pleasure? I'm not sure what you're talking about. I'm talking politics.

[–] Art3mis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 9 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zone 12 points 22 hours ago (1 children)

Top/bottom exists even in cishet relationships, it's just that people assume men are the top and women are the bottom. Letting go of this assumption would improve the sex lives of many.

[–] Art3mis@lemmy.blahaj.zone 1 points 9 hours ago* (last edited 9 hours ago) (2 children)

What? Girl, im a poly trans power bottom. Its just a funny

I figured, but so is pointing out that cishets could have way more fun if they weren't so afraid of being "gay"

[–] zikzak025@lemmy.world 85 points 1 day ago
[–] crunchy@lemmy.dbzer0.com 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)
[–] sem@piefed.blahaj.zone 2 points 21 hours ago

Is this the video games live fraudster?

[–] prole@lemmy.blahaj.zone 53 points 1 day ago

We all know that it's possible to generate a tremendous amount of power from the bottom

[–] Quokka@quokk.au 27 points 1 day ago (2 children)

The left supports the bottom and the right supports the top.

[–] huquad@lemmy.ml 23 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Maybe in the rest of world, but in the US we have far right, and diet right. No true left outside of a few specific politicians

[–] Feathercrown@lemmy.world 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Well... yes. In America the diet right supports the top, and the far right supports the top even harder. The 3 actual leftists support the bottom. So it's still true.

Same in Canada too. Everyone thinks we're WAY better then we are.

[–] GraniteM@lemmy.world 12 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Sure, but he's talking to Texas voters. Enough of them think of Republican and Christian as fundamentally bonded parts of their identity that it's going to be a real job getting them to vote in a way that will actually serve their interests.

If a person thinks "I am a Republican," it's not enough to just suggest that maybe they ought to change their allegiance. You've got to give them a pathway to consider a compromise so that you can show them a better way.

Of course, if he gets elected and then either he or the Democratic Party don't actually deliver, they'll have truly screwed the pooch, even more than they currently have.

[–] jorymo@lemmy.world 3 points 13 hours ago

Yeah, I'm Texan and what he said makes a lot more sense in that context. My Trump-voter parents have voiced outright leftist views, but despise the same views given different wording. Like you mentioned, I think a lot of folks treat political affiliation as a team sport tied to their identity more than the sum of their actual beliefs.

Like I'm sure plenty of people think of themselves as Republicans because of the idea of Republicans being no-nonsense, fiscally responsible, patriots and then just support various policies based on their chosen team, instead of putting their views first and their label second. I think plenty could - as long as you avoid certain trigger words - see logically that social programs are good and helpful. Again, you've got to be careful to avoid phrases ingrained in them as signs of weak, whiny, God-hating, flag-burning Liberals, but I think only the most hardheaded and entrenched self-proclaimed conservatives would argue against things like food banks and firefighters

[–] Instigate@aussie.zone 3 points 1 day ago

The truth is that winning elections in a country without mandatory voting isn’t about shifting those rusted-on voters - it’s about getting those who don’t usually vote to step up and do so. A certain percentage will just ALWAYS vote their respective party, because they lack any sense of reflection that would be required to make a genuinely considered choice.

[–] vzqq@lemmy.blahaj.zone 15 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Fuck fascists, even poor ones.

[–] BeardededSquidward@lemmy.blahaj.zone 5 points 1 day ago (1 children)

What people who say the only war that matters is the class one seem to forget is that there is a strong contingent of reactionaries that would fight and die for the wealthy. They're as just as much the enemy and shouldn't be given succor.

[–] Swedneck@discuss.tchncs.de 1 points 7 hours ago (1 children)
[–] JillyB@beehaw.org 2 points 6 hours ago

I hardly know her!

[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 19 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Can I have a turn being a top please?

[–] CptOblivius@lemmy.world 13 points 1 day ago (1 children)

That is why it still exists. Everyone doesn't want to tax the top for the very small chance they get there. Spoiler they won't and will suffer because of it.

[–] cRazi_man@europe.pub 15 points 1 day ago

I'm not a bottom. I'm a temporarily embarrassed top.

[–] JoMiran@lemmy.ml 18 points 1 day ago (2 children)

Untrue. They often come together.

[–] grrgyle@slrpnk.net 2 points 8 hours ago

Power wise it's accurate, but yeah, the "left" here is fundamentally opposed to there even being a top.

It's more accurate if you're just thinking of the mindless "my team / your team" of political theatre that many people are pawns in. So in that sense it's maybe a useful picture for people who don't really think deeply about politics.

[–] Kn1ghtDigital@lemmy.zip 8 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Came here for this comment.

Edit: I'm sorry.

[–] svcg@lemmy.blahaj.zone 11 points 1 day ago

I tried being a top once, but it really wasn't for me.

[–] someguy3@lemmy.world 9 points 1 day ago

Everyone thinks they're a temporarily embarrassed non-top.

[–] nialv7@lemmy.world 14 points 1 day ago
[–] libre_warrior@lemmy.ml 7 points 1 day ago

I like bottom politics

[–] Diplomjodler3@lemmy.world 7 points 1 day ago

These days I judge people pretty much exclusively on how much of a grip on reality they have. That seems to be the only true dividing line.

[–] untorquer@quokk.au 6 points 1 day ago

Time to bottom the tops.